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Hey Warriors! As many of you know, Warriors: C.A.R.E. is currently working to end the practice of non-consensual pelvic and prostate examinations by medical students in Connecticut. We are super excited to share our Change.org video, which centers the narrative of our incredible volunteer Livia. It's only 3 minutes, and it does a great job of explaining why we are working so hard to get this legislation passed.If you could share with your networks, we would so appreciate it!
The term has been bandied about a lot since the #MeToo movement began, but what does it really mean and where did it come from?
There are those opinion and news pieces that acknowledge toxic masculinity as palpable, dangerous, and solvable like “Toxic Masculinity is Everywhere. It’s Up to Us Men to Fix This” in The Guardian.
And then there are articles that reject the notion of toxic masculinity by conflating it with all masculinity, like a piece Fox News ran titled “Matt Lauer Was Fired a Week Ago for Appalling Behavior, Not ‘Toxic Masculinity.“
Not entirely unlike wind, gravity, and love, toxic masculinity isn’t something that can be held in your hands, turned over, and inspected.
But despite its intangibility, we know it when we see it from its effects — the lone gunman who massacred crowds of people at a concert in Las Vegas, the Orlando Pulse nightclub shooting (just about any mass shooting), Weinstein, James Toback, Kevin Spacey, and Brett Ratner, and the ubiquitous schoolyard bully who terrorizes the sensitive kid on the playground with taunts of “be a man.”
SISTER ADVICE - the public must process this concept and that means their entitlement to object to change.
BUT IT IS ESSENTIAL for our goals that first we separate out masculinity from toxic masculinity. The psy of change is similar to grief.
Just allow it to happen.
You don’t have to jump in and correct their mis-understanding. Let society and others do that energy work so that you don’t get pulled into their psy downfall.
Stand back and reserve your energy/serenity for when a woman of your caliber is needed.
Toxic Masculinity is something that is a serious issue, when men feel obligated to woman's bodies. They feel like its okay to do whatever they want and women can't say anything. Walking down the street and getting cat called, being anywhere and having a man looking at woman’s butt. It’s mansplaining. there are so many ways toxic masculinity presents itself.
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Warriors CARE is currently working to end the practice of non-consensual pelvic and prostate examinations in Connecticut. Our Change.org petition to end this abhorrent practice has gotten over 80,000 signatures, and we've connected with several legislators who want to get a bill passed! We are planning a direct action on February 9 - the first day of the 2022 legislative session - to help raise awareness. But for this to happen, we need help! We are raising funds to cover the cost of materials (ie signage, print outs of our petition, etc) as well as to cover travel costs. Please consider donating and/or sharing so we can make this happen! https://www.facebook.com/donate/311687227405645/
We are looking for Volunteers
We can't forget older women in #MeToo conversations about sexual abuse - Business Insider
Only 1 out of 24 cases of elder abuse are reported, according to the WHO. It's time that we take a stand to help older women live in safety.
Women above the age of 60 have the lowest reported cases of sexual abuse. But, that doesn't mean they don't experience sexual abuse. According to the World Health Organization, the prevalence of sexual abuse in older victims is 0.9% in community settings and 1.9% in institutional settings. While these statistics may not seem alarming, a WHO study also found that only 1 in 24 cases of elder abuse is reported.
There are a number of barriers older survivors of abuse — sexual violence in particular — face when reporting experiences of sexual abuse: namely, a lack of information about sexual assault, biases regarding older people's sexuality, and power dynamics.
Additionally, the majority of sexual abuse of older women happens in residential care homes, where nine studies from six different countries found that 64% of staff in residential care homes perpetrated some form of elder abuse in 2019. It's time that we address the causes of elder sexual abuse to support survivors and better prevent the issue among a growing and vulnerable population.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in Rape Survivors
PTSD is a reaction to being exposed to an event which is outside the range of normal human experience. Sometimes it is referred to as post t
Symptoms often present in Rape Trauma:
Intense fear, helplessness, or horror.
Repeated and distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions. Unable to distinguish between past events and reality. Such incidents are often called "flashbacks".
Distressing and or frightening dreams about the event.
Associating various words, happenings, or "triggers" to the actual event which then causes a "flashback".
Avoidance of anything that may "trigger" a flashback including not talking about the attack itself.
Pretending it nevertheless happened and an inability to recall anything about the attack, "denial".
A feeling of numbness, detachment or "unrealness" about everything.
A lack of emotion or inability to feel love or care about anything.
A feeling of depression and isolation.
A change in sleep patterns. More often or not the ability to sleep or stay asleep for any length of time.
A lack of concentration.
