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C: From a very young age my mother made me aware of the fact that my being light-skinned (and especially being mixed) would afford me a life better than hers. She told me that I would be liked more, that people would inherently find me pretty. And knowing my mom, I believed her. And as the years went on I saw it. I saw how stylists would have a fit over my curls and go crazy over all the things they wanted to do, then look at my mom’s kinky curls and ask her when the last time she used a relaxer was, cause’ she ‘clearly needed a new one’. I saw how when I was alone I just felt like a person around people, only occasionally being stereotyped, but with my mom I saw people treating her as if she were a glass of kool-aid adorned with fried chicken earrings and a fro to top it off; they only saw a stereotype in her dark brown skin. I realized the difference in how people treated me once they met her. Saw my friends go from being normal to suddenly asking me if I knew how to braid hair, and if my curls were real or if they were ‘weaved’, and if I liked this rapper such-and-such, and it confused me, because they knew I didn’t listen to rap. But she had taught me already and the confusion was only brief until I understood that brown to them was something foreign. And then I’d point out their stereotyping and they’d immediately get defensive. “I’m not racist, I have black earrings!” And whatnot. I saw how in stores when I would buy things with my debit card, I’d be sent off with a smile, and also saw in the same store that my mother would be asked for her I.D. And when asked they’d simply say it’s a 'policy change’. I clearly saw the difference and to see other light-skinned people ignoring these obvious differences in treatment and perception pisses me off. Some of you have dark-skinned parents like me and you’ve seen it yourself. You know exactly what the differences are but you’re caught so far up your own that you don’t even want to admit it. Keep telling yourself that you’re just 'trying not to let the whites divide us’ while you bask in their compliments, furthering you from 'other blacks’. Keep batting your eyelashes as they tell you you’re 'pretty for a black girl’ and keep lying to yourself and thinking that the solution is to pretend we all have it the same. So you benefit from your light-skinned privilege AND don’t have to hear about the struggles of dark-skinned people. Almost like white people wanting to ignore racism…so they can enjoy their privileges without hearing about the struggles of POC. I always hear light-skinned people getting angry because they feel they’re being compared to white people but guess what? If we refuse to acknowledge our privileges while still benefitting from them… That’s all.

dailydoseoffeminism

Inaction breeds doubt and fear, while action breeds confidence and courage.

Dale Carnegie

#self-improvement

snakeminded-deactivated20211010

I fall in love with people’s minds. I fall in love with thoughts and ideas and words. That’s how I fall in love with people. That’s how I fall in love.

What it Means to be Demiromantic, an excerpt from my journal (via @snakeminded)

thesepaprhearts-blog

Click here for a Pinterest infographic of these books!

Cinderella

Cinder

What is Hidden

Mechanica

Gilded Ashes

Princess of Glass

The Ugly Stepsister

Sleeping Beauty

Princess of Thorns

Gathering Frost

A Kiss in Time

Kill Me Softly

A Wicked Thing

A Long, Long Sleep

Beauty and the Beast

Beauty

Cruel Beauty

Of Beast and Beauty

Beastly

Heart’s Blood

The Little Mermaid

The Summer of Chasing Mermaids

Mermaid: A Twist on the Classic Tale

Monstrous Beauty

Midnight Pearls: A Retelling of The Little Mermaid

The Twelve Dancing Princesses

Entwined

Princess of the Midnight Ball

The Princess Curse

Wildwood Dancing

Little Red Ridding Hood

Crimson Bound

Scarlet

Red Riding Hood

Princess of the Silver Woods

Sisters Red

Snow White

Stitching Snow

Fairest

Winter

The Shadow Queen

Snow: A Retelling of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs

Rapunzel

Cress

Rapunzel Untangled

Towering

Zel

Alice in Wonderland

Splintered

Insanity (Mad in Wonderland)

Alice in Zombieland

The Goose Girl

Thorn

Dearest

Peter pan

Wendy Darling: Stars

Tiger Lily

Second Star

Never Never

Other Retellings

Spinning Starlight

A Thousand Nights

Valiant

Unenchanted

The Wrath and the Dawn

The Wild Orchid: A Retelling of “The Ballad of Mulan”

The Isle of the Lost

Uprooted

My Fair Godmother

Scarlet

Enchanted

My Unfair Godmother

What is your favorite fairy tale retelling? Any retellings that aren’t on the list that you would recommend?

mydogsnokes-deactivated20150723

i miss when i was like 12 and it would be the night before a big field trip or something and i couldnt go to sleep because i was so excited. i miss being so into a book that i would stay up past my bed time reading it. everything seems so bland or something idk. i’m only 19 and everything is so tiring. i miss wanting to be awake

naked--thoughts

My pride is stronger than my feelings. don’t try to play me.

The realest struggle is wanting to watch tv but also really wanting to listen to music at the same time LOL

#first world problems #songs and tv #listening to tv #watching songs #songs #tv

kimpossibooty

Things That Happened On My First Day At Target

-Sold lingerie to an eighty year old woman

-Got a free salted caramel frappacino from the suspectedly gay barista, Parker

-Sold a bra to the mom of a sixteen year old girl who was cringing the entire time

-Had a very engaging conversation with a three year old boy about colors. We both like blue.

-Served an old woman who I thought had an impressive mustache, but it was just nose hair

-Watched her and two other women with her get trapped between two sets of automatic doors because they did not understand how to open them. How they got through the first set, I still do not know.

-Sold fifteen gallons of kitty litter to a soccer mom who refused to break eye contact

-Got a second free starbucks drink. This one was a pumpkin pie one that wasn’t even on the menu. I like this barista man.

-Gave dozens of children stickers. Several of them squealed when they got them. This is the best part of my job.

-Sold an old man $200 of furniture and got him to sign up for a Target credit card. Before he finished the last step, he turned and walked away with his cart without a word.

-He still hadn’t paid. I called him back and he apologized, saying “sorry, sometimes my diabetes makes me do that.” He didn’t finish getting the card.

-A woman came up with $220 of items. After a wad of coupons and a stack of free gift cards from other promotions, her total went down to $55. I want her to teach me.

-Saw a girl skipping down the aisle in what can only be described as a pink princess fairy wedding dress. She was filled with happiness and if I hadn’t been on the clock I would have taken her. At the very least, I want that outfit for my own.

-Got approached by a large man named Jason. He told me not to steal. I will take this advice to heart.

-Met a woman referred to only as The Cat Lady. She asked if I wanted her to buy me a keychain from Ross. I told her I had no keys. She nodded solemnly and walked away, whispering their exact location inside Ross, just in case.

-Got called into the HR Head’s office at the end of my shift. I was expecting to be yelled at for some reason. She and another lead showered me in compliments for ten minutes straight, saying a lot of managers had been saying great things about me all day. Not what I expected, but I’ll take it.