Transgenderism is Holy

[transman-focus]

Learn about me and this blog below 👇

About Blog

This is @t4t-lover’s blog with a focus on trans men. I hope to reblog and post trans male related art, trans male related poetry, trans male related social justice discussions, trans male related resources, and trans male related positivity.

About Me

I am Hamish, or “Mish” for short. I am a transgender man and I use he / him promouns exclusively. I am 24. I am white and I am located in the midwest United States. I am bisexual. I am in a polyamorous relationship with a wonderful trans women. I was raised as a Christian and am now a Hellenistic Pagan. You can learn more about me at @t4t-lover.

Who can follow?

I encourage anyone who wants to follow this blog to do so, including non-trans male trans people and cis people. I will state however that I will not stand for transphobia, radical feminism, transmedicalism, or transandrophobia truthers (the belief that transadrophobia is a real issue). I will also not put up with anyone who only talks about transphobia that trans men face at the expense of trans women.

How can you interact with me or my blog?

You can ask questions or seek advice in my direct messages or in my ask box (anon or not). If you think what you are asking advice about is something that would benefit others or if you’d like input from people other than me consider using the ask box. You can send me posts you think would fit this blog (especially if you or your friend crafted them and you want them to reach a wider audience). You can ask me to tag something either as a trigger tag or for ease of navigation. You can alert me that I interacted with a user or content that harms someone or is generally problematic. You can request I bring attention to a similarly themed blog (especially if it highlights issues faced by trans women). You can share stories or feelings in my ask box regarding trans manhood. If you are transgender you can send me your latest donation post and I will reblog it.

What I Believe

You don’t have to agree with me on every point here to follow or interact, but I know it can be helpful to know where I’m coming from.

Transmisogyny is a useful term whereas transandrophobia is not. Transmisogyny exists to describe a specific experience at the intersection of two oppressive spheres, transphobia and misogyny. Transandrophobia does not accomplish what transmisogyny does because androphobia is not a coherent oppressive system in the way misogyny is. Men are never oppressed on the basis of being men. I believe that if trans men want to talk about transphobia specific to their experience that the word transphobia or phrase “transphobia against trans men” are perfectly adequate tools.

Regardless of their relationship to womanhood or manhood all trans people should be able to comfortably use words and terms like misogyny, internalized misogyny, and toxic masculinity to describe their own experiences as they see fit.

While there is nothing wrong with doing whatever it takes for you to personally navigate trans healthcare and medical transition it should be known that the medicalization of the transgender experience is antithetical to trans liberation. Someone’s experience, or lack-thereof, with dysphoria or medical transition is entirely their own business and has no bearing on whether or not they are trans.

While passing is not the goal for all trans people, the concept of passing is important for many trans people to communicate aspects of their mental health and proximity to danger.

Nonbinary people who identify as transgender are transgender, and that includes nonbinary people with atypical traditionally non-gendered identities like stargender, various xenogenders, various neurogenders, and so on.

Not wanting to label your gendered experience and collecting various micro-labels for your gender experience are both fine places to be.

People who identify with cultural genders aren’t inherently transgender or nonbinary, and whether or not they chose to also identify with the transgender community is up to them.

Trans men are capable of perpetuating misogyny towards all women. Trans men are capable of perpetuating transmisogyny towards trans women. Trans men are capable of perpetuating nonbinary erasure. Cis women are capable of perpetuating transphobia. White trans people are capable or weaponizing white fragility against people of color.

Trans men don't have full access to male privilege but men of color, same gender attracted men, and disabled men don't either.

Trans men being proud of their manhood is a good thing. Trans people being proud of their orientation or lack thereof is also good, even when that orientation is straight. Trans men have the right to be proud of ways in which they both conform to masculine gendered norms and their gender-nonconformity.

Trans cuspers, or trans people who identify their opposite gender attraction as being gay, hurt no one and have their own reasons for doing so.

TERFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists) comprise a violent hate group. TERFs do weaponize radical feminism to harm trans men in unique ways, but the primary target of TERFs is always trans women, and they pose the biggest threat towards trans women. TERFs are also capable of weaponizing radical feminism against both cis women and cis men (especially when they are people of color, intersex, lower class, or have a history with trauma). While it’s okay for all groups to talk about our experiences with TERFs we should never forget that their main goal is to push trans women out of safe spaces and out of the society.

Trans men are always men and trans women are always women in every situation.

We will never experience complete trans liberation while capitalism, patriarchy, and white supremacy thrive.

