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Some of you were never fortunate enough to receive the patronage and condescension of Lady Catherine de Bourgh and it shows
Until you value yourself, you wonât value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. - M. Scott Peck
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whaaattt? What's the story about Gethsemane????
In a million years Iâm not going to be able to find a source for this or remember where I read it, but at the time they shot Gethsemane, the S4 cliffhanger, when Scully is in the meeting with all the FBI bigwigs and has to say that she was called to Mulderâs apartment to identify a body, and then delivers the line âAgent Mulder died last night from an apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound to the headâ â it was apparently Gillianâs understanding that Scully believed what she was saying. And so, of course, she brought the full power of her acting to it, and gave us a Scully visibly anguished and suffering and made us feel that heartbreaking moment deep in all of our souls:
because sheâs a goddamn professional actress who is very good at what she does.
Except, Chris Carter did what was apparently his usual practice, which was write one half of a cliffhanger, shoot it, edit it, air it, go on hiatus, and THEN start thinking about how to resolve the cliffhanger. (Sound familiar? At least that time he knew the show was coming back.) So, when they got the next seasonâs scripts, it turned out that Scully had known the whole time that Mulder was not really dead. And, there is a quote somewhere from Gillian where she expresses being miffed that she didnât know this at the time of playing the scene, because playing âmy partner/best friend/soulmate/love of my life has shockingly killed himself and I had to identify his body and also Iâm about to die of cancer and I am in the absolute black depths of shock and despairâ is a lot different from playing âI sure hope I can pull this heist over on these FBI bigwigs so my partner and I can figure out whoâs the mole. I, Dana Scully, a medical doctor who is not a professional actress and is not very good at lying because Iâm naturally earnest and forthright and dedicated to the truth, better fake this as best I can. Also I am about to die from cancer. This hasnât been a great week.â Kinda more like this:
But CC doesnât understand that because he doesnât understand acting or people or women or feelings or preparing for things.
Is it any wonder that by the time they got to Season 8 and Scully was pregnant and there was no information (for the audience or the actors) about whether Mulder was the father, whether Scully knew Mulder was the father, whether Mulder knew Mulder was the father, whether Mulder wanted to be the father, and also oh yeah Mulder had been dying of a brain disease the whole time last year, they just kind of slogged forward and did what they could? This is the girl who used to look up all the hard medical words in the scripts she got so she could inhabit the character as fully as possible. Smh.
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VACCINATE YOUR FUCKING KIDS
i know this isnât my first time reblogging this post to this blog, and it probably wonât be the last. Stay educated.
Also, immunocompromised members of society (including a number of my family members and friends) donât deserve to have their lives threatened because of antivaxxers and their ârightâ to believe lies.
Itâs time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Carol
Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s.Â
So. Hereâs the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying todayâs worldview to the song, yes, youâre right, it absolutely *sounds*Â like a rape anthem.Â
BUT! Letâs look closer!Â
âHey whatâs in this drinkâ was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that thereâs actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol.
See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dudeâs house. In the 1940âs, thatâs the kind of thing Good Girls arenât supposed to do â and she wants people to think sheâs a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what sheâs really concerned about: âthe neighbors might think,â âmy maiden auntâs mind is vicious,â âthereâs bound to be talk tomorrow.â But sheâs having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink â unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. Thatâs the joke. That is the standard joke thatâs going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says âhey, whatâs in this drink?â It is not a joke about how sheâs drunk and about to be raped. Itâs a joke about how sheâs perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because sheâs living in a society where women arenât supposed to have sexual agency.
Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject menâs advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore itâs normal and expected for a ladyâs gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she wonât be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than âIâm staying because I want to.â (Thatâs the main theme of the manâs lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, heâs pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and sheâs using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but canât say so. She states explicitly that sheâs resisting because sheâs supposed to, not because she wants to: âI ought to say no no noâŠâ She states explicitly that sheâs just putting up a token resistance so sheâll be able to claim later that she did whatâs expected of a decent woman in this situation: âat least Iâm gonna say that I tried.â And at the end of the song theyâre singing together, in harmony, because theyâre both on the same page and they have been all along.
So itâs not actually a song about rape - in fact itâs a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But itâs also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. Itâs a song about a society where women arenât allowed to say yesâŠwhich happens to mean itâs also a society where women donât have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.
remember loves: context is everything. and personal opinion matters. If you still find this song to be a problem, thatâs fine. But please donât make it into something itâs not because itâs been stripped of cultural context.
