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Being the office transgender is fun sometimes bc the cool coworkers will seek you out to complain about gender norms to you. Apparently my coworker buys clothes for her son from both the girls & boys department bc she wants him to have cute colorful clothes that don't just have dinos on them and she noticed that onesies meant for girls are typically smaller even tho the sizes are supposed to be by height. This is the real gender madness plaguing our societies.

shamebats

She told me about how when they were at the pool & there was a little kiddie slide, her son would go on it sometimes by himself but other times he'd ask for mommy/daddy to help him & they just let him decide how he wants to do it each time, and some middle aged man came up to the literal baby & told him that he should go by himself bc he's a big boy.

Just hearing about gendered socialization of children makes me want to murder ppl ughhh

hedwig-dordt

for something that is supposed to be innate and natural, we sure do a lot of teaching gender.

shamebats

Nooo but you see little baby girls innately crave clothes with prey animal illustrations on them & little boys need predator animals on their clothes otherwise they will get confused about gender & turn gay/trans (which, unlike gendered clothing, is completely unnatural)!!

I don't think that money is actually the root of all evil like if we got rid of money there would still be stuff to hoard inequality still existed before the invention of money

Money is quite a useful tool for doing business with people you don't know. And real billionaires don't just have a gigantic Scrooge McDuck sized pile of coins they're sitting on. They're hoarding housing, the means of production, imaginary value taken out in investment. This system would be just as bad if we were all paid out in quantities of rice or something.

what-even-is-thiss

In large scale societies where not everyone knew each other before money people got paid in like bread or something similar. And sometimes their employer wouldn't give them their bread ration and they'd have to strike or something. Money is just a more efficient bread distribution system and people can also hoard bread.

what-even-is-thiss

I have come across multiple people on this very website we are on right now who think that capitalism=money and if we abolished money our system would be solved. Money is not inherently the problem. It's the guys hoarding all the bread.

wishiwasadruid

Merlin: I almost got beheaded today!

Arthur: How!?!

Merlin: Oh I accidentally spilled some wine on your father. He pointed his sword at me and said “The person at the end of this sword is an idiot”and I asked which end.

Arthur: This is why I love you

notreewaits-deactivated20200806

Toddlers are so pure. She doesn’t understand that we help her with certain things because she’s little. She thinks that everyone just helps each other like that. So she tries to blow on my food and cut it up for me and tries to help me put on my shoes.

pussysoupforthesoul-deactivated

i was giving little wagon rides to a baby around the backyard one day and all of a sudden she hops off and slaps the seat of the wagon telling me to get on because it was my turn and i was like no it’s ok im too heavy and she was like NO ITS UR TURN and kept tugging on my hand so i would sit down. eventually i got on and it was just a little 2 year old trying so hard to push me around on a wagon not understanding why it wouldn’t budge but still so determined to let me have my turn lol

llywela13

I don’t think I’d realised how many casual compliments we pay to our toddler until she started casually complimenting us back, because experience has taught her that’s How Social Interaction Is Done, and there’s nothing quite like a very earnest three-year-old solemnly and sincerely informing you that you look wonderful and smell nice to make you feel really good about yourself

I tell her she’s my best girl. She tells me I’m her best auntie. Then we both feel good about the world!

ladyofatraditionalkind

Teach them kindness.

banrions

my little cousin is 3 and she stands there and goes “you’re doing it!” whenever i’m like, making food for us, or doing the laundry, or pushing her in a stroller up a hill. she is the most encouraging sweetheart.

greedy-guts

“What is it that the child has to teach? The child naively believes that everything should be fair and everyone should be honest, that only good should prevail, that everybody should have what they want and there should be no pain or sadness. The child believes the world should be perfect and is outraged to discover it is not. And the child is right.” - Rabbi Tzvi Freeman

transmutationisms

i also just don't think it's pathological to have shitty or very little interior design lmao like this assumption is so alien to me. some of us just do not live on decorator planet who cares. why does it bother a certain genre of person so very much. it's a functional living space not a curated museum display

Screeching

same energy

this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

sandersstudies

Going to see children and adolescents dance badly, play ball badly, sing badly, play recorder badly because they are young: YES! YOU ARE LEARNING! INCREDIBLE!

sandersstudies

People are so rude about going to watch the children in their lives do stuff shittily. “Ugh toddler dance recital,” “ugh tee-ball weekend again,” “ugh nativity play.”

That guy learned what skipping is this year and now he’s playing the piano the worst I’ve ever seen but the best he’s ever done! AREN’T YOU CAPTIVATED BY THEIR ABILITY TO DO A LITTLE BIT WHEN PREVIOUSLY THEY COULD DO NOTHING? Be filled with wonder and joy!

bees-and-mice-and-frogs-and

This but for everyone.

You don't have to be perfect to perform.

The thing here isn't so much the youth, it's that the person had the bravery to not only pick up a new thing, but to show people their current skills on the new thing they picked up!

People need to be less critical of amateurishness.

ms-demeanor

Has anything actually gotten better, for all the work you talk about doing? Or is it just treading water in misery forever?

Anon, ten years ago gay people couldn't get married in large parts of the US. AIDS was an almost certain death sentence when I was in high school. I was looking at job boards the other day and found a part time gas station job that had health insurance as a benefit, which NEVER would have happened 15 years ago. When I was a kid, hitting your child was extremely normalized in the US and my parents were the weird ones for not doing it. There is a vaccine for chicken pox. I didn't meet anyone who had transitioned until my 20s because it was so uncommon to transition in the aughts, and now there are some states that protect your right to have gender affirming care provided by your health insurance. It's not all states, but it's better than the number of states that had it in 2010, which was zero. THERE ARE TENANTS UNIONS NOW. WE HAVE A VACCINE AGAINST CERVICAL CANCER.

And all of that has been the work of a lot of individuals and organizations and research teams and activists.