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quick what’s ur opinion on tea. everyone who sees this is obligated to answer in some way

#when I was a teenager I drank so much tea my dentist assumed I was like #a soda addict #i love tea

ok so you know how in season 2 caitlyn's hair has a bit more of a wavey texture to it, while season 1 cait's was just as straight as a beam, that's something I've been thinking about.

That must've ment that she was straightening her hair or something, because I can't think of any other reason why that would be the case.

If she was straightening her hair, why? Why does she do it? Is it an aesthetic choice? Was her natural texture an insecurity? Maybe she does it to keep a neater appearance, idk.

The more I question it the more dumb I feel, it's a pretty insignificant detail but it's just something I feel like bringing up.

Oh and for some reason, I love the idea that with vi in her life, cait wouldn't feel as inclined to straighten her hair, for whatever reason it could be (something that also kinda pairs with vi letting her hair grow out, random connection that my brain made lol)

randomranttopics

I have a question for the masses!

reblog this with qualities that you think are necessary for a god to have;

if you’re religious, you can talk about your god, if you aren’t, you can talk about the broader impression you’ve gotten, if you’re into mythologies you can talk about that, or any other thoughts you have

zerozerozio

bring back tumblr ask culture let me. bother you with questions and statements

boimann

reblog to let people know it's ok to bother you with questions and statements

bacony-cakes

please bother me with questions and statements

amaraqwolf

Are you trapped on tumblr right now?

Is there something you planned to do before you got trapped in the endless tumblr scroll?

Are you yelling at yourself to get up and do the thing, but you can’t, because you’re trapped in the endless tumblr scroll?

Consider this your save point.

Put tumblr down, stand up, stretch, and go do the thing you planned to do. Future you will be incredibly grateful.

amaraqwolf

Things people in the notes have been able to do thanks to this post:

eat breakfast

go to bed

get out of bed

take a shower

write

practice

watch Superman Returns and write a paper on it

retain shreds of sanity

I need y’all to know that you’re doing amazing, and I’m so glad that I was able to help you break out of a procrastination loop you did not want to be stuck in.

andythecarpathian

Helpful post I’ve added to my queue in case it helps someone else at the random point when it’s posted.

memeuplift

#HAPPYYYYY

i have. a question for the masses: do people outside of New Mexico put green chile on their pizza

yes!

I have never heard of green chile on pizza

Voting ended onNov 25, 2023

#I work at a pizza place and I Have to know #it’s so popular here

itwashotwestayedinthewater

i....found a rare shoegaze tape. legit. band does not exist online. tape is at least 20 years old. This is so Sam

itwashotwestayedinthewater

rare tape.

itwashotwestayedinthewater

ok ok....track for you from rare tape. ripped by me

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itwashotwestayedinthewater

I HAVE SOURCED MORE INFO!!!! from my friend who works at an nz audio archive and they HAVE THE TAPE THERE? COVER:

itwashotwestayedinthewater

Final info ive put together after i have just looked over the insert notes (inside the other tape) sent to me by my friend:

This band had Steven Wells and Andrew Bain in it - they went on to be in a pretty popular NZ rock band called Fur Patrol from late 90s-2000s, so this is a precursor to that. in the notes they also thank Campbell Kneale, a prolific underground nz musician in bands like Birchville Cat Motel and Black Boned Angel. they also thank "Drinkwater".

itwashotwestayedinthewater

alright everyone. after 33k+ notes on an obscure 90s indie song from Aotearoa i gotta admit many want to hear the rest, & as i cant think of a better format to supply this, here's the rest of the tape in this post. please let it stay here where it needs to be, don't spread it like its yours. its not mine either! i now present to you: Clayflower - Still (1993, Aotearoa, Cassette, Shoegaze/Indie Rock)

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beautiful and cool obscure music like this is everywhere if you just wanna look for it even for a few minutes. dont let yourself think someone has to come along and show it to you <3

fandomsandfeminism

Yall wanna hear a kinda funny, kinda sad story about my grandmother and hetero-normativity?

Ok, so... when my grandmother was in her 50s (I was an infant), she met a woman at the Unitarian Church. And, as can happen when you meet your soul mate, this event made it impossible for her to deny parts of herself that she had fiercely hidden her whole life.

All the drama- their affair being found out, the divorce with my grandfather, the court battle over who got the house, happened while I was a baby. Even in my earliest memories, it's just Mama Jo and Oma, and my grandfather lived elsewhere (first his own apartment, then a nursing home, then with us.)

