Better Than Before

Cole / 20 / Male / Video games and music are great / Sometimes I do art

[genderqueerpositivity]

Definitions from the Ace Week website:

Asexuality is a sexual orientation where a person experiences little to no sexual attraction to anyone and/or does not experience desire for sexual contact.

Demisexuality is an orientation where a person can only experience sexual attraction if a strong emotional bond is present. Demisexuality is often considered a type of gray-asexuality.

Gray-asexuality is an orientation where a person finds that asexuality describes a lot of their experiences, but that it doesn't fit perfectly. Someone who is gray-asexual may experience sexual attraction rarely, only under specific circumstances.

The term asexual spectrum encompasses all of the identities related to asexuality, including asexuality itself, demisexuality, and gray-asexuality. The word ace is a shorthand for the identities that fit within the asexual umbrella, and may also be used to describe a person who identifies with the asexual umbrella.

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

the really amazing part of all this is a few years ago I was an ~~exclusionist~~ with bad arguments and bad opinions and I’m general just a bad attitude.

then I grew up and learned some compassion and empathy.

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

I fell into a trap. I thought if I espoused the same beliefs as people who hated asexuals, I would be One of the Good Ones and they would want me.

I was wrong.

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

how much self-loathing did I carry around because of this? how much of my experiences and feelings did I push aside because people on this website told me none of them were real? How much damage was done by having it harassed into me that none of the prejudice or problems I’d experienced for being asexual…. didn’t happen?

My first girlfriend rejected my asexuality with disgust. Told me I was wrong, took it as an insult, accused me of thinking she was ugly…. and yes. pressured me into sex I didn’t want. Over and over again. She made me feel guilty for being ace and then abused me for it.

And I spent years on this website not only being told none of this happened, or if it did it had nothing to do with my asexuality, but then repeating that ad nauseum. What does that do to a 18/19 year old recovering from an abusive relationship?

How much of my recovery was hindered by the acecourse tee-em?

[lesbiangender-deactivated201908]

the worst was probably the idea I internalized that I couldn’t be asexual and gay. Or that being ace made me basically straight.

Your discourse is poisonous to lgbt people. Your rhetoric harms victims of sexual violence. Your stupid petty arguing is hurting people and all you people care about is whether hypothetical cisgender hetroromantic asexuals should be allowed in hypothetical lgbt hangouts you probably don’t even go to anyway.

[official-auspol]

When you realise Clive Palmer is running in the next election

[radicalgraff]

Anti-colonial graffiti painted around Sydney in the lead-up to Invasion Day 2017

[yourplayersaidwhat]

You can Sonic roll at any moment

Context: So, we’re playing a Vampire the Masquerade game, set in our home country of Australia, where guns are illegal. While investigating something, our bumbling Ventrue detective gets into a gunfight with a criminal.

Ventrue: Okay so I hide behind the wall and dial the police.

DM: Okay they pick up

Ventrue: Help I’m in a gun fight at (gives location) and I need assistance.

DM: Noises of Police sirens and shouting abound.

Other Players: You do realise you have an illegal weapon, right? The police are gonna arrest you and if you don’t get out before morning it’s gonna be a whole new kettle of fish.

Ventrue: Ah… shit.

Our Ventrue attempts to sneak away from the fight and isn’t having much luck, plus the clock is now ticking fast.

DM: The criminal thinks sees you and starts heading toward the long grass where you are hiding.

Ventrue: Alright from my crouching position I want to just roll backwards into the long grass and away.

DM: Okay I guess…

Ventrue: Rolls spectacularly

DM: Alright you tuck into a ball and with incredible skill and grace roll away into the grass like an idiotic grey Sonic the Hedgehog.

Entire Party: Loses it

Since then it has become an inside joke to suggest simply Sonic rolling away whenever a character faces a difficult situation.

[greelin]

you know what truly disgusts me… being able to feel my own heartbeat. it’s bad. don’t need to actively know what’s going on in there. don’t need to feel that. it’s not any of my business

[toasthag]

touch starved me vs touch repulsed me

[angst-god]

wait for it, i promise it’s worth it

[pole--star]

Illustrations from “Norse Gods” by Johan Egerkrans

[sarroora]

[propalahramota]

DM moodboard

[aztechnology]

tag which one is your DM

[institute-for-thermal-research]

I’m real? I’m gotdamn alive?

