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My own writing and a list of sources about fatphobia

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This blog is mainly about fat liberation.

Important tags to filter are "tw eating disorders," "It's okay to eat food," and "fatphobe logic" if you are triggered by any talk of disordered eating, pictures of food, or want to see less of my responses to fatphobes.

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Please note that I have very bad executive dysfunction that makes it severely difficult to answer asks and messages (I have over 200 messages piled up from the past year as I write this). Not receiving a response immediately is solely due to my energy levels and how easy your ask/message is to reply to.

I block a ton of people due to my mental disorders that are easily triggered by many people's urls, blog bios, and profile pictures. If you follow or interact with me, there is a not low likelihood that I might block you, but I do not mean any ill will. If I blocked you, you're welcome to send me a message from a different blog to ask to be unblocked and I might do so.

People with eating disorders who are in recovery, have already recovered, or do not support the glorification of eating disorders are allowed to follow this blog. If you are a thinspo blog or look at thinspo, you will be blocked and reported. My blog is not your starvation hate porn.

People who aren't fat are allowed to follow and interact with this blog as long as you are not doing so for malicious purposes.

DNIs don't usually help much, but please leave me alone if you are a disability exclusionist, transandrophobe (we support transmascs here), any other flavor of exclusionist, fat fetishist, porn blog, thinspo blog, TERF, radical feminist, or support oppression/social hierarchies in any form. If you put one part of a marginalized group on top of everyone else, please leave me alone and respect my boundaries.

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[timidsketch]

Absolutely wild how disability exclusionists try to claim that mentally ill people dont have "real" disabilities and dont experience "bad enough" oppression. Their heads have got to be in their asses with their eyes closed shut as tight as possible.

-Mental asylums where mentally ill people were tortured and killed.

-Lobotomies

-The horror film industry is almost entirely based on stereotypes and societal fear of mentally ill people.

-Mentally ill people are disproportionately targeted with police brutality and incarcerated at far higher rates than ethical, often leading to the death of the mentally ill person while in police custody.

-True crime influencers and YouTube channels often solely focus on crimes committed by mentally ill people because that's their audience's favorite form of entertainment, because saneism and spreading stereotypes about mentally ill people makes the big bucks. There's a plethora of true crime channels that only post about crimes committed by mentally ill people. Their comment sections are full of ableists who believe that mentally ill people are inhuman and should be killed and locked up.

Most go-to insults, particularly the insults believed to be "tame," are insults that specifically make a comparison to mentally ill people. "Psycho," "psychotic," "psychopath," "sociopath," "schizo," "crazy," "insane," "loony," "narcissist," "bipolar," "mental," etc. Try going through your day and counting how many times people use ableist language against mentally ill people. You'll lose count by 10 AM. Some people will say this language multiple times in a single sentence. These insults are extremely normalized and accepted even by people who claim to be progressive. And these words are especially used when talking about criminals or murderers or "bad people." If somebody describes an infamous murderer, they usually start with words like "crazy," "insane," and "psycho." They'll call the criminal "psychotic" despite not knowing what that term even means. They assume that any criminal, any murderer, MUST have a severely stigmatized mental illness in order to do the crimes they committed.

-Mentally ill people are used constantly as scapegoats in society, such as when legislators weaponize the existence of mentally ill people for the purpose of passing harmful policies. Gun violence? Just blame it all on mentally ill people!

-Mentally ill people experience severe job discrimination and workplace harassment. It's incredibly difficult for mentally ill people to get hired.

-Today's psychiatric hospitals are still incredibly harmful, traumatizing, and unethical. It's common to leave these hospitals with more trauma than before you were hospitalized against your will. Your rights get taken away. You get viewed like you're not a fellow human being. You're trapped in that hospital indefinitely and aren't allowed contact with the outside world. All of your belongings are taken away. You're given a strip search at midnight. The walls are bare with the smallest windows conceived by humankind that are placed at the very, very top of the wall near the ceiling. And while you're imprisoned there, you're usually mistreated and traumatized further.

-Mentally ill people get excluded from the disabled community and disability activism until we're silenced. I cannot even begin to explain how often I hear physically disabled people consider the opposite of the word "disabled" to be "able-bodied." We get shoved to the side by fellow disabled people and told we "don't have it that bad" while you trample on us. I have to check whenever a person says "disability" or "disabled" to see if the person is actually just talking about physical disabilities. So many organizations and non-profits say they help "disabled people" and use just the term "disabled," but then you look at their website and their organization's description. They only help physically disabled people. That's the only group they're meaning when they talk about "disabilities."

