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whimsical thoughts and whatnots | '98 baby | I'm not "it"

[vigoroussapphictiger]

Check out!!

My gore!

Bet yer wondering that's a nice little jug'a'gore

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made 5L of PURE brine (w a dash of color)

[lamiafemme]

You really start to understand that the “angry black woman” and “mean lesbian” stereotype only exists to shame us for the fact we get reasonably upset about people wanting to horrifically abuse us indiscriminately. Let’s get meaner !

[rhinco]

i understand that it's unreasonable to expect a band on world tour to play in every country in the world but i do think they should only be allowed to call it a world tour if they play in every continent. we need to make it embarrassing to say world tour and then not even step foot in africa

[fairycosmos]

the issue with growing up in the 2000s and 2010s was like there was this really big push toward "accepting your weirdness" overall but they meant like idk wearing mismatched socks or something not being tangibly beyond the norm in any way shape or form

[sawed-on-shotgun]

the human body when you use it and exist in it

[evilsoup]

this is just truthslop.you believe it because it happens to conform to reality

[zombie-luna]

[timidsketch]

I don't know whether or not this is true, but I'm reblogging this because we live in a world where the third search result when I tried researching the validity of this information was a link to an article about a weight loss product.

The second search result had included the slur "ob*se" in the title of the article.

There are seriously people who tell me fat people aren't oppressed. Meanwhile, trying to find information about how to keep a fat person from drying in a car crash is met with links to products that make dirty money off of how society views my body.

I immediately gave up trying to research this.

[squirreltastic]

The tiktok is correct. Basically it's about arranging your belt so it there is an accident the pressure is in your strongest bones.

[timidsketch]

"Seatbelt should be across your hips rather than your stomach for everyone, but i think it's more common for fat people to wear seatbelts over the stomach

Pelvic bones are strong and sturdy, and you're going to be MUCH less likely to injure internal organs and such when you suddenly slam into a nylon belt"

Text and photos by @thejacespace

I wanted to put both of these reblogs in one reblog chain since this is helpful information. Thank you both for giving more information than fatphobic Google did.

[mybigfatgaylife]

Thanks to everyone who worked on verifying this information.

[krisrisk]

I learned this while pregnant, so here's my advice for all my also-fat-people out there trying to look up information on stuff like this

Do NOT use the big G (google).

Do NOT use the big G. Use ecosia or duckduckgo or whatever

Look up the thing you need info on, but without any y for fat and instead use "pregnant"

For example, instead of

seat belt safety fat people

Or

seat belt safety chubby

Look up

seat belt safety pregnant

Instead of

Comfortable pants fat women

Look up

Comfortable pants pregnant

This will not help with the fatphobia, it will not make the internet better or spread awareness or sympathy

But it will help you find what ou need to know right know, so you'll have enough energy left to fight fatphobia irl

Also: there's things with which this will not help.

[battymoonflower7]

[Video ID: a Tiktok from user @ im.an.adult, sitting in a car and demonstrating with a seatbelt, saying: “If you’re fat and wanna survive car wrecks, you gotta have your seatbelt in the right spot. If it’s right here over your stomach, it can kill you. You want it to be under your stomach, pulled as tight as you can comfortably.” /end video ID]

[Image IDs: The first image is a screenshot of a Google search for the phrase “seat belt underneath fat stomach.” The image is cropped to show the top result, an article from Stylecraze titled “Can Slimming Belts Help Shed Body Fat: The Real Truth.” The article begins, “Getting rid of stubborn belly fat is not easy. But slimming belts are making promises to held shed 1-2 inches. Is that true or a gimmick?” The words “belly fat” and “belts” are in bold, indicating that they are keywords from the search.

The second image is a graphic of a person sitting with a seatbelt fastened. The graphic is labelled: “Position head restraint between top of your ears and top of your head. Shoulder belt is positioned across shoulder bone away from neck. Place lap belt across your hips below your stomach.”

The third and fourth image read as follows:

“In general, there are two parts to automobile seatbelts: the shoulder and lap belt. The shoulder belt is placed across the midpoint of the chest and shouldn’t be placed close to the neck, as this can increase the risk of injury.

The lap portion of the belt should be placed below the area of the stomach and against the hips. The tightness of the belt is also a factor in preventing injuries. Belts should fit comfortably without being too tight or too loose.

Injuries to the spinal cord, abdomen, and shoulders occur as a result of improper seatbelt use. Common injuries include dislocations, fractures, and internal bleeding.

Improperly worn seatbelts cause trauma to the body and its internal organs when involved in an accident. Seatbelts must be placed correctly on the body to minimize these and other injuries.”

