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Because in the end the road is long, but only 'cause it makes you strong 🌜🌻🌚✨

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Adventures in Dating 22: Interception.

Adventures in Dating 22: At her second attempt at speed dating, Ella makes an interception...

Remember when I went speeding dating by playing Cards Against Humanity? How could you forget, especially when the wildest thing EVER happened to me after? Well, I thought to cleanse myself after that, ahem, unique experience, I should try out traditional speed dating. Before I go on, I should disclose that this event was gifted, because apparently you can get fined if you don’t. All opinions are,…

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Adventures in Dating 21: Mixed Signals.

Adventures in Dating 21: On her third date with Q, Ella receives some rather mixed signals...

Original photo by Sian.

Here we have it, the final chapter of my dating triology with Q (oh yeah, spoiler, we didn’t go on any more after this). I’m sure you’re all at the edge of your seats wanting to find out what happened next…

Before Q and I went on our spontaneous second date, we had already arranged to go to a comedy show of a comedian I knew. I was going to go regardless, but thought…

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Adventures in Dating Bonus: Dodging Bullets.

In this Adventures in Dating bonus post, Ella recounts the tale of dodging one hell of a bullet...

Welcome, friends. Can you believe that there are less than six dates to go in the experiment, and less than a month (26 days to be exact, irony is not lost) to go until until I turn 26? (23rd July, mark it in your diary, pals, I want a card or the very least your best compliment) I better get a jog on with publishing these date posts – you would think a schedule of once a week would be more than…

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Adventures in Dating 19 and 20: Double Bill

Adventures in Dating 19 and 20: in the game of dating, not all of them will be winners. So here's two for the price of one, to try and make up for it.

A double bill? Did I go on two dates in one day again? God no, been there done that, plus that was much too tiring. No, I am doing a post with two dates for the price of one blog post because, quite frankly, I didn’t have a lot to say about them. Is this cheating? Hell no, because I make the rules, baby! Plus this felt like a much better use of time than providing you with two tiny posts.

Con…

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Adventures in Dating 18: A Spontaneous Night Out.

Adventures in Dating 18: A spontaneous night out where Ella gets handsy.

Things with Q amped up after our first date.We were texting a lot before, but were doing even more so now that we knew each other a little better. He made me laugh and things felt easy with him, like I didn’t have to put up any false pretenses. I do try to be myself as much as possible when dating – it’s the only way to be when getting to know someone – but I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t…

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Adventures in Dating 17: “Happy to be Alive.”

Adventures in Dating 17: “Happy to be Alive.”

Q and I matched on Bumble during the phase when I was asking everyone what their favourite kind of tree was (hey, sometimes you need to get creative when you’re always making the first move).

“I’d have to go with tee tree,” he said, “You?”

“I like a willow tree,” I said, “I think if I had to live in a tree, it would be a willow.”

“Eucalyptus trees look pretty comfy.”

“Eucalyptus…

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My Life Now / Goodbye, Ashtead.

Reflecting on life in Ashtead these past two and a bit years, and looking forward to what’s to come... ✨

View from my old room.

When I first moved down from Sheffield to Ashtead in March 2017, I was in a frustrating time in my life. I was feeling stale in Sheffield, working a job I hated and made me feel stressed and upset every single day. All of my job applications were being rejected left, right and centre. I was living nearly 200 miles away from my boyfriend at the time. And though I had a…

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Adventures in Dating 16: Cat Person.

Adventures in Dating 16: Cat Person (but not *that* Cat Person).

(But like, not THAT Cat Person.)

After a little while of struggling on Bumble, things were starting to pick up and I was seeing move matches. P came across my screen as I was doing my evening swipe, and his bio, though short and sweet, got my attention: “Yes, all the photos are of me… it’s been a journey.”

I looked through all his photos and you would be right to second-guess whether they…

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Adventures in Dating 15: Bumble Bust. Last year, when I was newly single and ready to mingle, I dived into a new (to me) dating app that I had heard about for a while - Bumble.

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Adventures in Dating 14: Anticlimax.