-The physical aspects of mental illnesses get ignored because "Your illness is mental, not physical 😊"

-The creator of cripplepunk was an extreme saneist who did not consider mentally ill people to be disabled.

Please start giving a fuck about mentally ill people. Please start including us in disability activism.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

i can’t believe people ever called tumblr an echo chamber or a “hugbox”, i have never in my life been exposed to a group of people so thirsty to disagree with you. why did someone just say they wished they could crucify me bc i said i liked oat milk best. we all need to learn some lessons about friendship here

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It's an "echochamber" for all of the people who enjoy hating and harassing. If you don't echo, the echochamber goes for your throat

[aropride]

could an average, able-bodied person reasonably walk from where you live to a library, in good weather?

yes, because i live at a school/college etc with a library

yes, very easily

yes, there's a library in a reasonable walking distance

yes, but it'd take a while / terrain would suck to navigate

yes, but it'd take so long / be difficult enough to do that nobody would

no, there's no library in a reasonable walking distance

Voting ended onApr 23

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Fucking wild how many people believe that only physical disabilities can affect your ability to do stuff like this. When are people going to start realizing that there's more disabled people than just physically disabled people?

[mysharona1987]

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I just spent 20 minutes writing a whole ass addition to this post including a bunch of tags, and of course tumblr decided to do a bullshit glitch and not post the reblog. So I'm just going to add this screenshot of fox news' new low.

[lonelydesolate]

did you know that trans men aren't trans? did you know that any trans person who isn't a transfem isn't actually trans? did you know that no transmascs or tme trans people have anything to offer and are all completely fucking worthless? i'm a transfeminist btw

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Trans radical feminists start like this:

And then eventually become this:

This is fucking horrific. Imagine hating anybody and everybody who isn't a trans woman, who isn't trans in the very specific way you are. Imagine believing literal hate speech like this is not only okay but good and that anybody who objects is just not "oppressed enough" to understand. The oppression hierarchies, anti-masculinity, transandrophobia, etc. on this website is out of control. Republicans who whine about the "far left" are full of shit. Simultaneously, this website has taught me that there is such thing as too "left," and that's when you go far enough left that you turn back around and find yourself on the right. When you have the same beliefs as radical feminists while complaining about needing to block said radical feminists, you need to sit down and take a hard look at yourself. If your problem with bigotry and discrimination isn't the bigotry and discrimination but instead who the target is, you've admitted to yourself that you don't actually care about oppression and equality. You solely care about convincing people to allow you to harm others without consequences. This bigot is lucky that I despise callout posts enough to not show their url. Fuck people like this.

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If this is just "venting" to you, I seriously question your morals and how you treat other people. The fact that your opinion of radical feminism changes depending on if the person spouting radical feminism is a trans woman or not is incredible. Bigotry, discrimination, oppression, etc. do not get exceptions when you actually give a shit about equality instead of pretending to have that value.

I cannot emphasize this enough:

When your problem with discrimination and oppression isn't the discrimination and oppression but instead who the target is and who gets the chance to be a bigot, then you don't actually give a fuck about equality and never have.

The point of equality is to end discrimination and oppression altogether, not to change the leader board. I can't believe I even have to explain this to you. No wonder you both are exclusionists.

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Trans radical feminists start like this:

And then eventually become this:

This is fucking horrific. Imagine hating anybody and everybody who isn't a trans woman, who isn't trans in the very specific way you are. Imagine believing literal hate speech like this is not only okay but good and that anybody who objects is just not "oppressed enough" to understand. The oppression hierarchies, anti-masculinity, transandrophobia, etc. on this website is out of control. Republicans who whine about the "far left" are full of shit. Simultaneously, this website has taught me that there is such thing as too "left," and that's when you go far enough left that you turn back around and find yourself on the right. When you have the same beliefs as radical feminists while complaining about needing to block said radical feminists, you need to sit down and take a hard look at yourself. If your problem with bigotry and discrimination isn't the bigotry and discrimination but instead who the target is, you've admitted to yourself that you don't actually care about oppression and equality. You solely care about convincing people to allow you to harm others without consequences. This bigot is lucky that I despise callout posts enough to not show their url. Fuck people like this.

