Tyrece & Lillian

Life to be shared

[tyandlilly]

Goal for 2018

say what you mean, mean what you say

-lil

[gentle-reminder]

gentle reminder

i’m sorry if you’re feeling disconnected and like nothing is worth it – please know that it is worth it, it’s going to be okay, you will feel connected again; you can get through this

[tyandlilly]

Life is like driving

Just because you’re behind the wheel doesn’t mean you have to mow anyone over.

-Lilly

[tyandlilly]

Stop perusing happiness

A key to happiness is to stop wondering whether you are happy or not. Pursue a goal bigger than yourself and when you look back you will find you were happy all along. If you are constantly asking yourself whether you’re happy or not then you ponder that happiness away.

“The enjoyments of life are sufficient to make it a pleasant thing when they are taken en passant without being made a principal objective. Once you make them so, you will immediately feel them to be insufficient. They will not bear a scrutinizing examination. Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so. The only chance is for you to have as your purpose in life not happiness but something external to it. Let your self-consciousness, your scrutiny, your self-interrogation, exhaust themselves on that; and if you are otherwise fortunately circumstanced you will inhale happiness with the air you breathe, without dwelling on it or thinking about it, forestalling it in imagination, or putting it to flight by fatal questioning.” -John Stuart Mill

[tyandlilly]

Approach today like today

Not all of us are very good at living in the moment. Something else is always on our mind, whether it be the past or present, it’s bothersome. But one thing i’ve noticed is that when you focus on right now, this very moment, that feeling of floating through your days seems to go away. You start to remember your accomplishments in a brighter light, rather than just something you’ve done. You begin to make active healthy choices in your momentary life, which overall turns into a life bettering habit. I could go on forever but you understand what i mean. Focus on your day to day, the passion you want to master, that person you’ve been too nervous to talk to, show yourself what you’re capable of when you try and believe in yourself. That feels a lot better than sitting in regret of the time you’ve wasted because for that, you are wasting more time. As i’m sure you’ve heard before, SIEZE THE DAY!, for today could be the day your hard work pays off. -Tyrece

[wordchasing]

““Nothing really helps except for time,” he said. “That’s the unfortunate thing. You can go to therapy, you can talk to friends. The most depressing part of it all is that you do forget, because time goes on and it washes it out. I didn’t find any solution other than get up every day and wait for time to pass.””

— Richard Edwards, of Margot and the Nuclear So and So’s

[tyandlilly]

Ups to everything

This weekend I didn’t realize anything new. I didn’t draw any new conclusions. I think that’s because I have the information I need but I've felt that way for a long time, and of course haven’t realized anything new in a long time. At this point all I have to do is move forward and make decisions based off of the information I've collected. This could be a turning point, but it could also be something completely different. The choice is mine. For anyone who relates the choice is yours as well. You're in control of the decisions you make and the situations you choose to participate in. Let’s all make a good choice, see where it takes us. - Tyrece

[buttonpoetry]

“Know this: the person who did this to you is broken. Not you.”

— Sierra DeMulder - “Paper Dolls” (Button Live)

[tyandlilly]

A piece of advice

Don’t participate in activities or people that hold you back. Stop telling yourself you don’t know why, yes you do. Get off your ass and do something, nobody’s suffering for you but you.

[tyandlilly]

Social Advice

I am rather unsocial. I value my alone time as much as my social time. When given the option to branch out, talk to, and meet new people or to not then I’ll probably pick the latter. It’s not like I’m shy or insecure. I just don’t really find a lot people too interesting. It’s kind of a bitchy thing to say but hey it is what it is.

I’ve been trying to break this habit though. I don’t think it’s really a stellar trait to have. Also I don’t like finding people uninteresting because that’s simply not true. Everyone has unique quirks, even if some are more subtle than others. So I’ve been trying out some cool little methods to trick my novelty biased brain.

The first method is to just people watch. You cannot believe how much you can find out about someone just by their body language. Like people don’t just do things for shits and giggles. The way someone presents themselves is a direct reflection of their traits and beliefs. Not like presents like clothing or dialec. It’s more like how they do it. How much do they talk, how close they are to their friends and loved ones, how they react, you get the point.

