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nevver

Flora and Fauna, Azuma Makoto

henrvcavill

Winston Duke for Esquire USA (2019)

She’s here to save my 2019

#brie larson #captain marvel #marvel

marechais

upthefolks

so like okay,

I don’t know why I’ve been obsessively thinking about the concept of “gaydar”

but I have.

Actually no it’s because a straight family member used the term like

“oh I have really great gaydar”

and it made me feel really gross

and it took me like a full hour to realize why.

When heterosexual people say that,

it feels like they’re bragging about their ability to clock us, you know?

like a straight person is telling me that they can spot us queers at 50 paces

and i’m immediately going to be uncomfortable with that,

whereas when other queer folks talk about being able to spot each other

it’s a tool for survival.

Like here’s the thing right?

being able to tell is important sometimes.

Here’s an example:

A couple summers ago I was in a very very small town in Nova Scotia, Canada

(like 6 buildings small)

and I met a woman in the library who was probably a little older than my actual mother.

She was there most days using the wifi

because she lived across the street in an apartment without internet.

We sat at the same table a few times and spoke briefly about life in passing

and after a few of these not-talking-about-gay-stuff convos I was pretty sure she was a part of the lgbtq community

and I slipped in a casual pronoun re: an ex

and she just looked at me,

stopped completely

and said “oh thank fuck, I thought so.”

and instantly started talking about her girlfriend,

it was like this huge wave of relief washed over both of us

because we were in a small rural town and both hovering in this really queer space and unable to talk about it.

Anyway she was really rad and took me to the closest big town to buy me a tim hortons coffee

because she found it reprehensible that I had been in canada for more than 3 weeks already and hadn’t ever had it.

Almost instantly it was like

“oh okay we have this thing in common that other people may not be cool with

but we can actually exist and not hide shit without the fear of violence or anger”

but when it’s a straight person

they’re pretty much just letting you know that they can spot the fact that you seem “abnormal” to them

like great

thanks for letting me know.

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pilgrimkitty

We’re identifying brethren while they’re identifying outsiders. It’s that simple.

fluffygif

Taking over the public bathrooms one #selfie at a time

#selfie #bathroom

saintofsass-deactivated20150429

best-buffy-lines

The Prom, 3.20

gothicprep

sorry boys, but I already got my eyes on a guy who’s not interested

deeplifequotes

“My therapist taught me to interrupt my anxious thinking with thoughts like: “What if things work out” and “What if all my hard work pays off?” So, I’m passing that onto you wherever you are, whatever you’re leaving, or whomever you’re becoming.”

— Sinclair P. Ceasar III

fraternitytofinance

If I am ugly can I still make it into the world?

Buddy, the product you put out there far outweighs the visuals of the package it comes from.

boykeats

what's your opinion on like being too pretentious?

you think oscar wilde’s gucci floral suit wearing angel ass spent his last gay breath making a witty remark about the wallpaper so that we could all live like a bunch of repressed 16th century puritans? are those glisteningly fresh rose petals going to throw themselves all over your scarlet chaise lounge and fake fur duvet? is that first edition of albert camus you bought at a thrift shop in paris going to lovingly read itself? y'all are really out there saying god gave us the ability to order cinnamon cappuccinos and buy herringbone tweed blazers and recite ovid to our friends only so we could not do those things? as it is with all paths in life, so long as you’re self-aware and not bothering or hurting anyone, you go ahead and be as pretentious as you want! it’s so much fun!!