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

imagine living somewhere flat….with like……almost no hills…..what do you guys do for fun get picked off by birds of prey or

[mydownloadedfyp]

Not my vid

[fvckw4d]

Its not that trfism is an accident but it's really funny how often they will describe "tme" privilege and it is clearly pericis privilege. "When I go into the trans community there is afab-only groups and housing and programs everywhere" you are describing things for pericis women. When you say "afab-only housing", you are describing a Woman's Shelter For Pericis Woman. They are notorious for kicking out "afab" trans and intersex people as well. Most of the these groups and programs are. Because they are for pericis women.

[timidsketch]

I'm in an entry-level mental health field job and was talking to my coworker. We started talking about NPD, and she remarked how she couldn't imagine working with an actual "narcissist." I've learned that the best way to improve the mental health field in these types of moments isn't pointing out the person's ableism directly. The person becomes defensive and an argument starts. Instead, I commented how hard I imagine it must be to get support while having that diagnosis and how I would feel if I knew that even going to a therapist would likely involve me being stereotyped and misunderstood (this was just an example I used, my coworker and I aren't therapists). My coworker sat there and thought about that, actually coming around to agree that that sounded very hard and seemed to develop more empathy for people with NPD after that exchange. I also told her about Travis McElroy, who has NPD yet isn't how she imagines people with NPD to act like.

It's hard knowing that I can't magically fix sanism and fatphobia, but I can at least plant the seed so the next people can help that seed grow.

[depsidase]

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Ableist language shouldn't be used in general, but especially not when talking about this

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Most of the views in online progressive spaces are just "The bad thing is actually okay and good as long as it's done by us this time for the purpose of revenge."

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This is your daily reminder that the opposite of disabled is not able-bodied! Physical disabilities are not the only disabilities that exist. Stop erasing people with mental illnesses and other mental disabilities. So many of us already feel unwelcome and unheard in the disabled community. Painting the opposite of disabled as "evil able-bodied people" only harms fellow disabled people. I'm tired of having to prove that my disabilities, suffering, and the ableism I face matter. I'm tired of seeing a blog about "disabilities" that only ever talks about physical ones. If you want to make a blog or post specifically about physical disabilities, then specifically say "physically disabled." It's not hard to add a single word to your post to keep it from alienating and demonizing the fellow people in your community who also suffer.

[sjw-cafe-mew-mew]

"Oh no I definitely want to support nonbinary people. Yeah, totally. But first you have to let me sort you into these two boxes. What? No no these boxes aren't just assigned sex at birth! It's totally different! Also I'm choosing which one of you goes in which box based on your asab. But it's totally not just asab again! You see, there's also arbitrary moral judgments! Totally different! Why aren't you getting in the box?"

[sequentialprophet]

One foot backflip. Unreal.

[sunshine304]

[queenofattolia]

#justice for surya bonaly who did this 30 years ago and got penalties for it#but ofc if a white man comes around that everyone fawns over it suddenly is super fine (via @sunshine304)

[rororoyourboatthefuckaway]

Hey fun fact this skill was unbanned in 2025 after Adam Siao Him Fa of France completed the skill through the 2023-24 season (he called it “the French touch” crediting Surya)

After he spent a majority of the season proving that the skill could be completed safely, (taking penalties for it and still winning anyway like a boss) the rules panel for once in their life listened to reason and unbanned the skill

So don’t give credit to Ilia for bringing this skill back, or claim it’s only fine now bc a white man is doing it.

Adam Siao Him Fa and Surya Bonaly are the only reason we get to see backflips in figure skating and they both deserve their flowers.

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This is why it's good to treat comments like queenofattolia's response with a grain of salt. A stranger on the internet very obviously trying to stir up anger on purpose about two gifs that had been posted with zero context. No evidence for their claim, likely causing this to be an assumption or (at best) an educated guess. Their claim is also very emotionally and politically charged. All of this points to deserving major hesitation before believing or sharing.

If you see a comment like this, try to research what the person is saying if you have the energy to. Maybe save the post and research it later. Look in the notes for any evidence even, though while remembering the credibility of Tumblr notes.

Nobody is immune to biases and making assumptions. Yes, even us as people in oppressed groups and who self-identify as "progressive" or what not. Spreading false information because you have a bias and assume a person with a specific identity is "bad" does not help anybody, especially not the movement for equality.