My other method is to take a moment to pretend you are a world famous detective. When you talk to people it is your job to find out their hidden talent, quirk, etc. Just pry and be genuine. Make it your goal.

In all honesty these tips are kind of generic and (I assume) common knowledge to more extroverted people. But for an oblivious little introvert like myself I have to set reminders. Fun fun fun.

-lillian

[tyandlilly]

Reoccurring issues

So at the moment i feel like shit in every way. My body is falling apart and so is my emotional state. But there is an upside. I know what i need to fix and i know what to do to fix it, only problem is i just won’t do it. I won’t take that step forward to pull myself out of my self induced void to become the person i know full well i want to be because, i don’t want to actually do anything to get places. That’s a flawed ass mindset and i’m going to work towards fixing that. I’ll revert back to this if i fall off track again. Self driven therapy. -Tyrece

[tyandlilly]

a look back

I’ve been going through some old stuff that I’ve drawn and some old songs I used to vibe with. Doing so I’ve noticed how much I’ve changed and evolved. It really does motivate me to keep going in life to see what my next phase in life is.

-lil lee

[tyandlilly]

Mornings

Today I've decided I'm going to make the best out of my time. All the things I had going on yesterday that I neglected will most definitely be a pain in the ass but hey it’s not that deep. I’ve approached this morning with a seize the day attitude and you all should too. - Tyrece

[tyandlilly]

Hold up

If you’re having a bad day then just breathe, take some time to yourself, rant if you need, then go on with your day. You don’t have to wait for tomorrow to feel better.

-lililly ;)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this: you haven’t.”

— Thomas Edison

[tyandlilly]

On: Overcoming angst

As of recent I’ve been going through an impatient spurt. I feel as though I’m in a buffering period of my life. Like, I am so close to breaking my routine and all I want is a change of pace but because of where I am I cannot achieve such things. Not quite yet.

This problem bothers the living hell out of me on a day to day basis. Side note: For all that do not know me I am not the most patient person on God’s green earth. Actually, I’m quite the opposite. I like to consistently feel proactive in my daily life. Not only in the physical sense but the mental sense as well. So when things are being done inefficiently or not being done at all, it brings this looming feeling of anxiousness and/or hopelessness. Okay, side note over.

My big question was how do kick myself out of this spiral that I am involuntarily going down. I finally received my answer when I was on a nice walk at this park that I frequently visit. As I was walking I took a look around and saw how beautiful everything was. I saw the linoleum skies that stretched for miles. The blades of grass that followed the breeze. I also realized that this isn’t going to be around forever. There’s going to be a day when I’m not going to be around to see this anymore. So, I better appreciate it now before it’s too late. In all honesty, I’ve never felt more in the moment and existential because I was “in the moment.”  

Right then and there I figured out why I have been so bothered. It seems like I was sleepwalking through my own life. I have been so hyper focused on where I was in the past and where I was going in the future that I wasn’t living in the present.

It is important to use the time you’re given. Time is a fleeting resource that rather inflexible in its value. If it’s wasted you aren’t getting that shit back. Don’t be blinded by a goal or nostalgia to the point that you’re just sleepwalking in your own life. Wake up and appreciate the opportunity you were given. We are only given one shot at this whole living thing, might as well live.

TL;DR: stop and smell the roses.

-LILLY

[tyandlilly]

The importance of today

So today’s been an interesting day for me, it’s had its ups and downs and what not but I've consistently had to shake myself from a negative space. This isn’t abnormal for me because of how I choose to carry myself on a regular basis but today stuck out. It stuck out because every time I caught myself in a mood, I changed it. Whether it be I changed my music choice, changed my mindset, or changed my attitude I changed something. Pulling myself out of that space on a conscience level and truly making change, even though it was just in the moment, the consistency of it is what will build a habit. Focus on today, change what you want to change for today. You can’t change tomorrow but you can set yourself up to have a better shot, today. - Tyrece