Advice Needed (TW: domestic abuse, drugs)
I need advice on behalf of a friend/coworker (seriously, this is not one of those “I have a ‘friend’ but it’s actually about me posts, it literally is about my coworker). She’s been in a relationship with an abusive guy for three years. This weekend, she discovered he’s been hiding and potentially distributing illegal drug in her house. She has finally decided she wants him out because she’s scared the police will find out and she will get arrested/lose her professional license since the drugs are in *her* house. When she confronted him, he held a gun to her head.
She says she’s called the police on him twice for beating her/destroying her personal property in the past and they haven’t done anything (she lives in a very backwoods area). She says it wouldn’t be worth it to change her locks because he’s beaten her door down twice already. She refuses to call a domestic abuse hotline because she’s worried her husband (who she is separated from but still married to) will find out and use it as fodder for her not to be able to see her kids anymore. She refuses to flee and go somewhere he can’t find her because she’s worried he’ll destroy her house and kill all her farm animals and pets.
So she’s in a definite bind. She’s as stubborn as a bucket of fucking rocks but she’s a genuinely fantastic person and has really helped me in my career and I care about her and want to help if I can. I’m not going to get involved to a point where I’m in any danger, of course, but if there are other resources I can recommend she check out, I would love to give them to her. So if anyone has any ideas, please let me know. Thanks. <3
