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user killalllesbians comes under your post to lecture you on empathy.

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always very annoyed when summer rolls in and men start going out without a shirt. god forbid anyone can see an outline of woman's nipples, but men's whole chests out are fine. nobody's pointing fingers. nobody's whistling. alright.

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i despise that the two options are wear a bra (sweaty) or get stared at/whistled at/sexualized by passerby men (disgusting).

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always very annoyed when summer rolls in and men start going out without a shirt. god forbid anyone can see an outline of woman's nipples, but men's whole chests out are fine. nobody's pointing fingers. nobody's whistling. alright.

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i don’t care about any of those things, i just refuse to present in any way except the way i find the most aesthetically attractive. it just doesn’t make sense or seem very productive to engage with all feminine women like they’re all liars. you’re not going to persuade any feminine woman to give up femininity that way.

how does it not embarrass people to admit that they don't want to care or think.

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i don’t care about any of those things, i just refuse to present in any way except the way i find the most aesthetically attractive. it just doesn’t make sense or seem very productive to engage with all feminine women like they’re all liars. you’re not going to persuade any feminine woman to give up femininity that way.

how does it not embarrass people to admit that they don't want to care or think.

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i find people coming to my posts with the intention of honorably defending women's right to perform femininity very silly since it is just so often the consensus that those who reject femininity must be ugly joyless lesbians (derogatory, obviously). it is simultaneously totally cool not to perform femininity (so don't you dare insinuate that the choice to do so is impacted by external factors) and very telling of who you are (a bad woman and an unhappy one). but sure, it's me who is being mean. i am the problem.

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does it make more sense that some women enjoy a feminine aesthetic or that all feminine women are liars?

define feminine traits/things and provide the reasoning for why those traits/things must be feminine.

think whether the traits/things you have named are untouched by misogyny. are women specifically encouraged to possess those traits/things? is there a punishment (such as social exclusion, mockery, or wrongful assumption) for not possessing those traits/things?

does a personal enjoyment of a trait/thing you have been taught to enjoy/have a need for as a woman take away the potential of a punishment should you reject it? does it take away the profit others get in having it be reinforced through you that the possession of that trait/thing is necessary to qualify as a normal woman?

bonus questions to ask:

what do you think it reveals about "feminine" women that despite their femininity being societally encouraged they believe themselves to have been untouched by that encouragement?

why does a suggestion that femininity is harmful to women as a group provoke such a strong reaction in "feminine" women? if they perceive the widespread social encouragement to be of no relevance, why does a criticism from a significantly smaller social group upset them so?

does enjoying a thing make it any less harmful? do you perceive people talking about the detriment of smoking as hating each personal smoker? if no, why is it that femininity in particular is the subject which should remain beyond criticism in your eyes?

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How are you holding up?

i'm assuming that this is in reference to russia's most recent large scale attack (600 drones, 90 missiles. four people killed, about a hundred injured, including children. chornobyl museum destroyed. lukianivka centre burned to the ground), so thank you for asking. i'm fine. luckily, my home has not been impacted, and neither have been my loved ones. mostly just exhausted by the knowledge that russians will keep doing this for as long as they can.

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air raids always remind me of this poem by victoria amelina. killed by a russian missile in the summer of 2023.

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How are you holding up?

i'm assuming that this is in reference to russia's most recent large scale attack (600 drones, 90 missiles. four people killed, about a hundred injured, including children. chornobyl museum destroyed. lukianivka centre burned to the ground), so thank you for asking. i'm fine. luckily, my home has not been impacted, and neither have been my loved ones. mostly just exhausted by the knowledge that russians will keep doing this for as long as they can.

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part of the need to lie about gender conforming practices being pleasing to the individual outside of what social reaction they invite has to do with a very universal human shame, but part of it, i think, comes from a woman-specific temptation to pretend like the cage we are in isn't even a cage. to be aware of how much of your life isn't yours and how many sacrifices you need to make in order to take it back is painful and offers no immediate relief, so instead it's much more tempting to smile sarcastically and go "well I am decorating MY cage because I want to, so clearly it's not even a REAL cage".

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women keep trying to invent the kind of femininity that will be subversive revolutionary and untouched by misogyny so that they don't have to feel bad for wanting to enjoy the social benefits of performing it but they can't and they never will because the express purpose of femininity is to shackle women up. so that's that.

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https://www.tumblr.com/veritablevent/812985950306287616/women-have-to-live-with-the-constant-awareness-of

So when you're home alone you're still in flight or fight because someone might rape you?

note the framing of me as a crazy paranoid lady for daring to think and talk about the prevalence of rape. also note that this is said by somebody who lives in the same reality as me and you, the reality in which rape is commonly committed not by strangers but by people you invite into your home. your lovers, your friends, your family. note all of this and remember it the next time people tell you that we have gone too far with the modern definition of rape or the open discussion of it.

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genuinely what world are these people living in. gaiman's works are still regularly trending. good omens will still get its next season (albeit shortened). coraline doll was released well after it was clear that gaiman is a serial rapist, and it still sold out in mere minutes. nothing's changed for him. he is still getting his money from his artistic properties (yes, including good omens). he is still socially accepted, so much so that he has already tried to do a rebrand. he is still trying to silence his victims by forcing them to pay the money they do not have. he is still doing just fine, actually. and yet it is him who is the lesser evil (as compared to a woman funding a shelter for rape survivors), and it is him who has been "punished" enough. right. sure.

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good omens season 3 is coming out may 13th.

it will trend on tumblr. for days.

it won't. "neil gaiman has actually experienced more consequences than she has!"

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i love your blog, im so sorry you have to go through so much evil in this world

thank you for caring, anon! for all the weird interactions i get on here sometimes, this blog has also been good at reminding me that it's not just gloom and doom out there. i am glad to have it.

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I must have worded that last ask poorly sorry. I was agreeing with your stance. That’s my bad!

oh, i see. i read the "random woman" part as ironic, so i thought that this was just one of the many "you are being a conspiracy theorist in recognizing misogyny" asks i get on here. my bad! and i should also pick up a book. for the good of us all.

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Oh you’re so right. Yea the whole “trump is a TERF” thing is always used to discredit some random woman rather than as a criticism of trump himself so that’s so true o7

you need to read a book.

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I agree with you on the gendered use of TERF to distinguish the person as female. At the same time though, I feel like a lot of TRAs aren’t even that smart. I’ve seen people call trump, epstein and musk TERFs. Like what the hell are you even talking about. Notable radical feminist epstein????

oh that's actually the point i was making with the comparison to other misogynistic lingo! for tras "terf" is the worst thing a person can be called, and that's because it describes somebody as not just a transphobe, but as a feminist woman transphobe. with time the words within the acronym have lost meaning (e. g. people on my post arguing that the first word is "transphobe" when it's actually "trans(-exclusionary"), but the meaning which the word itself is meant to elicit stuck around. thus, terf trump. if you dig deep enough, there's always a woman to blame.