This is actually really interesting. Iâve never known a lot of the background to this song.
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Participatory democracy begins at home. If you are planning to implement your politics, there are certain things to remember. 1. He is feeling it more than you. Heâs losing some leisure and youâre gaining it. The measure of your oppression is his resistance. 2. A great many American men are not accustomed to doing monotonous, repetitive work which never issues in any lasting, let alone important, achievement. This is why they would rather repair a cabinet than wash dishes. If human endeavors are like a pyramid with manâs highest achievements at the top, then keeping oneself alive is at the bottom. Men have always had servants (us) to take care of this bottom stratum of life while they have confined their efforts to the rarefied upper regions. It is thus ironic when they ask of women-Where are your great painters, statesmen, etc.? Mme. Matisse ran a military shop so he could paint. Mrs. Martin Luther King kept his house and raised his babies. 3. It is a traumatizing experience for someone who has always thought of himself as being against any oppression or exploitation of one human being by another to realize that in his daily life he has been accepting and implementing (and benefiting from) this exploitation; that his rationalization is little different from that of the racist who says, âBlack people donâ t feel painâ (women donât mind doing the shitwork); and that the oldest form of oppression in history has been the oppression of 50 percent of the population by the other 50 percent. 4. Arm yourself with some knowledge of the psychology of oppressed peoples everywhere, and a few facts about the animal kingdom. I admit playing top wolf or who runs the gorillas is silly but as a last resort men bring it up all the time. Talk about bees. If you feel really hostile bring up the sex life of spiders. They have sex. She bites off his head. The psychology of oppressed peoples is not silly. Jews, immigrants, black men and all women have employed the same psychological mechanisms to surviveâ admiring the oppressor, glorifying the oppressor, wanting to be like the oppressor, wanting the oppressor to like them, mostly because the oppressor held all the power. 5. In a sense, all men everywhere are slightly schizoid-divorced from the reality of maintaining life. This makes it easier for them to play games with it. It is almost a clichĂ© that women feel greater grief at sending a son off to a war or losing him to that war because they bore him, suckled him, and raised him. The men who foment those wars did none of those things and have a more superficial estimate of the worth of human life. One hour a day is a low estimate of the amount of time one has to spend âkeepingâ oneself. By foisting this off on others, man has seven hours a week-one working day more to play with his mind and not his human needs. Over the course of generations it is easy to see whence evolved the horrifying abstractions of modern life. 6. With the death of each form of oppression, life changes and new forms evolve. English aristocrats at the turn of the century were horrified at the idea of enfranchising working men-were sure that it signaled the death of civilization and a return to barbarism. Some working men were even deceived by this line. Similarly with the minimum wage, abolition of slavery, and female suffrage. Life changes but it goes on. Donât fall for any line about the death of everything if men take a turn at the dishes. They will imply that you are holding back the revolution (their revolution). But you are advancing it (your revolution). 7. Keep checking up. Periodically consider whoâs actually doing the jobs. These things have a way of backsliding so that a year later once again the woman is doing everything. After a year make a list of jobs the man has rarely if ever done. You will find cleaning pots, toilets, refrigerators and ovens high on the list. Use time sheets if necessary. He will accuse you of being petty. He is above that sort of thing (housework). Bear in mind what the worst jobs are, namely the ones that have to be done every day or several times a day. Also the ones that are dirty-itâs more pleasant to pick up books, newspapers, etc., than to wash dishes. Alternate the bad jobs. Itâs the daily grind that gets you down. Also make sure that you donâ t have the responsibility for the housework with occasional help from him. âIâll cook dinner for you tonightâ implies itâs really your job and isnât he a nice guy to do some of it for you. 8. Most men had a rich and rewarding bachelor life during which they did not starve or become encrusted with crud or buried under the liner. There is a taboo that says women mustnâ t strain themselves in the presence of men-we haul around 50 pounds of groceries if we have to but arenât allowed to open a jar if there is someone around to do it for us. The reverse side of the coin is that men arenât supposed to be able to take care of themselves without a woman. Both are excuses for making women do the housework. 9. Beware of the double whammy. He wonât do the little things he always did because youâre now a âLiberated Woman,â right? Of course he wonât do anything else eitherâŠ. I was just finishing this when my husband came in and asked what I was doing. Writing a paper on housework. Housework? he said. Housework? Oh my god how trivial can you get? A paper on housework.
The Politics of Housework, Pat Mainardi, Redstockings, 1970 (via leftclausewitz)
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