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autisticjoy

THINGS THAT CAN BE TRUE AT THE SAME TIME:

* Your parents did the best they could, AND their choices wounded you.

* You love someone AND you know it’s not healthy to keep them in your life.

* You’re terrified to take the next step AND you know it’s the right thing to do.

* You want to have healthy relationships AND unresolved trauma is making it difficult.

* You’re afraid to fail AND you believe in yourself.

@drheidigreen

captain-snark

imma add one

* You dislike a person AND you treat them with basic human respect and dignity

justbeingnamaste

“1492. As children we were taught to memorize this year with pride and joy as the year people began living full and imaginative lives on the continent of North America. Actually, people had been living full and imaginative lives on the continent of North America for hundreds of years before that. 1492 was simply the year sea pirates began to rob, cheat, and kill them.”

hollowedskin

this is the Trans Toad of gender euphoria, ready to lay the smackdown on ur bad dysphoric feels and bless you with a smooch. painting request from the stream today! thanks to everyone who came and kept me company!

spacevorobey

spiritualevolution1111

The good ole days

bashieformaldehyde

i-cannot-live-without-coffee

How To React When A Loved One Comes Out As Trans 101

So I’ve been wanting to make this post for a while, and Colin Mochrie’s daughter coming out as trans kind of inspired me to do this.

Disclaimer: No relative of mine has come out as trans, at least not that I know of, and I have no children, but I have a handful of trans friends, some of whom came out as trans after I met them. This is meant to be applicable to any relationship.

1. Sometimes, on the surface, your idea of someone and who they actually are is not the same. We think that person’s a girl and they’re actually a guy, or what have you. The fact is, aside from gender and appearance they’re still that person we love. Remember that. They are still your child, your friend, your sibling, your whatever.

2. There’s going to be a learning curve. You’re used to referring to them by one name and set of pronouns, and now they’re going by another name and set of pronouns. It’s an adjustment. But adjust, damn it. And don’t be a histrionic fuckass about it. If you mess up (which you probably will at first), just correct yourself and move on. If you do that, pretty soon it will be second nature to refer to them as the right name and pronouns.

3. I am not trans, so I am not an expert on the trans experience. But I do know they’re dealing with enough bullshit. Give them support, not more bullshit.

4. Just don’t be a dick. Let them do their thing and be there to help them if they need it.