Im bad at this whole blog thing

I like dancing and Im only good at being loud and obnoxious

[kosmogrl]

[bovineblogger]

considering

[rosavaya]

“Many people seem to think it foolish, even superstitious, to believe that the world could still change for the better. And it is true that in winter it is sometimes so bitingly cold that one is tempted to say, ‘What do I care if there is a summer; its warmth is no help to me now.’ Yes, evil often seems to surpass good. But then, in spite of us, and without our permission, there comes at last an end to the bitter frosts. One morning the wind turns, and there is a thaw. And so I must still have hope.”

— Vincent Van Gogh

[anarchistmemedistro]

[mentalhealthmemesofficial]

[notthegrouch]

“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.” 

- Vincent van Gogh

[important-animal-images]

[sic-s3mper-tyrannis]

[geminiagentgreen]

[dragonprincessmew]

[all-chickens-are-trans]

god i'm so tired of everybody's bad faith interpretations of everything. where's the trust. where's the forgiveness. where's the understanding that most things are complex and most people have many layers. and like the black eyed peas once said. where is the love

[dancinbutterfly]

a wild therapist has entered the chat

the counter to this is a technique one of my mentors called Most Respectable Interpretation

When you're in a situation where you're thinking "argh this person wishis me ill/oh this is a bad thing/oh they're plotting" etc, take a deep breath, remember that the other person is a human being with a rich inner life who wants to be a good person just like you and ask yourself: What is the Most Respectable Interpretation I can think of for why this could be happening?

Because the thing is? You have no fucking idea either way!

You think you can! You believe you know!

But you cannot! FOR YOU CANNOT READ MINDS!

Mind reading, my loves, is a cognitive distortion.

And since you cannot read minds and no matter how much you think you know about another person's intentions, you can never be 100% sure?

This is a gift to you from the universe. Because now you are free! You can choose to interpret their actions however the fuck you want!

So why not choose the Most Respectable Interpretation? This will give you so many gifts. This will allow you to relax, to be less anxious, to be less suspicious of people, to make good faith readings. When you start to do this? The vibes you give off will improve and people will like you more and want to be around you. This works. I know this works because I've done it and I've improved my mood and started to attract people (when I'm not having a stress or a trauma response that our ADHD underdeveloped ACC couldn't handle :[ thanks no thanks brain) and I've watched my clients implement it and improve their relationships and outlook on just everything really.

I will tell you my intention for sharing this so you dont have to wonder it: I believe in this tool. I love this tool. It has helped me and I want to help you because I want less people to make bad faith interpretations. I want the internet to be friendlier and kinder and I think the Most Respectable Interpretation skill will help lead to that outcome.

It's really powerful. One of my favorite tools. Give it a try if you want. It takes practice but I think it can help.

Anyway I love you I hope you love you too. Good luck out there and remember, to ask what could be the most kind, respectable, generous, or if that's too much for you, neutral reason for this thing happening?

[catchymemes]

[agoddamnedrayofsunshine]

No but it really can be this simple sometimes.

The "enrichment in the enclosure" meme has a lot of truth to it. We need to shake things up a bit to keep happy. It doesn't have to be big, but if you ever feel stagnant or a little bluh try going on a walk on a route you haven't been in or something. It really does help.

[thesinglesock]

#literaly agreed #it sounds like a frigging joke #but the reason our childhood feels like time was slower #is because we did so much new stuff #once you get used to things everything speeds up #so changing routine #doing something new #literally feels like extending your life #you got this #I believe in you

reblogging with @arczeroes​‘ tags because they blew my mind a little and I think you should read them

[cheddar-baby]

The worlds hungriest animal

[racial]

white people getting a cat and trying to choose between the names miso, matcha or mochi

[aurdwynni]

[turbo-nerd]

Oh no

[poetry-siir]

[nerdlycrying]

i think this is supposed to be homophobic but i haven’t stopped laughing at this for 30 minutes this is SO FUCKING FUNNY

[deadavian]

gender neutral bathroom is when big skeleton

[fishandshesmygills]

my brother started calling our cat "doobie brother" which he then lengthened to "dubious brother" and has since morphed into "brother dubious" like he's some sort of fucked up little monk

[fishandshesmygills]

brother dubious

[the-big-mood]

When I go to chipotle and they ask if I want chicken or steak

[gummybearattacktheworldofdespair]

[eve-made-the-right-choice]

what i’m getting from this is that the average driver can only be convinced to drive safely when threatened with immediate violence

[ponett]

it really is sad that algorithmic feeds have broken peoples' brains so badly. people really do come here and go "wait, i have to CHOOSE who i follow to get posts on my dashboard???" because a social media site working the way they were always supposed to work is so alien now. people will assume the site is a ghost town because they don't follow enough active users. there has to be a constant stream of New Content every time you refresh, regardless of whether or not said Content is any good

you can never just get caught up on your feed and put the phone down, because that's not what tiktok and insta and twitter and facebook have conditioned users to expect. putting the phone down means you're not looking at more ads and generating revenue for the site. when you venture off of the following feed twitter's algorithm is very transparently designed to show you bait tweets and other things that will make you angry, because getting people to argue is one of the easiest ways to drive engagement. it's no wonder threads just launched with no following feed whatsoever, just an infinite stream of algorithmic slop. these sites don't want you to curate your own experience because then you might develop a healthier relationship with them. that's not what they want. they want addiction

[pasha-hasid]

[zahnegott-lives]

little slavic man

[tradingberry]

[delinda-arts]

PERIOD!