/end image ID]

[chrisweedpiano]

one of my favorite posts of all time

[volach-deactivated20230326]

“When the handle has snapped off the basket that held all your eggs…” gone girl tier monologue

[womenintheirwebs-archived]

wow she read them down

[wanderingjunkdrawer]

When you manage a fabric store in a midwest town, you see this played out in real time. Young women coming in during that first year of marriage - when their husbands go to dental college - pert, bubbling with creative plans. Then, four years on, you help them shift to the reality of balancing budget with creativity - and they learn the value of that inexpensive flatfold table that they used to badmouth - to make that 2nd & 3rd baby their own quilts. And they're exhausted. And they're scared. And they are 1000 miles away from family.

And you have your staff play with their kids while you hold them in the tiny restroom as they come completely undone because they just found out that their golden boy husband is having an affair with the someone he's been doing residency with for the past three years.

He confessed that he'd rather be with the other woman but she's of a different faith and it's more important to have kids than to be happy. And no. No he will not grant her a divorce. And he will not stop seeing the other woman - because he's a man. It's his right.

TRUE story.

Also - She was NOT THE ONLY ONE to fall to pieces in our store for similar reasons.

I loath the ideology of "tradwives". It is a false doctrine preach by Patriarchy not a divine being.

It is the nature of evil to hide this way.

.

[jeza-red]

This is 100% what happened to the host mom I've been au-pairing for. And to many other moms my friends have been au-pairing for.

Married out of college, 4 kids, he spent 15 years building up his career while she took care of the house and the kids. When he was earning $600k a year suddenly he started to pull away - she wasn't as pretty anymore, the kids were loud, the house was a mess... She wasn't good enough anymore. He got himself a flat. He got her me and my precedessors to help with the kids. No, they can't divorce, that would make him pay her money for the kids and he didn't like that. Every once in a while a bill would be unpaid. My weekly checks would bounce. We lived in a $1,5mil house around DC and our gas or water was turned off more than once.

Somehow he was always out of money.

By accident she learned from a friend of a friend that he was actually seeing a young lady lawyer for a few years now. It wasn't her, it wasn't lost interest. He was just a piece of shit.

Thankfully, she had family that took no shit and they stood behind her and borrowed her money for lawyers to force the divorce now that she had proof of him cheating. She's spent tens of thousands to get there while he was resisting every step of the way - because without divorce he wouldn't have to pay her alimony, he could just throw scraps whenever he wanted and still pretend to be a good dad.

She's spent tens of thousands and two years to free herself from this man, and when she could finally go to work (thank fuck she finished college) she was earning $25k a year.

She only managed to get away with the support of her parents and family. Through the au-pair grapevine I've known other families like that. Too many. Lady down the street tried to commit suicide when same happened to her - she was from Taiwan and had no support to get free. And people around scorned her for being "dramatic" - women who held on to their places with their fingertips talked shit about her, because their own husbands would never...! Right?

Right?

[techmomma]

This? This is the kind of shit that first wave feminists and suffragettes were fighting against. Hell, even into second-wave feminism.

This? Is why conservatives want to take away no-fault divorce--because if some dude says no to a divorce and you don't have any (IRON-TIGHT) evidence of cheating? Then you're stuck in that situation and he doesn't have to pay a drop toward you and your kids. He can go get a flat, fuck his mistress, and you will starve with your kids until you can get some kind of proof of him cheating and a judge who likes you.

Now imagine all of this horror movie shit, AND you can't open a bank account without this piece of shit opening it with you. That was what women dealt with until about the 70s when we were finally allowed to open bank accounts with a man's signature.

That is what conservatives and fundies want to take you back to. When this shit was just the fucking norm.

There are old white guys still alive who remember who damn nice it was when a woman couldn't open a bank account without a man's signature and his dad could go live a double life with a mistress with zero repercussions and oh how they slather and drool for those times. And how they have waxed poetic about these halcyon days to their desperate daddy-issues sons now eager to please and without the social skills or emotional maturity to understand the fucked up nature of it all.

I'm willing to bet there's like 2 or 3 Tradhusbands(tm) out there for every Tradwife you see, they just haven't found someone they can sink their claws into. Which should maybe terrify you. This Tradwife(tm) movement should really be considered a canary in the coal mine.

[yokowan]

dont store a knife with the point facing down, it damages the blade. no, dont do that either. when you store it with the point facing up you might accidentally hurt yourself when you try to grab it. dont store a knife at all actually. your blade must never leave your hand, always ready, ruthless and waiting. you know deep down that ever since you learned the stench of blood you will never be able to cast it aside. or just get a sheath for it i guess.

[dogpuppy]

[theconcealedweapon]

[dogpuppy]

I wish I could have heard you sing this… I bet you have a beautiful voice

[sickdogs]

*takes a bite of my cigarette*...... heh. the character...... *walks into a small puddle but it swallows me up like the ocean* *i am found dead years later in maine*

[sometiktoksarevalid]

[galaxywarp]

once you realize you don’t actually need to sleep, you can really (stops talking abruptly and stares straight ahead for 4 minutes)

[vigoroussapphictiger]

Tune on in for my next project, I'm calling it fruit salad fingers