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Extremes aren’t meant to be lived in, but they’re powerful places to begin. They show you what’s not working & force clarity by pushing you completely out of your comfort zone. But you don’t stay in the extreme. You move through it and somewhere along the way, you find your own balance & what actually works for you

lyouve

Books are so cool because there are no fucking ads in them

ruhaniya

being obsessed with your partner is so necessary for a healthy relationship. i can’t believe ya’ll made that corny. ego is insane.

liesandnights

Oh to be loved like a habit and not a chore. Oh to be loved because loving you is their default state of being and not something they have to perform like a duty. Oh to be loved because they don't want to live a life where loving you doesn't exist. Oh to be loved truly.

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How to stop comparing yourself to others

* Focus on whether you're improving ONLY compared to your past self, not someone else's past and present. You are your only metric. They are not your competition.

* Define success based on your own values instead of social expectations. It doesn’t matter if others find it impressive or awe-inducing. Do you like it? Are you happy with it? Are you proud to do it? Okay then. Always focus on building a life you genuinely enjoy rather than one that relies on the validation of strangers.

* Limit exposure to social media accounts that trigger unhealthy comparison.

* Keep a journal or simple log of your progress and know that lulls in growth are normal. Don’t expect to really judge your results until you’ve been doing something for maybe 1-3 years at least (depending on the pursuit).

* Don’t only allow yourself to feel pride when you hit major achievements, feel free to celebrate small things like doing something for 3 days in a row, doing it for 30 minute blocks consistently, etc. Be happy for yourself!!! Pat yourself on the back and say good job!!! Be your own source of praise and validation.

* Ask yourself what you can learn from others rather than what you lack. Be inspired, not jealous.

* Recognize that everyone starts from different circumstances and advantages and that they may be making good use of their starting point just as you can make good use of your starting point.

* Spend more time taking action toward your goals and less time monitoring others. If you spend an hour drawing and then an hour online feeling hurt by other peoples drawings, you should’ve been drawing for 2 hours and maybe you’d have something you’re proud of too.

* Practice gratitude for the opportunities, skills, and resources you already have. There are people behind you who can’t wait to be at your level, to have the tools/materials you own, and would love to be able to go to that class that isn’t available in their area.

* Stop assuming that someone else's success automatically means less success is available to you. Stop with the “there can only be one” mentality.

* Measure progress by consistency and effort, not by speed. If someone learns something in a year but it takes you 5 years, who cares? You both learned it, hooray!

* Study the habits behind someone's achievements. Have a students mindset and perhaps you can adopt some of their methods you may not have considered. Use others' success as evidence of what's possible.

* Acknowledge your strengths twice as often as you notice your weaknesses.

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Staying positive during slow progress

* Focus on long-term consistency rather than speed.

* Keep a record of your efforts so you can see progress that may not be obvious day to day.

* Make your main source of pride and celebration come from the process itself, such as completing workouts or studying, not just outcome-based goals. This is key to making a lifestyle of something.

* Compare yourself only to where you started, not to other people’s timelines and progress.

* Remember that meaningful change often happens gradually before it becomes visible.

* Break large goals into smaller milestones to create more opportunities for the feeling of success.

* Practice gratitude for what your body and mind can do right now while working toward more.

* Slow progress is still progress, one small step at a time, one day at a time.

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Starting over resuming after falling off track

* Accept that setbacks are part of the process and are experienced by pretty much every person who has dared to go after something they want. You haven’t failed. You just were on an unplanned break. Resume. Now. Literally right now.

* Focus on your very next forward-progressing choice instead of trying to fix everything at once. Like what can you do in the next 5 minutes to get back on the wagon.

* Identify what caused you to fall off track so you can plan for it next time and avoid it easier.

* Begin with small, manageable habits, not an overly ambitious plan.

* Clear your environment of distractions and make good choices easier. This includes your digital environment.

* Stop waiting for the "perfect" day, week, or month to begin again. Now is the time to take even a tiny step forward.

* Use your previous progress as evidence that you are capable of succeeding, not as proof of your failure.

* Set one simple goal for today and build momentum from there. I’m gonna keep telling you to do something today because you will not get back on track without action. Do it todayyyy.

* Always avoid “punishing” yourself with extreme diets/workouts, or overly rigid schedules. Why would you punish yourself for getting back up and moving forward? You should be congratulating yourself, silly. Don’t focus on how long you were down or lost progress, only focus on how you didn’t stay down and are trying again.

* Remember that consistency is built by returning to your habits repeatedly, not by never making mistakes. Literally everyone is making mistakes left and right but we get to the finish line by never giving up on our habits, even if it takes two or three times longer to reach success than we expected it to.

* Treat every setback as information that helps you create a stronger plan moving forward. Learn about yourself and what throws you off. Make a plan for yourself with this newfound knowledge in mind.