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[what-is-yeet]

changing my page

[fyiaskmeme]

Deep Asks

If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you’re about to do today?

What worries you the most about the future?

Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of?

If you had a friend that spoke to you in the same way that you speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?

What is the differcne between loving and existing?

If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always afraid to make a mistake?

What impact do you want to leave on the world?

Is it out of reach or have you just not stretched yourself far enough?

In the haste of our daily lives, what are we not seeing?

If life is short, we do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

If you looked into the heart of your enemy what do you think you would fine that is different than in yours?

“Life is to short to ___ “ finish it

Why do you matter?

How many of your friends would you trust with your life

Are you happy with yourself?

What is one fear that you know is holding you back?

What have you done that you’re not proud of?

When did you not speak up, when you should have?

What do you wish you didn’t know?

What have you given up on?

What big lesson could people learn from your life?

What has been seizing your happiness?

What is worse than death?

What is your self conscious guilty about?

Are people born good or evil?

Is it “Innocent until proven guilty” or “Guilty until proven innocent”?

What’s the biggest lie you tell others

Do you believe in heaven and hell?

I’d love at first sight real? Why or why not?

If you had the option to know the date and circumstance, would you?

[what-is-yeet]

ask me some questions!!!!

[ughseoks-main]

shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up

and did i mention

shut up

[jasntodds]

You know, these outlets are the same ones that hop right up on the anti-bullying train. These are the same outlets that preach feminism, ya know, women don’t need men type of articles. These are the same outlets that’ve all had something to say about harassment. And yet, when it comes to celebrities, in this case, Tom Holland and Zendaya, these outlets throw every single thing they’ve ever said right out of the window. What part of “we’re just friends”, “it’s a little annoying, yeah,” “yeah it’s a little strange,” Zendaya stating she wants her private life private and wouldn’t come out and say she’s dating anyone for that reason, Tom Holland keeping his private life private, don’t these outlets get? And maybe I’m remembering wrong, but some of these same outlets covered stories on the guys from 1D, didn’t they? And after everything, multiple outlets have shared that’s so “sad” to see the friendship end “because fans couldn’t leave them alone” and yet, here we are. Zendaya and Tom Holland, being pushed together by their so-called fans and media outlets.

[fyiaskmeme]

Deep Asks

If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you’re about to do today?

What worries you the most about the future?

Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of?

If you had a friend that spoke to you in the same way that you speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?

What is the differcne between loving and existing?

If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always afraid to make a mistake?

What impact do you want to leave on the world?

Is it out of reach or have you just not stretched yourself far enough?

In the haste of our daily lives, what are we not seeing?

If life is short, we do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

If you looked into the heart of your enemy what do you think you would fine that is different than in yours?

“Life is to short to ___ “ finish it

Why do you matter?

How many of your friends would you trust with your life

Are you happy with yourself?

What is one fear that you know is holding you back?

What have you done that you’re not proud of?

When did you not speak up, when you should have?

What do you wish you didn’t know?

What have you given up on?

What big lesson could people learn from your life?

What has been seizing your happiness?

What is worse than death?

What is your self conscious guilty about?

Are people born good or evil?

Is it “Innocent until proven guilty” or “Guilty until proven innocent”?

What’s the biggest lie you tell others

Do you believe in heaven and hell?

I’d love at first sight real? Why or why not?

If you had the option to know the date and circumstance, would you?

[what-is-yeet]

ask me some questions!!!!

[imposterogers]

i’m just going to go ahead and say it: avengers endgame valued romantic love over familial and platonic and it Shows 

[imposterogers]

examples: 

steve and peggy: their love story was tragic, but they had both been shown to have moved on. by 2024, steve had spent 12 years in the future. peggy was not the one he should have been spent the entire movie mourning. he had lost bucky. sam. wanda and vision, basically his entire team. peggy should have been the last thing on his mind. when his two best friends in the entire world were returned to him, he shouldn’t of had to turn to the past for “happiness” or a “life”

clint and laura: when natasha and clint were fighting on vormir, natasha did mention the kids, but there was an unspoken emphasis on laura (who clint had gone looking for in the house when he tested the suit). natasha may not have had a husband or kids, but the avengers were her family. she spent five years keeping tabs on earth when no one else would. but in comparison to clint’s wife and kids at home, her life was suddenly seen as having lesser value

scott lang and hope: FAMILY played a huge role in the antman films. scott has a best friend named luis who he calls whenever the smallest thing goes wrong, two close friends named kurt and dave, and cassie has two other wonderful parents named jim and maggie paxton. did we hear one mention of them? no. when scott is talking to tony, he only talks about losing “her”, and at the end its scott, cassie, and hope watching fireworks together instead of the whole gang who would have been overjoyed to be reunited

[imposterogers]

x

[gravitren]

We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.