But here's the thing- no one ever explained any of this to me. No one ever sat down and was like "hey, Rosie, so do you know what a lesbian is?" It was the 90s. It was Texas. I think my mom was still kinda processing all this, and just assumed that like... I was gonna figure it out. Don't mention it, let it just be normal. Like I think my mom thought that if she explained the situation, she would be making it weird? I dunno.

But like. In the 90s, in all the movies I had seen and books I had read, do you know how many same sex couples I had seen? Like. 0. Do you know how many "platonic best friend/roommates" I had seen? A lot. I had no context, is what I'm saying.

I literally thought this was a Golden Girls, roommates, besties situation until I was like...I dunno, 11? 12?

It was actually their parrot, an African Grey named Spike, imitating my grandmothers voice saying "Johanna, honey, it's getting late", that triggered the MIND BLOWN moment as I realized that *there's only one master bedroom and it only has 1 waterbed* when all the pieces finally clicked.

Anyway. I think it's a real important thing for kids to know queer people exist, for a lot of reasons, but also because kids can be clueless and it's embarrassing to have your grandmother be outted by a parrot because everyone just thought you'd figure it out on your own.

Anyway, here is my grandma and her wife, my Oma, after they moved to Albuquerque to be artsy gay cowboys and live their best life. They helped run a "Lesbian Dude Ranch" out there (basically just with funding and financial support. As Oma has explained "traditionally, most lesbians don't have a lot of money" so they wrote the checks and let the younger ladies actually run the ranch.)

something really important to remember, especially if you struggle with mental health or if a lot of people in your immediate circle do, is that people have different limits as far as what they will do for each other. you might be willing to stay up for hours talking to a friend if it helps them feel better, but if a friend wouldn’t do the same for you that doesn’t automatically mean they don’t love you or you aren’t important. they might just not be able to do that for you, and that’s ok. Same goes vice versa, if you can’t give your friends as much as they give you right now, that’s ok too.

you are your priority, give to the people you care about where you can, but don’t put too much on yourself. be honest with your people where those limits are especially when they change, and remember to take care of yourself 🧡🧡

#wholesome #wholesome tidbits #mental health #self care

wholesome-tidbits

remember that it’s ok to not be ok

it’s ok to not love yourself yet

it’s ok to not be able to do that thing

it’s ok to not meet every expectation

it’s ok to not be able to make everyone happy

it’s ok to not be ready

it’s ok to be scared

it’s ok to relapse a little bit

it’s ok to not be perfect

wholesome-tidbits

this is something that I wrote, a while ago, because it was what I needed to hear at that point in my life, and it makes me so happy to see it picking up traction again and getting such positive reactions. I’m so glad this gives people help and comfort

#wholesome #wholesome tidbits #positivity #mental health #mental health stuff #hope this helps #seeing people talk about their reactions in the tags #is just amazing

mossyredwood

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erevshelshoshanim

Growing up fat, you get made fun of for everything you do, even basic shit like eating and laughing and breathing are funny when you do it because youre fat! And its so hard to not carry that with you as you get older, like I’m still embarassed to eat or dance in front of people or smile in pictures and its ridiculous and I hate it and I wish I was treated with more humanity

erevshelshoshanim

Thin people can reblog this btw

neopetsuser-deactivated20210119

they wont tho lmao

mloreley

The thing is, even when you get older, it doesn’t stop. Not only do you carry the baggage from when you were younger and everything you did was a joke, purely because you were fat, but you get out into the world and there are still people stifling laughs behind their hands. You can see that look, the blink-and-you’ll-miss-it panning of the eyes down to your stomach and then back to your face with a raised eyebrow. Or when they get mad at you for existing in THEIR space, in public space. You can see it when you’re at the gym, people getting mad at you being there, or laughing at the silly floppy fat trying to work out. You see it on television, where it doesn’t matter how progressive or diverse the show is, there’s always at least ONE joke implying that being fat is associated with stupidity, slowness, lack of awareness, being obnoxious, being greedy.

And to cap it all off, if you complain, you have people pull the Morally Superior card, saying they’re “just being honest”, ‘just trying to help’, ‘just want you to be healthy’. Or ‘If you don’t like it, just lose the weight’, or ‘maybe it’ll motivate you to get healthy’. Saying, “I’m hurting. I’m crying. I deserve humanity” is replied to with, “But do you, though?”

It’s hard to maintain confidence in a world that reminds you at nearly every turn that you are a joke. So if you have a confident fat friend, someone who manages to do all those things that they’ll inevitably get laughed at for? Please appreciate them.