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A notebook for all things

[what-even-is-thiss]

The American mindset, that being distantly related to a farmhand who left in 18-something, somehow means you have meaningful claims to a country's citizenship is unironically insane.

That’s literally how German citizenship works currently lol

[what-even-is-thiss]

If my direct ancestors had registered at a German consulate when they came to the US I would already be going through the process of getting German citizenship. The only reason I’m not is that they were poor and didn’t have time for it.

Poverty cuts off one’s ties to the old country and makes people say you have no claim to it. Interesting, that.

[what-even-is-thiss]

You know until relatively recently German citizenship only followed the father? Meaning someone born outside of Germany to a German mother and non German father had no right to citizenship.

These rules are made up. They’re stupid rules. Citizenship requirements for residence somewhere are stupid. I’m not allowed to live in a place that I have cultural ties to and have family living there. Is that not stupid? Like what’s your requirements for who deserves to live in a place?

[onetruelurker]

My partner’s dad is exploring Italian citizenship and interestingly enough his grandfather had to renounce his Italian citizenship when he was naturalized an American - but his grandmother didn’t have to because she was a woman. If your ancestor renounced citizenship you can’t claim descent but if they didn’t you can. So currently the family’s citizenship case rests on a sexist legal loophole from the early 1900s.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Ah, citizenship law. I hate it so much.

[unseenmonstermuse]

VERY unpopular opinion humans were never meant to be this busy that’s why everybody is anxious and depressed.

[herfleur]

girl, your competition isn’t other people

it’s your bad habits ⋆ your distractions ⋆ your insecurities ⋆ your lack of discipline ⋆ your procrastination ⋆ your ego ⋆ your fears ⋆ your broken routine ⋆ your addictions ⋆ the person you don't want to be anymore

[stuckinapril]

I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.

[lutalical]

[classycookiexo]

[kosmogrl]

july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good july will be good

[t4nku-deactivated20260714]

I legit needed to hear this

[stuckinapril]

Controversial take some of u will get defensive at, but there IS a right way to give advice (in my opinion). I recently discovered this when I made friends with my former bar manager, a guy in his 50s whom I’m literally in love with (platonically lol). I frequently ask him for advice, and he doles it out to me freely, but he’s also always like “you have it in you to figure this out.” He’s always like “you don’t need me for this; you have it in you.” He’s always reminding me that I have the capacity and experience and emotional intelligence to work through even the toughest weeds. That’s the way to give advice. If you’re not bolstering your friend’s confidence, if you’re not inquiring about their own thought process, if you’re just caustically cutting them off with advice every single time, I’m sorry but to me that’s doing it wrong.

[grilledpeachh]

First, you realize you’re a once in a lifetime woman, then it clicks that it’s never your loss.

[2productive]

Starting over resuming after falling off track

* Accept that setbacks are part of the process and are experienced by pretty much every person who has dared to go after something they want. You haven’t failed. You just were on an unplanned break. Resume. Now. Literally right now.

* Focus on your very next forward-progressing choice instead of trying to fix everything at once. Like what can you do in the next 5 minutes to get back on the wagon. 

* Identify what caused you to fall off track so you can plan for it next time and avoid it easier.

* Begin with small, manageable habits, not an overly ambitious plan.

* Clear your environment of distractions and make good choices easier. This includes your digital environment.

* Stop waiting for the "perfect" day, week, or month to begin again. Now is the time to take even a tiny step forward. 

* Use your previous progress as evidence that you are capable of succeeding, not as proof of your failure. 

* Set one simple goal for today and build momentum from there. I’m gonna keep telling you to do something today because you will not get back on track without action. Do it todayyyy.

* Always avoid “punishing” yourself with extreme diets/workouts, or overly rigid schedules. Why would you punish yourself for getting back up and moving forward? You should be congratulating yourself, silly. Don’t focus on how long you were down or lost progress, only focus on how you didn’t stay down and are trying again.

* Remember that consistency is built by returning to your habits repeatedly, not by never making mistakes. Literally everyone is making mistakes left and right but we get to the finish line by never giving up on our habits, even if it takes two or three times longer to reach success than we expected it to.

