some notes i’m finding helpful
“One thing I’m finally leaving behind in 2017 is the delusion that I can earn someone’s love by serving them.” (x)
I have long known that the moment of queer pride is a refusal to be shamed by witnessing the other as being ashamed of you. (x)
You do what you can do; you do your best; what what you do does is not up to you. (x)
I think you just have to cherish and protect your curiosity, because your curiosity and hope in hope are what pushes you forward even in unreasonable odds. “When I’m writing, the curiosity pulls me forward. The work gets done when my terror is outpaced by my sense of urgency to speak. When there are good days, I go a little faster than my terror, and there are bad days when my terror beats me, and I’m silent. That’s the negotiation.” (x)
Self-control is empathy for your future self. (x)
Someone having a problem with you does not have to be your problem.
As the image of myself becomes sharper in my brain and more precious, I feel less afraid that someone will erase me by denying me love. (x)
“Healing occurs in a spiral. We swing around again and again to the same old issues, but at different turns of the spiral. Each time we confront a similar feeling or reaction we have yet another opportunity to learn and to heal. Each time, we bring with us whatever new understanding we have gained since the last time we cycled through this particular difficulty.” (x)
Resilience is just as vital to learn as resistance. It will make you live longer. You are duty bound to heal.