Avoidance of being touched, and shying away from loved ones. Sudden movements may startle.
A lack of trust in anyone, even close family or partners.
More irritable than usual. Outbursts of anger and crying. Mood swings.
A feeling of low self esteem and confidence.
A feeling of being dirty, or disgusting.
Deep embarrassment or shame. Sometimes self blame for events.
Bitterness and morbid hatred of the perpetrator, with a preoccupation of how to harm or humiliate them.
Loss of appetite or a change in eating patterns.
Intrusive Symptoms: Flashbacks
Intrusive symptoms can be described as those where the traumatic event "intrudes" into everyday life, and is re-experienced. These symptoms are often referred to as Flashbacks. The event is so real and so vivid it feels like the person is actually experiencing the trauma all over again. It is happening right in front of their eyes, and they can't tell what is reality and what is memory.
These flashbacks can range in severity from mild and brief to long and strong. They can involve both sensory perceptions and motor re-enactment too. During a flashback you may experience vivid images, strong smells, or noises. Some may even involve actually acting out a traumatic experience. Many times trauma survivors don't recognize that they are having a flashback nor remember afterwards what happened. It is not unusual for someone to faint or dissociate during a flashback and be unable to recall any part of the experience, even when a witness describes their behavior to them.
Sometimes after a flashback trauma survivors are aware of what triggered especially if someone else observes the behavior and recounts it to them, or if it is a recurring situation.
Sometimes these flashbacks occur as nightmares or bad dreams too. There is some evidence to suggest that traumatic nightmares occur in the earlier, lighter stage of sleep than other dreams, and are more easily recalled upon waking. Traumatic dreams may however contain accurate and inaccurate, literal and symbolic, information and should always be interpreted with caution.
Sometimes there is no actual reliving of the trauma itself, but instead survivors experience a sudden painful emotional breakdown. These can involve crying, anger or fear for no apparent reason, and can occur repeatedly like flashbacks. Sometimes a flashback can involve just having feelings that are far more intense than a situation calls for but would have been appropriate in the original traumatic situation.
The important thing to remember about flashback experiences, especially those related to abuse and rape survivors, is that they can make you feel as afraid, as helpless, and as out of control as you were during the actual trauma, even if you don't consciously remember it. Others have the experience of losing their sense of where the flashback stops and reality begins.
Women make conscious decisions every day about staying safe, but they consistently underestimate how much effort it all takes and what that means for their freedom.
Why it matters?
The vast majority of this work is preemptive. It’s the subconscious attempt to evaluate what one of my participants called “the right amount of panic” – never quite knowing if a behavior is an overreaction or if that reaction is actually the reason they avoided an encounter.
The trouble is, women are only ever able to count the times when such strategies don’t work – when they are harassed by a man, or assaulted. The work put into the successes – the number of times women’s actions prevent men from intruding – go unnoticed.
Today is Giving Tuesday, the international day of charitable giving. Please consider donating to Warriors to support our work advocating for survivors of abuse!!
Facebook will be matching the first $8 million in donations starting at 8am EST on Tuesday, 11/30. We also have a generous anonymous donor who will be matching donations through 12/8 so you have a chance to DOUBLE your impact!
Today is Giving Tuesday, the international day of charitable giving. Please consider donating to Warriors to support our work advocating for survivors of abuse!!
Facebook will be matching the first $8 million in donations starting at 8am EST on Tuesday, 11/30. We also have a generous anonymous donor who will be matching donations through 12/8 so you have a chance to DOUBLE your impact!
Parentification is a form of abuse where a child is forced to take on the role of a parent. It’s important to note that taking on responsibi
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My partner and I wrote a blog post about something we think needs more attention. And that is parentification trauma.
Parentification trauma is a very valid cause of trauma that typically results from a child and a parent essentially switching roles.
My article talks a bit more in depth about it, but know that if you have trauma from parentification, you are valid.
Iraqi man cries bitterly at the British Museum when he sees his country’s stolen cultural heritage on display.
Fri, Sep 10, 2021 “If Greg Abbott is as ‘anti-rape’ as he claims, why doesn’t he just lead The Texas state legislation to pass a law for $10K bounties on people who engage in or aid sexual assault?
Or is he opposed to that because it’s a slippery slope of vigilantism where men could be unjustly targeted?” - Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez, @aoc
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20 Years After Being Raped, I Still Struggle With PTSD.
PTSD is just one example of the lasting impact of rape. If left undiagnosed and untreated, this mental health condition is life threatening.