[sweatermuppet]

the dysphoria diagnosis exists to soothe the cisgender fear that anyone—even themselves—could be trans

[transman-focus]

@ anon, I saw your ask and I am trying to think of the best way to answer. I may not answer until tomorrow.

[auvtre]

david, commission. 2019

i am aware that this piece of mine has been re-posted a thousand times, but now you can re-blog it from the original artist! :~D

edit: since people asked you can now get a print of this here!

[candiedgrim-blog]

These things started growing during puberty and I've been trying to break them off since. (or: vent art about being trans and having dysphoria)

[sweatermuppet]

TRANSSEXUALS HAVE GOT TO GET MEANER !

as a shirt + click for better quality

[transmisogyny-explained]

“Transmisandry/Transandrophobia Truther” Blocklist

I intentionally try to avoid these circles, so I’m certain there’s plenty of URLs I’ve missed. Feel free to add on.

@man-loving-dyke

@nothorses

@cock-dealer

@transgentleman-luke

@bisexualdykery

@anti-transphobia

@bastard-to-bastard

@satanic-big-tiddied-transgoat

@danphanto

@mage-propaganda

@hannibiscannibis

@miraculouslumination

@intersexfairy

@cashmere-stardust

@mylifeas-iseeit

@untableflip

@amillsiancatalog

@vaspider

@themotherforkingsparrow

@acidmatze

@tigerinkangel

@joseph-lavode

@blakedbeans

@angeryspice

@experimentalbeing

@sarcasticsabreur

@fallowearth

@evergardenwall

@jaspicosmer

@asterosian

@matador-of-autism

@maidenofghosts

@keelan-666

@raw-bean

@deinacrida-weta

@shinas-spicy-chicken-leg

@evilprivilegedgncbrowntransman

@bigenderdragon

@fakeboism

@tylenol-milk-tranny

@ughwhyislifelikethis

@guided-to-madness

@commonghost

@susspirria

@trans-stuff

@transmascissues

@w-0-r-n-n

@morphocollective

@secretkeepersystem

@rebornfromsea

@the-highest-warlock

@boymph

@archiveofstupidtakes

@beartofry

@thequeer-quill

@sevdoesnotexist

@transandrophobia-teacher

[transmisogyny-explained]

Also, I tried to only add people associated with the racist, transmisogynist followings of nothorses, dead-dyke, anarchistluke, etc., but if you see someone on here who isn’t in those circles, please let me know so I can remove them.

[transmisogyny-explained]

Update with more URLs

@fluxphage

@yharnamsnewslug

[transmisogyny-explained]

Update: I mistakenly added @mage-propaganda to this list, they are not a part of this group

Also, I would hope that my followers wouldn’t need reminding of this, but please remember that this list’s purpose is to avoid interacting with transmisogynists. DO NOT send anyone on this list hateful messages in any form.

[transmisogyny-explained]

Update: @intersexfairy was also added mistakenly as they no longer associate with the main circle.

[transmisogyny-explained]

A few more (again, please let me know if I’ve made any mistakes)

@curiouscarnifex

@starfox6664

@transfaguette

@h4wk-spirit

@chickensalad

@springfieldfields

@whitehairedanimeboyfriend

@transmasc-pirate

@monarchofthecrows

@anonymous-frogz

@illegalxalien

@unicornlamps

@hussyknee

@spite-and-waffles

@transagendas

@sailorcore

@thereddestofsons

@kisserofwounds

@lesboqueer

[transmisogyny-explained]

Reblog the updated version

[pseudomantis]

My brother telling his girlfriend that one of his friends is trans and her immediately asking 'AMAB or AFAB?' is still the most haunting thing ever to me we should've never let cis people learn these terms

[meatsnail]

its my gender and i get to pick the appropriate times to misgender myself for comedic purposes

[meatsnail]

i beg you all please stop hiding these in the tags

[feeshies]

the best advice i have for any trans dudes out there who are feeling shitty/dysphoric about not being able to achieve believable masculinity is to just....look at guys.

close out of social media, close out of those "gender envy" photosets, purge the idealized 6'2 chiseled abs square jaw image of peak masculinity out of your mind and just look at real men in your daily life.

i will always be under 6 ft. but you know who else will also always be under 6 ft? the delivery guy who dropped off a package at my office today. he was the same height as me.

sometimes my voice can sound high pitched. but you know who also has a high pitched voice? the guy who stood in front of me at the sandwich shop.

my facial hair is patchy. but you know who also has patchy facial hair? like....so many men. especially men who only just started growing facial hair like me.

there are dudes everywhere, and there are plenty of dudes who have features like yours who won't immediately get clocked as "not cis".

when your scope begins and ends at the media you consume, or the images you see plastered on screens or on magazine covers, you're going to get a warped understanding of what's expected of you, and you're always going to fall short if you make that your only criteria for transitioning "properly".

transitioning is second puberty. and just like how cis teenage girls need to stop comparing themselves to photoshopped runway models and cis teenage boys need to stop comparing themselves to the covers of fitness magazines, you also need to stop comparing yourself to unrealistic standards in much the same way.

however you decide to define masculinity for yourself or however masculinity happens to look for you, there's a man out there who also fits that description.

you're transitioning fine.

