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AM I BETTER THAN… EVERYBODY!

Feeling like an imposter is real and exhausting!

"No, I'm not an imposter, I do my best, and wait for the honest results' (something you would have never heard from me or many of the people in this world) 

Let's try putting on our thinking cap. Lets start? 

Why do I fail? In life? In attempts? In talent? etc.

Obvious answer: I'm not good enough 

Real answer: i didn't do my best (or something we wish were true)

But the reality is you may not be good enough, even if you did your best it didn't beat the others in your competition. Right? RIGHT???

Pff. Let me get it straight, that was my mind, my thoughts, my pattern, I hope that nobody and I mean NOBODY relates but hey, if you still do, let's think of a solution together...

How about.. practicing? 

No, so I see this extremely intelligent boy.. “You know he isn't intelligent, he's just a bookworm, right? I could be a bookworm too. I'm just not stupid enough to mindlessly read books”

Alright alright.. 

You see that beautiful woman? She's hot right? “But you know she's so stupid, no brains, no heart, and it's just makeup”

Let's see.. 

Look He built a business on his own and it is booming.. “Well, I wish my father was rich like him”

And yes.. I see a problem, a pattern, and I feel a disgusting amount of shame even while I write it.

Now, should I shift towards self help books? Nah. 

I’d rather lie down, do nothing and dwell into this hatred cycle cause I can't really do much, with my hands, legs, brain, mouth (false)

Hey reader, just hang on a bit more reading left.

Let me get myself out there, in the real world with bittersweet struggles and inconveniences, because I don't know anything about myself and I will never know until I'm out there doing stuff, stupid or cool. Let's analyze me, myself and I to hear “Oh I can do this”, “I never knew I had so much patience for people” and “Wait, is this guy praising me for what I painted?” like “My voice isn't annoying when I sing?” Wait wait.. things are getting better for me...

Now, I know the struggle you overcame for the business you own AND your father supports, that man is a book worm cause he enjoys it, and so do I when it comes to something I love. That woman was pretty AND smart, never knew cause I(we) never spoke to her .

Reader? Hey? I think I made my point.

I don't think I'm better than Everybody, I think I'm there.. surviving and well trying to remove a tumor that was growing called hatred due to incompetence

Our subconscious is constantly trying to cope with us being imposter, delusionally putting others down so we're superior, disconnecting ourselves and then shifting to another reality where all are dumb while you are not. Not cool people, not cool!

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Existentialism and Conformity

Existentialism has been there around since the beginning of the mankind. But the existentialism movement emerged in mid-20th century. according to Wikipedia Existentialism is “a philosophical theory or approach which emphasizes the existence of an individual person as a free responsible agent determining their own development through the act of will”. The questions they usually ask are “who am I?”, “what’s my identity”, “what’s my meaning?” etc.

In the search for the meaning of one own’s life people try standing out of the crowd, they try achieving something, which may be defined as their “purpose of life”. However, not everyone is capable of that! the suppressed anxiety of meaninglessness subconsciously pushes people to fit into and get accepted by the society to get that essential and temporary satisfaction. Or in other words, they find their purpose by getting accepted.

In a way, Social acceptance acts as a religion. Like how the religion offers you the meaning of life. Same way the society around us dictates our meaning of what we should or should not fulfill. And when its fulfilled, it gives the temporary escape from the anxiety of meaninglessness.

This is where conformity comes into play conformity by definition is Changing one’s own behavior to match that of other people.

With the rise of social media, conformity has intensified as people from all over the world can shame, and ridicule those who fail to hold beliefs or display behaviors which are considered socially acceptable.

This is why being a nonconformist is important. Although, a person who acts like a nonconformist just out of the desire to be different is still a conformist because their influence is still an external source.

True nonconformity, is the character, behavior, beliefs, and values which are chosen for personal or authentic reasons only.

Most humans are typically conformist. it’s also necessary for humans to get accepted for a peaceful life with good social bonds but, it also takes us back to a form co-dependency with the society which restricts us to show our individuality and above of all to do something different.

How can one find their real “purpose” of their life, if one always evaluates their success depending on if the community find it successful or not? This kind of success is all satisfying but only temporarily. But how do the people who are relatively very successful still find themselves going through existential crisis? This is question of philosophy. And the philosophers have not yet really got a clear answer.

