How to tell you're genderfluid: A list of experiences
You have "identity issues" and constantly change how you identify
I kept constantly changing my identity. I could never stick to one identity. I was never permanently happy. These "identity issues" you have may just be genderfluidity.
You feel like a different gender depending on your environment or who you're with
For me, when I'm online and in the company of other trans people I usually feel masculine, bigender, or like a man. When I'm alone I feel the same way. When I'm with my partner or with female friends I feel feminine or like a woman.
Some days you have dysphoria and other days you don't
Somedays I just want to rip my afab body parts off. some days I want amab body parts. Some days I'm happy with and love my female body parts. Some days I feel neutral about them.
You're constantly changing your pronouns
Not every genderfluid person is pronounfluid, but some are! I used to change my pronouns a lot and still do to an extent.
Sometimes your assigned pronouns feel good, but other times they make you uncomfortable
Some days you may feel content with someone using your "assigned pronouns", but other days it may cause dysphoria or uncomfortableness.
Your mental health isn't in the best shape
We usually can't take permanent measures such as medical transition, so it usually leads to us having lots of distressing moments. This includes dysphoria and being perceived as a different gender than you feel at the moment.
You wish you could shapeshift
This one sounds funny, but this is an experience I've had a lot. I wish I could shapeshift into whatever gender I'm feeling like at the moment. Sometimes I wish I had a machine I could step into that would change my gender whenever I wanted.
Gender changes can happen every week, every day, or even throughout the day. There are many ways that people experience genderfluidity. I used to think I couldn't be genderfluid because my gender changed a lot throughout the day. That's not the case!
Every genderfluid person is different. One genderfluid person may have a collection of identities while another has a completely different set of identities. Even if they have the same identities, they still won't experience them the same way.
I am not claiming these experiences are universal. You may not experience some of these things and still be genderfluid! If any genderfluid person has any experiences they'd like to add, please do!
the progressive leaving people's body when they hear about mspec gays, he/him lesbians, she/her gays, multigender people, oriented aroaces, xenogenders or any other "weird" queer label:
y'all care so much about queer people until we aren't queer in a way that aligns with your binary world view
Man, being pronoun fluid is annoying as hell sometimes. Sometimes I wish I had a set that I would stick to all the time, but then I realize that I'm thinking this way to try to make other people comfortable instead of myself. Catering to cis people or even just binary trans people who are weird about gender-variant people will never help.
Making Etsy collections of things you'd wanna buy your f/o is self-care. Like yes, my husband would want a big ass basket of just straight-up cheese and oddly specific shirts about cigars.
It took over a year for me to find a dakimakura of my main f/o after his initial release that accurately portrayed his body type, and didn't make him skinny or have abs and I'm still annoyed by it. Fandom artists stop making canonically fat characters skinny to make them āattractiveā challenge k thanks :)
the people fearmongering about bdsm are the same people fearmongering about fetishes are the same people fearmongering about pornography are the same people fearmongering about trans women are the same people fearmongering about groomers are the same people making sure gay and trans people stay unsafe, btw
like i understand that a post about how womens agency and consent are being harmed by bdsm enjoyers might sound like itās making good points about feminism and sex, and i understand that we all can recognize the pornography industry as an inherent bad, like i do get where the belief in these sorts of posts comes from, but we are in the middle of a trans and gay hate wave. there are people online who want you to hate gay and trans people as much as they do, and the best way they have of doing that is playing into fears you already have.
bdsm isnāt evil. sex work isnāt evil. SEX isnāt evil. exploitation is. and blaming individuals having a good time together rather than the systems in place that harm all of us is ridiculous. and also itās helping terfs, who will use these talking points to convince you that gay sex (especially the kinds that trans people āweirdosā are having) is wrong
if you want to support gay and trans people then you need to support those of us that you find repulsive. you donāt have to engage in weird gay sex if you donāt want to, or any sex for that matter, but you have to unabashedly support it. if we want liberation, it needs to begin with the most unacceptable, or it will not work. convincing your enemies that youāre āone of the good onesā will not save you. becoming a respectable gay will not save you. if you throw your gay siblings under the bus, it will not save you. the people who want you dead will not accept a barter, your siblings lives for their acceptance. they hate you already, the same way they hate me. you are no different than the leathermen and the piss pigs and the boot worshippers and the doms and subs, at least in their eyes. you will always be a faggot.
donāt be fooled by the posts about which types of sex are bad. theyāre made to try and get you to agree with fascists. i know you want to be good, i get that, but sex is not the opposite of good.
Patr30n piece! But Iāve been messing around with the idea of a pack of transmasc werewolves for a while now and this was a fun chance to get to explore That and get out some character ideas I had.
All the characters here are trans masc! Going from left to right: The red head is Elijah (he/him), guy in the middle is Micah (he/they), pink hair is Freja (Any Pronouns), Blond growly man is Luther (he/it), and the large black wolf is Jude (they/them)! (Not sure about the wolf in the back ground I just needed to fill space lmao)
Tired of allo people who still push the idea that asexuals need to be babied and protected regarding discussions or even just mentions of sex, kink, and masturbation and that we're ALL repulsed by them. Just wait til they find out that asexuality is a spectrum and that a lot of us enjoy some or all of those things. And just because some asexuals are uncomfortable with these topics doesn't mean you get to treat them like children because of it.
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