A list of things I'd potentially write about if I came back
Please not that this post is not meant to be a debate about any of these topics, just a list of things, Jesus please don’t send me your rebuttals already. If you have friendly comments about these or what sounds best or anything you want me to include, like subtopics, you can reply or message me I guess, but please don’t reblog
Maybe this sounds douchey or a little paranoid, but some of this is stuff I’ve been sorta working on and researching for a couple years now just without really publishing, I’d kinda appreciate if people didn’t take any of my ideas or opinions and sweep them out from under my feet, y'know?
Anyway
—Probably new blog rules, new blog “attitude” and why
—Problems with sex positivity; my personal experience with the actual harm it can do, personal experience as a bi survivor with compulsive sexuality, rape culture, consent models, and sex posis
—Problems with body positivity, generic “you are beautiful,” “intuitive eating;” my body feels and my idea (or desire or w/e) for an alternative movement
—Caregiving, emotional labor (omg such an important concept), expectations, consent, coercion, what I personally got wrong; men and mental illness and why I’m over every old white dude’s health issues
—Mental illness community, issues, ethics, abuse and abuse apologism, words and word use
—My health, chronic illness, whether or not I do, or have to, “count” as disabled, how I frame my health; disability and negativity; other illness-specific medical-y stuff, probably asks for advice
—Intersections between dysphoria, dysmorphia, disability/illness; weight and illness, and why I feel guilty for losing weight (connected to body positivity above)
—Autism community; definition and traits, “quirkiness,” “neuroscience vs. autism” and what both sides get wrong; aspies, science and who autism community is not; autism-related behaviors and competing needs, when aspie boys get a free pass; and why I don’t ever want to be called “neurodivergent” or “neurodiverse”
—ADHD ranting and questions because I was recently diagnosed and it explains a damn lot; self-dx and the pitfalls I hit with it (and maybe how to avoid them?), as someone who studies the brain
—Biphobia in the form of “punch-up” jokes that miss and hit bi women and shit “criticisms” of bi women from lesbians; why us bi fems who like men need to make space for bi fems who don’t; bisexuality and media, sex repulsion, survivors, grit, and why I’m fed up with tv
—Science, psychology, medicine, pseudoscience, source evaluation skills and scientific literacy
—Narcissism, hypocrisy, heratige and my “liberal arts education”
—My doggy, her rare chronic illness; how I’m 90% sure she’s doggy-autistic; practical advice for caring for sick pets; pets and expectations; a series of “sick person, sick dog” posts, cute doggy stories of my big brainweird mutt and what to do with a 65lb. dog that thinks she’s a cat—no, really. I’m such a pet parent I know I’ll talk about my doggy all damn day. SIDE NOTE: if anyone here happens to work in or around Cornell’s veteranary medicine department, please please hit me up!
—And the return of Shitty Boy Stories
Again, feel free to send friendly comments/suggestions and replies, but don’t reblog
So I'm in the process of formulating/writing an either long or multipart piece on consent models, consent education theory practice and examples, rape culture, relationships, sex positivity, sex moralism, compulsory sexuality, survivors and victims and liberation and language and coercion and differing spaces, and essentially I have enough swirling thoughts to formulate an entire treatise on sex x feminism and how that falls around us.
Thing is, this is either going to be a very, very, very long theory + personal post (I have ~8 pages of notes on just consent models) or a series of multiple still-long posts, so I don't know necessarily that tumblr is the best venue for this information. I'll let people know.
If you feel like helping, you can contribute by sharing your experiences with consent education, ranging from formal/sanctioned (school etc) to informal, from general spaces to feminist spaces, provided that it was consent education and not the absence of, including context, what else was taught, who taught it, examples, environment, etc.
Any ideas or comments, let me Know.