Your purpose might be winning a Nobel prize, to cast in a movie, or simply win a video game or It can be none of it. It depends on you; some might turn to religion to find meaning and purpose of their lives. Some, may still be searching for it. I feel everyone at least once in their lives should go through existential crisis as it provides much insight of their own life.

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Modern Dating

 There are shy people, extroverts, introverts and many other personalities. But when it comes to dating, we all just want to meet a person, get instantly attracted to them, get to know them, develop a bond, and eventually fall in love. Sounds great and easy, right? Well, not in this day and age and here’s why-

In my opinion, romance is a concept made completely by humans. we have been conditioned to believe through our sources of entertainment, dictating the way we should and should not be behaving with our partner. As much as the old ideas of romanticism are sweet and cute. They are more problematic. But the modern dating isn’t as rewarding as we think it is.

Now that we have understood the underlying problems of those ideas, and the unrealistic expectations we have been promoting, like how we now are acknowledging that Bollywood has glorified stalking, and eve teasing which was shown as a symbol of love. We have shifted our expectations to more understandable and with more liberal mindsets. So now, things should ease out. right? but it isn’t the case.

With the rise of technology, we are just one swipe away from dating someone. with thousands of options now it is even more difficult to find an exclusive partner. And even when you find the one, who is compatible you’ll always be questioning yourself like “if they’re right for you”, “are you doing a mistake”, or “are you missing out on things”. Now I can’t deny that everyone has issues nobody is truly perfect. Sometimes your partner may not be ready, or sometimes you might not be ready, they might be scarred from previous experiences, or maybe you’re too avoidant in relationships. Except for some, others can be corrected with some efforts and communication. What this instant reward gaining environment has done to our youth is honestly, called the loss of patience.  

But, how can we complain when we were the one who wanted it?  we wanted us to have these choices but we also forgot that humans are almost never good at it. Making a choice is lightning up millions of neurons, it’s very much stressful and we don’t want to do it. Now, I’m not saying humans shouldn’t be given freedom at all. But freedom to choose between several compatible, attractive people needs quite a decision-making skill. We evolved from sending letter that might take few days to texting instantly anytime, anywhere. What an easy way to communicate! but with ease comes low efforts. now that you can text anyone, anytime you can create yourself, you get to introduce yourself to your best personality. It’s amazing! But easily could be frustrating. Although I’m not against online dating or texting because of the pandemic, its honestly the only way one can communicate but I just can’t ignore that modern dating is tricky and quite irritating at times.

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Understanding a SIMP

If you have been in around social media you might have come across the word “Simp”. According to the definition of Wikipedia “A simp is a man who foolishly overvalues and defers to a woman, putting her on a pedestal”.

But nowadays, internet has been using this word by shaming men for being decent, and nice. Which is not fair, it has become a toxic word! Teenagers throw this word for anyone who they think are nice to them. Not just that, the immature guys are now under the impression that “females don’t like nice guys”. Which is very stupid but they’re teenagers, they believe anything! 

Here, I understand that this word has been misused in a lot of ways. You can’t just label a guy for being nice. But the real simps are in fact very problematic.

Although, it's mostly used for males but I’m not going to lie, there are awful amount of female simps as well. We apparently just don't talk about it. 

Basically, chasing an uninterested person, getting heart broken, still not giving up. and the only reason they do is because of the unrealistic expectation of getting a reward in the form of their attention. and when they don’t get it, they blame themselves for not simping enough. 

Putting a person in the greatest position and treating them like a god/goddess to a level that they don't need to respect you anymore is what called extreme simping. 

If you want to identify an extreme simp here’s what they do. They’ll be crying over the same person every night until they fall asleep, they follow them religiously, even when they know they’re committed. They Put emotional Instagram posts like “love is pain”,” love Hurts” etc. They become overly emotional and protective about someone who’s never spoken to them. 

These are the people who'll do anything, go to any extent just to please them and then usually ends up getting friend zoned. 

Here's a difference between a simp and a normal human, a simp when they find someone slightly attractive, they’ll will turn their entire focus on them and ignore their other priorities. A non simp will never ignore their other duties and interests they will not be cancelling important things just for a person, or in other words, they'll never completely prioritize one person over everything. 