[pokemonprofessor]

For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.

There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.

[frustratedwaffle]

I’ve never even heard of this??

[shadowkat678]

Me neither. :(

[backpackfullofplums]

Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.

[saathiray]

So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later. 

One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken. 

Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x

[darkersolstice]

Brent Weeks included a character with vaginismus in his fantasy series, The Black Prism. It’s plot relevant (she needs to consummate a political marriage–to a husband she sincerely loves, no less), and she’s treated as a well-rounded character who it’s just one aspect of, and Weeks included an author’s note that was like “btw, this is a real thing. Here are resources on the topic. You’re not broken and you can get help.”

Which, like, from a male author? That’s pretty neat.

[jenniferrpovey]

Vaginismus is psychosomatic and often is caused by anxiety. It’s also very real and quite painful.

It can be caused by sexual assault, but it can also be caused by just plain lousy sex. In some cases there’s no apparent cause.

It can occur during sex and/or during pelvic exams. Some people (hi!) experience it only during pelvic exams or pap smears. (Mine was caused by an incompetent medical professional who didn’t pay attention and used a speculum that was too large). And, as mentioned, some sufferers can’t insert tampons. I’d imagine it’s not impossible for somebody to be fine with sex but have problems with tampon insertion. I’ve also heard of people being fine with a penis but not with toys and vice versa. (Lube, people. Lube).

Vaginismus is a major cause of dyspareunia (painful intercourse), but there are other causes, which can include:

* Not producing enough natural lubrication. This can be a result of insufficient/bad foreplay, but some people never produce enough and levels of lubrication can drop during and after menopause, after childbirth, and while nursing. It can also be a side effect of medication. Lube exists, and some people have to use it. Vagina owners should always use water-based lubes.

* Injury down there, often as a result of childbirth complications.

* Yeast or bacterial infection.

* Ezcema

* A deformed vagina (this is rare, but it does happen. It’s generally connected to a chromosomal abnormality or a condition such as AIS)

* Scarring from pelvic surgery.

* Stress.

* Ovarian cysts

* Pelvic inflammatory disease.

* Ectopic pregnancy

* Some STDs, such as genital warts

* Vulvodynia - pain in the clitoris, labia and vaginal opening. This one’s even worse…we do NOT know what causes it.

* Latex allergy if using condoms. If using lube causes more pain, you may be allergic to the lube.

* Cystitis

* Uterine problems such as fibroids or endometriosis

* Cervicitis (inflammation of the cervix)

Many of these can be treated or worked around. Sex is not supposed to hurt. And if it does, you and your partner need to address why. Many doctors actually recommend sex therapy as a couple if you have vaginismus. If you have an infection down there, it can be treated. If your vagina is too dry, you can use supplemental lube. But you need to talk to your doctor if at all possible.

Again.

It’s not supposed to hurt.

No, not even the first time.

[drst]

Always reblog.

[merchantfan]

Vaginismus isnt always psychosomatic it can also be caused by conditions such as vulvar vestibulitis from a hypertense pelvic floor- which is either caused by over active pain receptors or can cause them to become hyperactive. It certainly can also be caused by psychological trauma such as rape but just like erectile dysfunction it can also be biological in origin

[agirlandabeast-deactivated20220]

I had this, but didn’t know what caused it or what it was called…. but for me it turned out to be Depo Provera.  I’m glad it’s gone now, since being off that injection, but holy shit, I know of so many women who have experienced this and no doctor could explain it!

