Clever but devastating

Black. Feminist. Baker. Movie lover. Gamer. Collector of random hobbies

[afloweroutofstone]

Bess Levin, Vanity Fair

[unfriendly-black-redhead]

So thanks to TikTok I’ve basically self diagnosed my ADHD, but I contacted my local university’s psychology department about their adult ASD testing because they’re one of the few places near me that actually do adult testing. They told me that the wait time is about a year and a half right now. I’m looking into other places but the list is incredibly short.

[filmnoirsbian]

For the record I would rather be a bookstore cat than a bookstore owner because I know nothing about running a business and it sounds boring and stressful but on the other hand I'm very good at lounging in warm places and looking cute which is a bookstore cat's whole job

[iamnotlanuk]

what really fucking bothers me in conversations about racism and saying that some work has racist elements people always counter with "I don't think the author had deliberate racist ideology in mind" cause it's like that doesn't fucking matter. it doesn't have to be deliberate to be racist. most people don't go hee hee hoo hoo I'm gonna put racist things in this. everyone was raised in a racist society and covert racism exists and yes needs to be examined in ourselves and everywhere and yes even in works you like author "deliberate" intent or no

[iamnotlanuk]

this applies to other forms of bigotry too. listen to the voices of those who have to live under systemic oppression

[thundergrace]

I...I don't know????

[thundergrace]

[thundergrace]

[3hobbitsinatrenchcoat]

[unfriendly-black-redhead]

Yesterday morning I took the littlest I nanny to target (he’s 22 months) and he had the nerve and audacity to pick up my coffee and throw it out of the cart. I’m still low key mad at him about it today but obviously he doesn’t give a fuck and thinks we’re best friends.

[manicmartyr-deactivated20250904]

can't believe people think harry potter could beat percy jackson in a fight when harry potter is literally british and percy is from new york

[thechanelmuse]

[moeeskeekin]

Literally the best post I’ve ever seen

[kofukune]

@wolfthedragon

[reputayswift]

Is there a word for that like, “bright darkness” you get in winter?? When it’s been snowing or it’s supposed to snow past sunset and the sky isn’t Dark Enough. One of my favorite things

[reputayswift]

Thanks to @raindropwindow and a handful of articles, it’s called snow albedo, skyglow, snowglow, or just light scattering! It’s the result of moon- or artificial light reflecting off ground snow, low clouds, or ice crystals.

[dndmemesposts]

[decepticonfetti]

[hanfu-mermay]

絨花 ronghua

👩🏻慕容意的手工

[ziseviolet]

Making DIY Chinese ronghua/絨花 (velvet flower) hairpins for hanfu. More information on ronghua here and here.

[roach-works]

do you ever behold a kind of craft you didn’t even know existed before now and experience a moment of pure unbridled lust

[polebunyan-deactivated20181114]

[yehudigorl]

tis the season

[aka-maayan]

I forgot about this

[tikkunhayam]

I haven’t seen this show up on my dash ONCE yet this Chanukah season I have to do everything by myself

[lawbreaker13]

Happy Chanukah, my peeps, enjoy

[thesundanceghost]

what was remarkable about matilda was that it was her actual family that treated her like shit, not an orphanage or a step-parent or that she was adopted or anything like that.  there was no reveal like miss honey is like “im your real mother” it was all about found family because her family was bullshit and that was just the way it was.  it is so rare to see a biological family portrayed as people who don’t get their kids and don’t treat them right in kids media

[funny-tik-toks]

[drunkenhills]

[not-a-space-alien]

Does anyone else feel, like, a weird inhibition against starting new TV shows?  Like, there are shows I want to watch but when I think about sitting down to start it something in me goes “no you can’t just do that.”  What am i waiting for?  I feel like I need to prepare?  Brain:  You have to wait.  Me:  Wait for what???  Brain:  WAIT

[yourrealitybeyondtime]

I found out recently that it’s due to not having enough emotional or mental space to process something new. Got too much going on in your own head/real life already.

[elidyce]

Me: I would like to experience this new thing.

My Brain:… no.

Me: Why not?

My Brain: Can’t do it. Not today.

Me: Whyyyyyyyy?

My Brain: Because we are processing at capacity and one more stream is going to crash the whole system. 

Me, aloud: I’m not in the mood to try (new thing) right now.

[seashells-and-bookshelves]

THIS IS A REAL THING??? ARE YOU SHITTING ME?!!?

[theeternalspace]

Wow. that explains… so much

[they-callme-ami]

No wonder I can barely start new anime or cartoons anymore.

[sanerontheinside]

[finnglas]

This also can be a very common issue for people with ADHD or other conditions that cause emotional dysregulation, even if you’re not actively Going Through Something at the time. Like, the knowledge that it’s going to evoke an emotional response in you means you’re more likely to keep putting it off because you have trouble returning to an equilibrium after an emotional spike. Like, shows that I have been REALLY INTO, like SUPER INVESTED, with lots of feelings involved – I have to take breaks between new episodes of it and go back to watching things I’ve already watched before that I know how they end, and I’m prepared for the emotions that go with them, to give myself a break from the emotional spikes and exhaustion of being surprised – even pleasantly – by the media I’m watching.

[netheritenugget]

Oh gdi…

[lyrslair]

It is worth noting, though, that technically at the present time we ARE all going through something (though the ADHD folks may notice we had this problem pre-pandemic as well).

Part of it for me is also I am running on such low bandwidth that I keep having to pause, rewind, and go back because my attention lapsed in the middle of trying to watch a new show.

[dynamite5ftjewishbitch]

@harrenhalsghosts Why I’ve never been able to keep up with your recs. (We call this process of want-to-watch-it-but-it-isn’t-Time-Yet “letting it marinate.”)

[kalihoffs]

Some fun Stardew Valley travel posters in honor of the recent revival of my og video game obsession. 

Update: Prints are up :) Click here for digital download and here for finished prints

[valilihapiirakka]

me drying the tears of a 6 year old at work: aw, i’m sorry, that’s rough - but look, you’ll probably feel way better about it once you’ve had a snack me, responding to my flatmate or partner being anxious: hmm fair but also you’ll probably feel better if you eat something me, responding to my mum telling me she can’t get past feeling constantly tired: and are you sure you’re eating enough? like, stuff with protein and carbs and fat? me, forgoing a real dinner to get more stuff done, feeling like shit: by Talos,