A simp doesn't understand that the only reason they're not getting laid, is because of their lack of personality. All they need to do is to work on their microscopic level of self-esteem and respect. 

I’m not trying to be rude or anything, but I think you are simp too! Or you have been in that place at least once in your entire life. In fact, I know I have been a simp as well. An important point to note here is that simping is not black and white, it’s a spectrum. You maybe a little simp for some people sometimes, or maybe you could be an extreme case. I believe, everyone has had their own simp moments, at least once maybe as a high schooler. If not? Then I think you’re really a gem of our society, and I’m proud of you!

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Conformity and Existentialism

In the search for the meaning of one own’s life people go beyond try standing out of the crowd, achieving something, which may be defined as their “purpose of life”. However, not everyone is capable of that! the suppressed anxiety of meaninglessness subconsciously pushes people to fit into and get accepted by the society to get that essential and temporary satisfaction.

In a way Social acceptance acts as a religion. Like how the religion offers you the meaning of life. Same way the society around us dictates our meaning of what we should or should not fulfill. And when its fulfilled, it gives the temporary escape from the anxiety of meaninglessness.

And so are most of the humans typically conformists.

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How to impress your girlfriend !

Is your girlfriend acting a little cranky lately? Nowadays, is she always mad? You think she's upset because of you?

See, as a man with culture you can't let her be just sad !

So, you want to resolve your problems with her? Instead of having a Mature conversation, here are some simple tricks to make your girlfriend fall in love with you even more:

1. Try drawing her: So you're not an artist? No worries ! Just try to draw her even if it looks like potato she'll know that you're thinking of her and that my friend, makes her wanna kiss you immediately ;)

2. Write a poem for her: There is nothing more better than the classic old romantic poems .. she won't be able to resist it melts her heart in seconds.

Tip : Slip in some words like love, kiss, hug, cuddle for extra awe reactions from her.

3. Mimic someone: Don't you just love her innocent laugh !?

Why not show her your creative side by mimicking people? speak in a funny accent! Or better.. mimic female voices!

Smooth.. Watch her love you even more cause who doesn't like a Funny man anyway.

4. Sing for her: This one's my favourite with 100% chance of you getting laid, sing her her favourite song !

Tell her you think about her whenever you listen to it. Infact you should go and make it more romantic by preparing her a whole playlist of songs that remind you of her.

5. Write her a letter: YES AN 18 PAGE LETTER IS NOT TOO MUCH ROSS !

Your girlfriend loves to know in detail how much you love spending time with her so, praise her to the fullest explain the smallest detail of why her smile is the most amazing thing. Explain how you were only trying to protect her every time you lied to her. Tell her you never wanna lose her just don't let your romance die yet :)

You can do one of it, or all of it depending upon how much love her or how much she's mad. Good luck Romeo !

Note: All of this only works if your girlfriend is 12 year old. For adult female please consider communicating.

(Please don't date 12 yo, don't be that guy! also don't be a SIMP :p)

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Violet Evergarden- Review

Violet Evergarden is one of the most emotional anime I have ever seen.

Written by kana Akatsuki and published by kyoto Animation this anime brings out the deepest human emotions.

It revolves around a young ex-military girl named Violet Evergarden who was supposed to be used as tool and was given as a gift to Major Gilbert Bougainvilla on his birthday. instead, he treated as humanely which resulted in her developing deep bond with him.

Unfortunately, major dies in a war which let Violet to explore the meaning of Major's last words "I love you".

Violet in this anime (because of past traumatic experiences) is unable to know and interpret her emotions, almost like a robot. She starts working as auto memoir doll(Women who wrote letters for people who can’t write) and explores the meaning of "love".

This anime is set up in a European-like city, the environment, visuals and music combined is too realistic and pleasing to eyes. It perfectly captures the post war effects on both civilians and army personnel.

People coping up with their loses, holding hope, using letters to communicate their deepest of emotions. It deals with PTST, addiction, and many other serious mental conditions.

As the story progresses we see how Violet slowly understands the people around her, and so do we. This anime may or may not be relatable but it triggers our capability and understanding of love.

I recommend this to everyone who likes watching emotional series.