Adventures in Dating 14: After an awesome first date, my second date with someone comes to an anticlimactic end...

After our date, J went on holiday for a week, so naturally I didn’t hear much from her. I got on with my life as she went gallivanting around the mountains in Switzerland. In fact, it sounds kinda bad, but I actually forgot about her a bit until she texted me when she got back, but it was a pleasant surprise seeing her name pop up on my screen.

We made plans for our second date. At this…

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Dating Against Humanity - My first go at speed dating.

Tired of the apps, I have my first go at speed dating with Original Dating! If you ever wondered what it’s like playing Cards Against Humanity with a bunch of strangers - you’ve come to the right place 🃏

If any of you follow me on social media, you’ll know that I’m getting dating app fatigue at the moment. My amount of matches aren’t slowing down, necessarily, but everyone I’ve matched with lately is either not replying or not making a commitment to meeting up, opting instead on inane in-app small talk, until I give up out of pure frustration (or until I ask them if they want to go for a drink…

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Adventures in Dating 13: Whoa, We're Halfway There!

Adventures in Dating 13: Whoa, We’re Halfway There!

Livin’ on a prayer, lemon and a pear, kitten on a stair, etc. etc. Already we’re 50% through this series. Where has the time gone, eh?

I’ll be honest with you guys – this date was kind of a non-event. It wasn’t awful, but it wasn’t anything to write home about; and certainly not for 1,000 words, the average word count for these posts.

So, this is what we’re gonna do. I’ll give you a brief…

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Adventures in Dating 12: Runaway Lover.

Gather round, children, and I'll tell you the tale of the Hispanic Soft Boy in Adventures in Dating 12: Runaway Lover.

It’s the age old dilemma – you sleep with someone after the first date and then you don’t hear from them again. A problem that I’m not exactly unfamiliar with, but hadn’t encountered in a while. And let me tell you, it doesn’t feel great the first, second or any other subsequent times.

Does anyone remember this onimus tweetI posted a while back? Well, hold onto your butts and let’s rewind,…

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Adventures in Dating 11: A Date with a Mate.

Sick of your family yet? Are you in a chocolate coma from devouring too many Easter eggs? Well, buckle up and have a read of Adventures in Dating 11: A Date with a Mate. Where I overanalyse EVERYTHING (natch).

I was slightly nervous to write about this date. Part of the reason why there’s been such a gap between posts on this blog (other than life getting in the way and then being ill), was that I knew I had to reveal this date to the world soon. Because, dear reader, this date was with someone I already knew, and who also reads this blog.

*mic drop*

So you can understand my slight apprehension…

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Adventures in Dating 10: Sugar Mamma Mia.

My unintentional two-week hiatus is over! Time for Adventures in Dating 10: Sugar Mamma Mia 🎶🍸

Jgreeted me with a simple, “hey, pretty lady,” which was always going to grab my attention, because I am a pretty lady who loves a compliment. I matched with her around the time I received news about landing my new job, so I was pretty excited about it and telling everyone who would listen. We discussed that for a while and made other polite chit-chat before I asked her out for a drink. Because…

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Adventures in Dating 9: A Stand-Up Special.

Adventures in Dating 9: when a date turns into an impromptu stand-up session. Because, you know, casual 🎙

I matched with H after he liked one of my pictures that was essentially a family portrait I took of myself and the cats when we first got them as tiny kittens. I looked through his profile where he had a picture of himself with daisies laced through his beard and I commented back: “Daisy beard is a strong look!”

He replied that my ‘smile game’ was strong, which is the first compliment of it’s…

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Adventures in Dating 8: The First Second Date.

Adventures in Dating 8: the first second date, aka 'someone wanted to see me *again*?!'

A second date! How exciting – it’s always nice when someone wants to see you again. After our first date, E suggested that if I would like to see him again, we go to the cinema. I happily obliged, I had a good time on our first date (Hugh Grant Hugh Grant Hugh Grant) and I was looking forward to seeing him again.

He suggested we go out on a Monday evening, which I had some reservations about.…

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