I try to mind my business and let people ship whatever they want. But when ships in canon have a man abuse a woman including attempts to rape or kill the woman, I can't understand that. How can anyone ship that? It also makes me worried women in real life will think that's an acceptable relationship and abusive men will think they can get away with it. Surely it can't be good for young children and teens to see relationships like that either.
because it's fiction. my favorite character is In-ho from squid game, the guy responsible for the deaths of more than 400 people each year, does that mean I condone murder in real life because my favorite fictional character is a murderer????
I feel like the reason it's fine and normal when people like villains who are "just murderers" but the second it's anything sexual and/or anything that involves a female character it's "OMG SO YOU'RE OKAY WITH SA AND ABUSE IN REAL LIFE???" is because deep down people still see sex as something ugly and dirty, and women as "something weak that must be protected at all costs", and that's just sad.
a lot of women have rape fantasies. a lot of normal couples enjoy cnc kink, and these couples have normal, healthy relationships. because it's all fiction and fantasies. it's NOT. REAL. no one in real life is being harmed.
I'm a woman. and a lot of my whump fics, the majority of them, are about rape. that doesn't mean I think what I write and read is okay in real life. it means I'm mature enough to separate fiction from reality.
"surely it can't be good for young children and teens to see relationships like that" — young children and teens should learn the differences between fiction and reality, they should learn what's right and what's wrong, FROM THEIR PARENTS. it's NOT people on the internet's job to censor themselves in order to try and shield random people's kids from things that are inappropriate for them. THAT'S THEIR PARENTS' JOB. if your kids are on the internet and if they choose to read something I post, that is rated and tagged properly, then it is NOT my responsibility to hold their hands and teach them right from wrong.
I don't have to censor myself for other people's kids. I will not censor myself for other people's kids. if your kids click on my works, that's on them. I already rate and tag my warnings properly.
you don't have to like these taboo topics in fiction. you can be uncomfortable with them. but your personal feelings and discomfort still don't give you the rights to judge other people for their taste in fiction. it doesn't give you the right to control or shame people for how they create their art or how they enjoy their fictional stories.
there are things in fiction that I am uncomfortable with, but instead of judging people who like these things, I mind my own business.
last but not least, I hope everybody who sees this post — and wants to write about dark, taboo, messed up things — writes those dark, taboo and messed up things that they want. and I hope they do so unapologetically.
to writers who write about these topics, to everybody who enjoys these topic, go wild, have fun, I will always root for you!
