It’s been awhile:
Sorry I haven’t been on this blog in awhile (life’s been super busy), but I’ve got plenty of updates if y’all are interested. Some of this might also be a bit of a recap, as well.
Around a year ago I hopped states to live with my girlfriend and her family after my step mother essentially disowned me for being trans and said some super nasty things about not only me but her family too. Life’s been pretty good since moving and to be honest I’m thriving more than ever.
So, what about my gf and I? When I first moved in we were a little rough I’m not gonna lie, but as soon as I started testosterone in January things have been flourishing. A good chunk of depression left me when I started testo, which means a lot of anger left me. When I say a lot I mean practically most of it. I still have my moments but if you saw the me before compared to the me now, you would be amazed. I hated the me before but the me now is only getting better. I’m not gonna say our fights were all my fault because they weren’t, but just know we are better overall.
So what about us and the whole overcoming me being trans thing? Without going into huge amount of detail/taking over your dashboard: It happened. She refers to me as “he” all the time now. She calls me her “man” and a lot of other cute names. She tells everyone she’s got a boyfriend and when they ask about how that’s possible she explains respectfully how that came to be. I don’t doubt her as much and my fear of her leaving me for being a guy has gone down tremendously. What bit of doubt I have isn’t really her fault, I’m just paranoid in general. I know she loves me though and wants to stay. We overcame the biggest obstacle of our relationship and I’m so glad we did.
I also had top surgery 9 days ago. I had my reveal two days ago and I’ve never been more ecstatic. My chest looks so good so far. My confidence will continue to go up as the days go on. I am ready to start appreciating my body. I’m ready to live.
I am 9 months on testosterone and 9 days post-op top surgery. My girlfriend and I overcame the “trans issue” and we are so much better for it. I now live with a family that accepts me for who I am and it feels great. Life is looking up and I can only hope it stays that way.
One final thought: Don’t let anyone ever tell you you’re not allowed to try and work out a trans related relationship issue. It’s okay to stay and fight for it. You don’t always have to leave if you think there might be some hope. Just remember to do what you think is best in the end. Sometimes you have to work for a relationship.