[armadillorollup]

*passive aggressive Australian voice* listen…mate 

[dreriart]

Professional commission work: 400-550 bucks Tumblr commission work: 70 bucks

some of you: OMG UR COMMISSIONS ARE TOO EXPENSIVE WTF it’s almost like you value your time >:( not cool dude

[ze-pie]

yall this is the saddest day of my life

[t-pose-to-assert-gayness]

YOUR ART IS YOUR WORK AND YOU DESERVE TO BE PAID FAIRLY FOR IT

PEOPLE WOULDNT BASH CONSTRUCTION COMPANIES FOR BUILDING HOUSES THAT ARE TOO EXPENSIVE BITCH YOU EITHER SAVE UP OR MOVE ON OKAY FUCK

[kreebby]

I’m not saying art isn’t worth money and that artists should be paid, but please hear me out.

Hasn’t anyone else felt a bit like art is really strangely priced to keep it away from the poor? Collecting art is always a habit of the wealthy. It always has been. Art costs too much goddamn money and it makes it so that only enthusiasts can afford to appreciate it or support the artist. Can we stop normalizing these prices? Can we stop giving vague examples of a professional artist and what they charge–without even mentioning the materials used, the client, and the type of work–and insist that shit like that should cost that much.

People want to support artists but are often not wealthy enough to do it. If people want to complain that they wish commissions were cheaper so they could afford to support you, then let them instead of demanding money from them like that. You don’t have to change your prices for them.

And on the flip side I see shit like $40+ for a commission of cartoon line art of an animal head with no coloring or background. Fuck off with that, I have spoken to friends who are professional artists and even they think those types of commissions are overpriced. Everyone agreed such commissions couldn’t have taken more than an hour–and that’s being generous–but the artist insists they can’t lower their prices. I’m not about to argue about how much an artist “should” be paid per hour, but can we please stop pretending that  unfair or ridiculous commission prices don’t exist? They do.

You have to understand that some artists don’t have a lot of portfolio work available but demand very high commission prices and the person doesn’t really have a good idea what kind of quality they would be getting. And I know people who have paid $50+ for commissions and been extremely disappointed. Finances are difficult for everyone right now. You can hardly blame someone for being wary of taking chances.

And, yes, a lot of the time the complaints about price are coming from little kids who don’t know better and simply are refusing to pay $5 which is a steal. Which, fine, they need to be educated. They do. But every time I see posts like this it’s incredibly one sided on behalf of the artist and I just feel like nobody understands what it is like to be on the other side of the fence.

[tamascotchi-deactivated20190101]

cmon dude dont make me drag you

“If people want to complain that they wish commissions were cheaper so they could afford to support you, then let them instead of demanding money from them like that“

so what you mean is

“if people want to make u do your monkey dance for them and still feel like theyre doing YOU a favor by thinking $30 for 2hrs of work still falls under the definition of supporting you then let them! stop rejecting all my helpful support! draw me this shit for however much i say its worth!!“

u want artists to stop DEMANDING ur money?? dont demand their fucking art!!

[thebucca2-deactivated20221101]

^^this is why some artists on Tumblr are so fucking insufferable. it’s art divas like you who ruin it for everybody else.

[tamascotchi-deactivated20190101]

u love cooking & wanna be a chef, but u go to a job interview for mcdonalds expecting minimum wage cuz u need this paycheck to survive, and the guys like, “ur hired!!! of course i will support you!”

u show up for the job and hes like, “im so happy to support you and ur lifestyle! you can flip ALL the burgers you want here, cuz i know its ur dream to work for me and have a job!! i know we said minimum wage, but i can only afford like $4 an hour. i KNOW you love flipping my burgers but like, i dont have that much money to support you flipping my burgers for me!”

you say “im not working for that much.” boss says “what the FUCK you said you needed a paycheck to live!! who cares how much its for, im SUPPORTING YOUR DREAMS!!!”

u say somethin reasonable along the lines of “fuck off, theres other mcdonalds who need burger flippers and pay minimum wage. im just trying to survive while i pursue my culinary dreams at home” and suddenly youre an insufferable Tumblr Chef™ diva who ruins it for innocent supporters of the culinary arts like the poor man who offered u a steady gig of pennies to do labor that he chose not to do himself.

mother fucker

[southpauz]

As a digital artist I live in a constant state of anger

[hornyonmainstreet]

ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷ rats the rats we’re the rats ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷ

[devildaisies]

me: how do i improve this drawing…. how do i make it look more detailed

my art gremlin: add seams to the pants///////////// dotn even worry about where seams are supposed to be just put some fuckin lines

me: god youre so smart