(note: i'm writing this about trans men bc that's the only perspective i know. but if any trans women have any perspectives they'd like to share, i'd love to hear it)

[snoopyisbisexual]

Also, when your scope begins and ends with cis people, you're setting a standard for yourself you're not going to reach because you're never going to be cis. Shift your focus to other trans people and you start feeling less like you're an obvious outlier.

[halo-butch-deactivated20221214]

anyway t4t love is literally holy

[pnkvmpr-hiatus-deactivated20240]

ok I actually do want to say this I think the infantilization of transmascs and trans men in particular is something that mostly affects white transmascs. black transmascs mostly get treated like they're aggressive and dangerous, like the way people treat cis black men, especially when they transition/present masculinely.

that's not to say that infantilizing transmascs isn't a problem, but not unlike cis white women using being seen as weak and helpless, a lot of white transmascs and trans men can use that infantilization to their advantage and weaponize it against people of color and trans women.

if white transmascs are poor sweet innocent babies then obviously black people (even black transmascs) and transfems who argue with them and call them antiblack/transmisogynistic are aggressive and hateful people who hate all transmascs and just want to silence them.

that isn't to say that there aren't transmisogynistic black transmascs ofc but I think it's important to point out that white people are particularly skilled at weaponizing aspects of their own oppression and using it to their advantage against other oppressed people and we need to shut it down and call it out the moment we see it.

[undefeated-deactivated20241016]

need you guys to think a little harder before rbing posts like “stop acting like different flavors of transphobia are better or worse than each other transphobes want us all dead anyway” because 99% of the time it’s by a transmasc who thinks transfems are too dramatic about transmisogyny but knows they can’t say that outright

[senoritaimperfecta]

The t4t clois agenda

[thegenderal]

Transgender cringe moment (hysterical edition): soaps with holes so men can fuck them give me dysphoria

[thegenderal]

I know i’m a man because if i woke up tomorrow with a penis i would absolutely fuck soap literally immediately it is my biggest want in the world to put my dick in a soaphole.

[thegenderal]

You could throw a plate across the room and a man would fuck it before it lands and i know because i’m that man

[thegenderal]

[patroklos-mlm]

white trans mascs specifically those around my age (15-19) need to understand that their experience of being trans isn’t universal. my gender isn’t ‘feral little gremlin who never washes’ bc as a black person i am already seen as dirtier than my white counterparts. i also have no interest in being seen as feral bc once again, as a black person, i am dehumanised against my will. i’m not the first transmasc of colour to discuss this either.

[blackafemmetalks]

this is why so much of the trans activism is just really freaking white washed, because everything “considered” liberating for white trans folks is often usually just un-liberating for black people and I think when we try to speak up on this we often get a ton of shit for it 

[saltierlavender-deactivated2023]

I've said it before but the entire "transandrophobia" idea shows so much of the online liberal lack of understanding of patriarchal structures and of what (black) intersectional feminism states in the first place. I really need those dudes to get in their heads that:

1) Transmisogyny is not an afterthought, but a core part of the system. There isn't patriarchy without transmisogyny

2) "how can being male grant me any advantages, if it's a core part of my opression?" is a question that has been asked before actually

basically that

3) Gender, race, class and sexuality are systems built by their interaction in their real world

You are gonna find a lot more answers analysing the white supremacist, colonial and indeed heterosexual history of the gender system

than you would antagonising (trans) women

[saltierlavender-deactivated2023]

but of course that gets read as "you pedantic academic!!! stop throwing words! are you demanding people read theory?"

but the things is... if they wanna use the concepts of that theory (overlapping of opressions) or act like they are formulating theory of their own. yeah, I do think getting some reading done is advisable

[jezabaeddel]

just want to add that the terminology that they are using is one that pathologises the people they believe to be adversaries (which just so happens to be trans women 80% of the time) transandrophobia is derived from androphobia - the fear of men.

The entire development and usage of the term seems to be predicated on finding a way to derail people by pathologising everything they do/say - so while it is literally shit analysis, it is also one that is inherently about asserting power over others.