Lemon

21 • they/them

[simprop]

hi everyone, i don’t like to talk about drama in the sims community because it’s usually not worth the time of day imo, but i just wanted to essentially ‘mourn the loss’ of cindy aka pleasantsims.

i’m autistic, i’ve made this known many times and i’m very proud to be autistic. the sims 2 is my special interest and helps me to express myself. autistic peoples whole worldviews can be built upon our special interests, we use it to help make sense of everything, to make us happy. so when i say the sims means everything to me, i truly truly do mean that.

when i found cindy i fell in love with her content. i saw a lot of myself in her, she was funny, sweet, humble, and her accent was lovely to listen to. when i was so incredibly depressed last year and couldn’t get out of bed, i would put on her livestreams, and everything would be okay for the time being. i’ve spoken to cindy privately before, and she was just as lovely. i loved learning more about her with each vlog, i became invested in her as a person outside of the sims. she was truly one of my biggest comfort youtubers.

to see what’s happened with her makes me just honestly sick to my stomach. it makes me want to cry seeing how people came after her. as an autistic person, seeing how you non autistic folks in the crowd have used my disorder as leverage against someone you don’t like on the internet enrages me. you guys do not care about autism outside of this isolated incident, you just want to tear down someone down. what happened was not ableist, cindy was not bullying an autistic child on the internet. this person was exhibiting behaviour that was annoying, and people got annoyed.

yes! we need to give more grace to autistic people as we do have social deficits, but we KNOW right from wrong. we KNOW how to follow and read rules. if we break rules and get in trouble for breaking said rules, that’s OKAY. honestly it feels like people are infantilising us. it is okay to be annoyed by people, yes!! even if they’re autistic!!!!!! cindy was being snide in a private conversation. wow. how awful. non of us has EVERR done that before right? (heavy sarcasm)

the way the internet has treated this woman is sickening. the way people are using autism to fuel the flames is horrendous. if you contributed to this treatment of cindy, i hope you feel ashamed. the autistic community does not thank you. you have not done anything beneficial for us. you have just bullied someone and used autism as your excuse.

cindy, if you ever see this, i’m sorry. i’ll miss you. thank you for everything.

rant over.

[ugly-townie]

I made this account with the intention of, like, actually making Sims stuff first, but man the Pleasant Sims stuff is getting under my skin. And it's not because of her. It's because of all the NTs trying to "champion" for us when it's not at all necessary or, in this case, warranted.

I want to make one thing clear: It was not at all appropriate for Cindy to make fun of this person's appearance, whether they were a minor or not. That is always an unnecessarily low blow, and it rubs me the wrong way.

But for all of you saying that Cindy bullied a child for being autistic...

Please shut up.

ESPECIALLY you neurotypicals.

I am autistic. I have ADHD. And I have owned and modded servers in the past. I also have basic reading comprehension.

Cindy was not annoyed at this person because they were autistic. She didn't even know they were autistic until later. She was annoyed because of the spamming. And I don't blame her! Spamming is fucking annoying.

Now, would I have mocked the spamming person's appearance or some other uncontrollable ""flaw"" of theirs behind their back to my mods? I sure as hell hope not. But whether they were autistic or not, I'd sure as hell be annoyed. Spamming is overwhelming to me, and it really agitates me. And if you choose to take "Cindy hates autistic kids!" out of that, that is entirely a you issue.

Additionally, CINDY APOLOGIZED, THE OTHER PERSON ACCEPTED, AND IT WAS WATER UNDER THE BRIDGE. Y'all...really like to neglect that detail! LMAO.

You can point out the things someone has done wrong without spreading wrong information. You can say "It's shitty that she made fun of someone's appearance—a minor's, no less" without tacking on "Cindy hates autistic people". Stop using autism to get to this false moral high ground, especially if you're neurotypical. It is not hard, LMAO. Y'all are like paparazzi trying to get out of context pictures for tabloids. It's gross. Learn a bit about gathering information before writing exposés please.