[blackqueerblog]

So answer is yes we do want an Indian Cinderella next

[daniel-oneiroi]

fuck yeah I mean can you IMAGINE the dresses?! just anarkali style alone

i mean

any of these

could easily fit the profile

[asexualityresources]

[palavenblues-blog]

holy shit there is a name for it

[queensimia-deactivated20181215]

Well damn. Explains a lot.

[deadcatwithaflamethrower]

Suddenly I understand some of my fan base a LOT better.  That is Awesome. 

[obsessionisaperfume]

“holy shit there is a name for it” was my reaction before I even scrolled down to the comments.

[clucku]

I just need to keep reblogging this because I cannot even begin to tell you how profound a feeling of YES and THIS and THERE IS A WORD FOR ME OMG I get every time I see this, and I hope it helps others too.

[astronomifier]

seriously, anytime you see a post with a comment saying “theres a name for it?!” reblog that post because even if it doesnt apply to you any of your followers could be waiting for that revelation.

[thisdiscontentedwinter]

Always reblog, because I never knew there was a word for this. 

[princessnumbat]

Semi-explains how I feel

[fuji-sprouts]

Steve Harrington - a single mother

[iliveforbyeler-deactivated20210]

Will The SMOL BEAN™ being carried.

[sunkissedpages]

important

[poisonedapples]

@jynxlovesluck I’m sorry but it’s true

[willow-s-linda]

Congratulations Halle Bailey :) 

[teaboot]

Went to the Aboriginal artifact exhibit in Chicago. And it’s interesting. How many blankets and masks and totem poles say ‘unknown source’, because every five seconds my mom would stop and point to something and say. “Pauline’s grandmother made that,” or, “That belongs to Mike’s family, I should call him” because. It’s all stolen

[teaboot]

“These artifacts were excavated by archaeologists from a burial site in the 1970’s. The remains were returned for reinterment” Okay cool, cool cool. So you just, like. Dug up the grave of a respected family member, stripped them naked, mailed their body back to their family and kept everything they were lovingly put to rest in. Like a graverobbing bastard

[toothmuncher3000]

Reminds me of the time when of the elders from my hometown started touching a totem pole in the Museum of Anthropology out at UBC and got yelled at by the staff, only to tell him that the pole had been stolen off of the front of her bighouse when she was ten years old.

Museum collectors did the equivalent of kidnapping a family member when they were away fishing.

[jenroses]

[totallynotagentphilcoulson]

The Native American Graves Protection and Repatriation Act requires all institutions that receive federal funding to repatriate remains and artifacts so if you can identify the source of something on display absolutely get a hold of that institute’s repatriation office

[fyiaskmeme]

Deep Asks

If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you’re about to do today?

What worries you the most about the future?

Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of?

If you had a friend that spoke to you in the same way that you speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?

What is the differcne between loving and existing?

If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always afraid to make a mistake?

What impact do you want to leave on the world?

Is it out of reach or have you just not stretched yourself far enough?

In the haste of our daily lives, what are we not seeing?

If life is short, we do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

If you looked into the heart of your enemy what do you think you would fine that is different than in yours?

“Life is to short to ___ “ finish it

Why do you matter?

How many of your friends would you trust with your life

Are you happy with yourself?

What is one fear that you know is holding you back?

What have you done that you’re not proud of?

When did you not speak up, when you should have?

What do you wish you didn’t know?

What have you given up on?

What big lesson could people learn from your life?

What has been seizing your happiness?

What is worse than death?

What is your self conscious guilty about?

Are people born good or evil?

Is it “Innocent until proven guilty” or “Guilty until proven innocent”?

What’s the biggest lie you tell others

Do you believe in heaven and hell?

I’d love at first sight real? Why or why not?

If you had the option to know the date and circumstance, would you?

[what-is-yeet]

ask me some questions!!!!

[deathology]

reblog if you want anonymous opinions of you

[what-is-yeet]

ok for real this time bitch

hey yeah so i know i keep coming back and being like “IM BACK YALL” and then being inactive for two months, but now i got my computer up and working again, so ill actually be more active (or try to lol) 

please repost so everyone knows ty

[what-is-yeet]

follow my twitter if u wanna 😳🙈 

[observantistic]

Robert Downey Jr. Filming “Pick Up Artist” in New York City June 26, 1986