[whineandcheese24]

welcome to my blog

Hi, I'm cheese, big fantasy nerd. I don't post regularly, but every so often a thought makes its way from my brain to my keyboard

[shadow-generations]

If you think misogyny doesnt exist within the queer community, you are probably benefiting from misogyny

[shadow-generations]

If you think racism doesnt exist within the queer community, you are probably benefiting from racism

[tarawitht]

Trauma in fiction is treated as a currency not as a character trait. And depending on who holds it, the story gives you total immunity or demands you pay for it.

If a white male lead is toxic or cruel, the narrative immediately rushes in to show you his broken childhood or his mental health struggles. Suddenly it’s not about the harm he’s actively inflicting on the people around him, it’s about how much he’s suffering on the inside. His choices get rebranded as trauma responses, and the story flips the burden onto everyone else to heal him, understand him, and forgive him. If his partner sets a basic boundary or asks for an actual apology, the narrative frames them as rigid and unfeeling for not catering to his pain fast enough. It’s a complete free pass. His past trauma becomes an absolution machine where he never actually has to take responsibility for his own actions because poor him he's so so sad.

But the second you look at female characters or characters of color, that entire grace period disappears. When a POC character has trauma, the story almost never uses it to excuse their bad behavior. Instead their pain is written as baggage they need to deal with quietly so they don't burden anyone else. They’re routinely forced into the role of the patient, grounded anchor whose entire narrative purpose is to perform emotional labor for the volatile white lead, completely stripping them of their own right to be angry, complex, or messy. If a female or POC character makes even a minor mistake, reacts out of hurt, or dares to hold the fan favorite accountable, both the narrative and the fandom drop the hammer on them. They get called annoying, selfish, or toxic, while the white guy gets thousands of words of fan essays dissecting his childhood to explain why he’s actually just a broken boy who needs a hug.

That’s where the racism and sexism sit so heavy in these spaces. White male characters are given infinite interiority, range, and grace, while marginalized characters are flattened into tools meant to facilitate his growth. Trauma should explain why a character acts the way they do, but it shouldn't be a narrative shield that erases their agency. Real redemption requires facing what you’ve done, not using your past as a voucher to treat people like garbage while everyone else pays the price for it.

[constance-mcentee-deactivated20]

Without naming your job, tell me something you say over and over again at work.

"I can note your interest in that feature for future development."

[unfuckablebogtroll]

Prev is a…

Sally

Jilly

Jet

Frances

Remaining time: 6 days 11 hours

[inthetags]

reblog and tag a tag that you have blocked

[apolladay]

If you could have one of these for the rest of your life, which would it be?

Chauffeur

Private chef

Housekeeper

Live-in Nanny

Personal Stylist/MUA

Fitness coach/trainer

If you could have one of these for the rest of your life, which would it be?

Chauffeur

Private chef

Housekeeper

Live-in Nanny

Personal Stylist/MUA*

Fitness coach/trainer

Remaining time: 5 days 17 hours

* make up artist

[knifefightscene]

[reducingemissions]

Yet the cowl always remains on

[softwaring]

[callmehopeless]

I made it

[frankhermann]

actually annoyed by long distance friends again. i want to go for a walk i want to get drinks i want to sit in the grass and write i want to go to the fucking store together

[seeingteacupsindragons]

”Ryland Grace’s life was valued less because he was single,” is such a weird take because it depends entirely on the idea that Eva Stratt might have hesitated if he weren’t.

Eva. Stratt. Eva Stratt is a bulldozer who takes out Antarctica and the Sahara and commanders an entire Chinese naval aircraft carrier.

Eva Stratt would have thrown his ass on that rocket if he had ten wives.

[seeingteacupsindragons]

[folk-punk]

how can you eat the fried hearts of something that once was alive and had a beating heart? do you feel any guilt? i hope you do.

please google what an artichoke is

[theforce]

i dont care how corny iris by the goo goo dolls is bc i love iris by the goo goo dolls and i will continue screaming iris by the goo goo dolls from the top of my lungs every time i hear iris by the goo goo dolls for the rest of my miserable life 

[the-hug-department]

and I

DON’T WANT

THE WORLD

to see me

Cuz I DON’T THINK that THEY’D UNDERSTAND

[carefullfearr]

Sometimes my husband will put this video on just to feel something. You are not immune to Goo Goo Dolls - Iris (Live in Buffalo, NY 7/4/2004) [Official Video] and neither am I

[iamnotswarley]

I HIGHLY recommend the Song Exploder episode about “Iris” because clearly John Rzeznik feels the same way about that song and he wrote it.

[aspiringwarriorlibrarian]

I think my final disillusionment with the Glorious Violent Revolution (not that I was ever fond of it to begin with) was when the right wing tried it on January 6th and failed miserably, only to switch tactics to boring old electoralism and succeed.

[rubysapphrald]

sharing a wikipedia page is romantic

[rubysapphrald]

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