An estimated 24.4 million Americans have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that can develop from experiencing, or witnessing, a life-threatening event. The symptoms include insomnia, jumpiness, paranoia, suicidal ideation, self-injury and outbursts of extreme violence. In addition, PTSD sufferers often develop depression, anxiety and substance abuse issues.
Women are twice as likely as men to develop PTSD and the most common trauma women experience is sexual assault or child sexual abuse and rape is one of the highest risk factors for PTSD.
Though Black women are disproportionately affected by sexual abuse, rape, and domestic violence, we are less likely to seek mental health care due to cultural or financial barriers. Other deterrents include mistrust of the authorities and a mental health care system that caters to whites.
There are few PTSD treatment programs and recovery support networks available for women of color. Those who are fortunate to get screened for PTSD at a school, trauma clinic or hospital, may not have the money or insurance to get a professional diagnosis and begin treatment.
In the absence of sexual trauma, Black women still experience misogynoir – discrimination due to their sex and race – placing them at a higher risk of developing mental health conditions than their white counterparts.
Not only is racism linked to psychological issues including depression, anxiety, eating disorders and substance abuse – but research shows a link between sexism and PTSD.
Along with a widespread lack of awareness about PTSD leading to misdiagnosis and delayed treatment, Black people are less likely than whites to be offered the best available treatment. Yet, because Black women experience the most debilitating PTSD symptoms at a higher rate, finding an adequate mental health care provider is critical.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in Rape Survivors
PTSD is a reaction to being exposed to an event which is outside the range of normal human experience. Sometimes it is referred to as post t
Symptoms often present in Rape Trauma:
Intense fear, helplessness, or horror.
Repeated and distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions. Unable to distinguish between past events and reality. Such incidents are often called "flashbacks".
Distressing and or frightening dreams about the event.
Associating various words, happenings, or "triggers" to the actual event which then causes a "flashback".
Avoidance of anything that may "trigger" a flashback including not talking about the attack itself.
Pretending it nevertheless happened and an inability to recall anything about the attack, "denial".
A feeling of numbness, detachment or "unrealness" about everything.
A lack of emotion or inability to feel love or care about anything.
A feeling of depression and isolation.
A change in sleep patterns. More often or not the ability to sleep or stay asleep for any length of time.
A lack of concentration.
Avoidance of being touched, and shying away from loved ones. Sudden movements may startle.
A lack of trust in anyone, even close family or partners.
More irritable than usual. Outbursts of anger and crying. Mood swings.
A feeling of low self esteem and confidence.
A feeling of being dirty, or disgusting.
Deep embarrassment or shame. Sometimes self blame for events.
Bitterness and morbid hatred of the perpetrator, with a preoccupation of how to harm or humiliate them.
Loss of appetite or a change in eating patterns.
Intrusive Symptoms: Flashbacks
Intrusive symptoms can be described as those where the traumatic event "intrudes" into everyday life, and is re-experienced. These symptoms are often referred to as Flashbacks. The event is so real and so vivid it feels like the person is actually experiencing the trauma all over again. It is happening right in front of their eyes, and they can't tell what is reality and what is memory.
These flashbacks can range in severity from mild and brief to long and strong. They can involve both sensory perceptions and motor re-enactment too. During a flashback you may experience vivid images, strong smells, or noises. Some may even involve actually acting out a traumatic experience. Many times trauma survivors don't recognize that they are having a flashback nor remember afterwards what happened. It is not unusual for someone to faint or dissociate during a flashback and be unable to recall any part of the experience, even when a witness describes their behavior to them.
Sometimes after a flashback trauma survivors are aware of what triggered especially if someone else observes the behavior and recounts it to them, or if it is a recurring situation.
Sometimes these flashbacks occur as nightmares or bad dreams too. There is some evidence to suggest that traumatic nightmares occur in the earlier, lighter stage of sleep than other dreams, and are more easily recalled upon waking. Traumatic dreams may however contain accurate and inaccurate, literal and symbolic, information and should always be interpreted with caution.
Sometimes there is no actual reliving of the trauma itself, but instead survivors experience a sudden painful emotional breakdown. These can involve crying, anger or fear for no apparent reason, and can occur repeatedly like flashbacks. Sometimes a flashback can involve just having feelings that are far more intense than a situation calls for but would have been appropriate in the original traumatic situation.
The important thing to remember about flashback experiences, especially those related to abuse and rape survivors, is that they can make you feel as afraid, as helpless, and as out of control as you were during the actual trauma, even if you don't consciously remember it. Others have the experience of losing their sense of where the flashback stops and reality begins.
There isn’t anything harmless about this.
The second and third photos are terrifying.
Playing on someone’s fear isn’t “harmless psychological fun”
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