* Treat every setback as information that helps you create a stronger plan moving forward. Learn about yourself and what throws you off. Make a plan for yourself with this newfound knowledge in mind.

[elexecution]

there are too many things happening this summer that i'm thinking we are going to need an extra 6-12 months of june and possibly another 3-4 months of july. probably no extra august as the problem should hopefully sort itself out by then. we are also looking into extending the day night cycle to 55 hours and extending the human lifespan to 10000 years.

[the-supernatural-atheist]

if theres one thing that really pissed me off from my 3 years of architecture i took in high school it's learning about how we used to have all these little techniques to maximize or minimize heat or warmth and now we just merrily abandoned all those to have the same copypaste style buildings everywhere that are often INCREDIBLY unoptimized to the local weather and climate so we can just throw more money at our heating and cooling bills

[the-supernatural-atheist]

where i live it is hot as balls approximately 80% of the year. i do not want a massive butt-ugly grey mcmansion with a huge echoey open-concept kitchen-livingroom-foyer-diningroom-staircase that has huge windows so i can have an hvac unit the size of a barge heaving and straining to keep it at a constant 72 the grees. i want a north indian traditional style home with small windows to force the airflow to cool, decorative grates to limit the amount of sunlight, and a COURTYARD with a POND *smashes unspecified large object*

[makaeru]

I hate learning about instances of "oh yeah we know how to do that, we just don't".

[marzipanandminutiae]

this is exactly why I love talking about historical passive heating and cooling techniques

oh wow the glass-tower office buildings we constructed when we thought air conditioning and central heating would never have downsides...have downsides?

and we're still building them?

while the Victorian house museum where I work, with thick walls and small windows and big wooden shutters stays ~10 degrees above (winter) or below (summer) the outside temperature for days on end with no help at all?

uh. okay then

(also public transit. the history of public transit in the US is infuriating, because we had it! and then we destroyed it!)

[headspace-hotel]

THIS IS SO TRUE

[headspace-hotel]

in some cases it goes back to colonialism. colonizers trying to put a certain aesthetic that was thought of as more valuable or attractive in a place we were trying to force to be the way we wanted.

Trying to import a new culture, and replace the old culture, bringing in the architectural ideas of the old place. ignoring the local climate and ecology

[bitchesgetriches]

I know it's not the point, but I still want to add our guides for surviving without climate controls.

25 Tricks to Stay Cool WITHOUT Air Conditioning

Ask the Bitches: How Can I Survive in an Apartment with No Heat?

[deathstars]

HELLO ! have you thought about Van Gogh’s First Steps today ?

[deathstars]

Here you go. This world is beautiful. Humans are beautiful. I love you

[wholesomepostarchive]

5/25/2026

[lavenderlemniscate]

feels like im always recovering. when do i get to live

[lavenderlemniscate]

"it's okay to rest for as long as you need from burnout" how long is it actually going to take though. there's stuff i wanna do.

[lucia-in-the-arena]

honestly? you have to meet yourself where you are, instead of running ahead and calling out to yourself to catch up.

I defended my thesis last autumn and couldn't bring myself to do any of the work I'm passionate about for almost 6 months. then I gave in and focused on taking care of myself like I would take care of a child. only then my body responded and I'm back to doing science that fascinates me.

[bitchesgetriches]

"taking care of myself like I would take care of a child."

Honestly... this is such a good technique. We often treat ourselves worse than we would our loved ones, which is a very bad thing! When you're burned out, you deserve rest, and care, and love. Yes, it's a lengthy process. We wrote about how to get started here.

[sadclowncentral]

to me, the cruelest thing that eva stratt does is not the kidnappig itself. it's that she tells grace that he does not even have a dog. dr ryland grace, a man who dedicated his life to the greater good, first to science and then to teaching, does indeed not have a dog. and because of this, he has to spend his last precious moments on his home planet with the full knowledge that while he might be smart enough to save the world, he is not loved enough by anyone on it to be worth saving

[thevulturesquadron]

text: [ “Some of you have forgotten that only three years ago you were perfectly capable of writing an essay, writing a eulogy, telling a bedtime story to a child, and it should worry you that powerful companies have convinced us we can’t do things we’ve been doing for 5000 years.” ]