are you fetishizing or shipping?
this is a checklist for mlm ships, for those who aren’t mlm themselves. this includes yaoi shippers, fujoshis, and fans of BL.
originally i was considering including wlw ships, but there isn’t a lot of fetishization there, and the majority of problems are with mlm pairings.
i’d suggest keeping track of this on paper if you’re serious about doing this.
s/o to a few anons and @soy-quill for suggestions, and to ange for helping with the scaling system, and a few amazing friends and wonderful people for reading over it.
do you ship it because the two look hot together? (if so, +1 point)
do you basically only read/write nsfw fanfictions? (if so, +2 point)
do you think “i’m sinning” when reading mlm fanfictions? (if so, +2 point)
do you consider the characters gay even if they’ve had partners of different genders in the show? (if so, +1 point)
do you solely ship mlm? (if you’re a mlm yourself, ignore, because i understand. if you’re not, +1 point)
do you headcanon them as “tops” or “bottoms”? (if so, +1 point)
do you consider yourself a fujoshi? (if so, +3 point)
do you watch shows based on the fact that there are two shippable “mlm” characters in it? think watching sherlock for johnlock. (if so, +1 point)
do you ignore interracial ships for the sake of your mlm ship? (if so, +1 point)
do you ship incest? (if so, +5 point)
do you ship them regardless of large age differences, even pedophilia? (if so, +5 point)
do you think gay ships in media are “good representation” while citing that your ships are “only fiction”? (if so, +1 point)
do you like killing stalking or consider it “good representation”? (if so, +3 point)
do you like mlm but say that wlw/femslash/yuri isn’t “your thing”? (if so, +3 point)
do you say “let people ship what they want”, even when it includes abuse, incest, or pedophilia, in defense of your ship? (if so, +5 point)
do you get excited about how gay people can get married for your ship? (if so, +2 point)
do you ignore canon ages? (if so, +3 point)
do you age characters up or down for the sake of shipping? (if so, +4 point)
do you feminize one of the characters even if they’re pretty masculine? (if so, +1 point)
when you see a gay couple in public, do you ‘squeal’ and talk about them like you would about your other mlm ships? (if so, +2 points)
do you think anyone who ships those characters with someone else is wrong? (if so, +2 point)
do you ship largely based on chemistry or shared histories? (if so, -1 point)
do you ship any “heterosexual” ships with those characters? this is referring to canonly “straight” characters, not gay characters or characters with no canon sexual/romantic orientation that you headcanon as gay (if so, -1 point)
do you accept that these characters could be bi or pan? (if so, -1 point)
are you a mlm yourself? (if so, -1 point)
do you have any non-mlm lgbtqia+ ships? i.e., wlw (especially), queerplatonic, etc. (if so, -1 point)
do you think yaoi/fujoshis/BL is gross? (if so, -1 point)
do you watch shows for representation but not just for the sake of shipping? (if so, -1 point)
scale:
under 0 = fine.
1-5 = you might be fetishizing, but you probably don’t realize it/it’s unintentional.
5-10 = you’re definitely fetishizing.
10+ = you need to stop.
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