Unica

[omnifuneral]

you have more degrees of freedom than you think

you can completely reinvent yourself in well under a year with sufficient commitment

you probably make at least one decision every day which will meaningfully alter the path you’re on if you change it

this is terrifying but it’s also maybe the best thing about being alive

as long as you’re breathing, there’s a chance

[theambitiouswoman]

[scorpionlafemme]

This is what some men fail to understand.

[wetheurban]

May the next version of your life feel like a deep breath.

[dontrblgme2]

[kissedbythevoid]

[scorpionlafemme]

[wetheurban]

Universe, please keep me soft, but hard to fool. Surround me with energy that pours back into me. Expose what’s not real. Elevate what is. And when I forget who I am, bring me home.

[scorpionlafemme]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[zagrebinaa]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

[theambitiouswoman]

Doing the hard thing first in the morning rewires your brain to become stronger and makes the rest of the day smoother

[theambitiouswoman]

YOU DO NOT HEAL BY UNDERSTANDING YOUR TRAUMA

You heal by feeling safe enough to stop repeating it

Not reverting to your old coping mechanisms anymore is how you break the cycle

You want to understand because understanding gives the illusion of control

When we go through pain our mind kicks into overdrive trying to make sense of it. It’s the mind’s way of saying If I can figure this out, I can prevent it from happening again

Sometimes there isn’t a logical answer that will make the pain go away because it had nothing to do with you. And trying to intellectualize everything can become a way to avoid feeling the things that actually needs to move through the body

We try understanding because it’s less scary than sitting in the unknown. Stop trying to solve everything like a puzzle and instead start soothing the part of us that feels afraid, abandoned, unworthy etc

You don’t need another explanation

You need a hug

A deep breath

A new boundary

Or someone who looks at you and tells you that it wasn’t your fault

Because it wasn’t 🤍

[theambitiouswoman]

[theambitiouswoman]

Btw it takes only 3-4 days for a new environment or person in your life to start influencing your thoughts, mindset and habits

3–4 days: Emotional/mental influence starts

7–10 days: You start mirroring language, mood, or energy

21+ days: Habits and deeper mindset shifts start embedding

66 days (on average): A new behavior becomes automatic

Choose wisely what (and who) you let around your nervous system