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You cannot claim to love me and not want to lose me, and then do the exact things that break me and will end with you losing me.
âł Hunter's How To: Writing an Emotionally Detached Character
Emotional detachment can be categorized into two types: the first consists of being able to easily empathize with the emotions of others whereas the second is having difficulties connecting on an emotional level with others.Â
This guide will be covering the second type. All information not directly stated by me will be cited in the (x)âs at the end of their respective sections.Â
*Created because I was getting sick of emotionally detached characters constantly being RPed as the popular âTroubled but Cute/Broken Birdâ tropes often expressed in movies, young adult fiction, and the fantasies of idealistic fourteen year old girls.*
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âĄÂ A GUIDE TO SEXUAL & PHYSICAL ABUSE. #001
Sexual and physical abuse is something that happens quite often, but most go about their daily lives never knowing that their best friend or family member could be a victim of such abuse. It can happen to anyone â abuse is not selective towards one specific type of person. It is important to know what is considered sexual and physical abuse, as well as how often it happens.
At the end of the guide, I have also included how to portray a character who is or has been abused in any way. Please remember that though I will be doing a generalization of how to portray this certain type of character, you need to know that everyone reacts and deals with abuse differently. As someone who has been raped and physically abused, I wanted to share my knowledge and my experience.
Trigger Warnings: Talk of Sexual, Physical & Emotional abuse.
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Do you have any tips as how to play a pregnant character? I joined a roleplay and my character was two-months pregnant. I'm excited to be in it but, I don't want to get kicked out for playing the pregnancy part wrong. Thank you, so much.
I believe the first and foremost thing that we need to pay attention on while writing a pregnant character is the symptoms. The general symptoms are:
Headache; the possible causes are fatigue, tension, increasing hunger, physical or emotional stress, and overheating.
Morning sickness or vomiting
Fatigue
Food craving
Changes in breasts; breasts may become larger and more tender.
Peeing more often
Aches in the back, pelvis, and shoulders due to changes in posture, body weight, and body shape.
Increasing sensitivity to certain smells
Losing interests in some food that you usually like
Sleeplessness; could be due to restless legs syndrome
The most well-known symptom is, of course, the morning sickness. To some lucky women, morning sickness only happens in the morning, but for most, morning sickness can happen anytime, despite the name. Causes of this include hormonal and gastrointestinal factors. The least possible factor is psychological, although itâs possible, and these causes would be explained further by the first article linked below.
Morning sickness usually begins 4-8 weeks after the last menstrual period, peaks during the 11-13 weeks, and starts diminishing during 14-18 weeks into the pregnancy. Fever, diarrhea, and abdominal pain are not linked to this symptom. [Source]
To understand further about morning sickness, here are some good articles:
Causes of vomiting during pregnancy
Morning sickness on wikipedia
Helpful doâs and donât's during morning sickness
Morning sickness: Causes, concerns, treatments
Treatments of morning sickness
If you need to know more about the other symptoms, these articles might be a help:
Common health problems in pregnancy
Weird pregnancy symptoms
37 things you must know
Besides the symptoms mentioned above, your character might also get affected by mental health problems and hair/skin changes during the pregnancy.
Describing about your changes in your characterâs physical appearance might be a great idea. This article explains about the changes to hair and skin, including pigment changes, dry skin, stretchmarks, and reduced hair loss.
Depression and anxiety might affect pregnant women, and it usually happens within the third trimester of pregnancy. Hereâs a good article that explains this.
Other things that you might need to know during the pregnancy:
Alcohol in pregnancy
Passive smoking in pregnancy
Painkillers in pregnancy
Exercise in pregnancy
The last thing that I think is important to touch on is the developments of pregnancy itself. BBC has good articles regarding what you need to know during the phases in pregnancy:
The first trimester
The second trimester
The third trimester
These articles, pregnancy week by week, might help you understand the developments of the fetus, especially if you want to describe about your characterâs baby USG.
I hope this helped, and if thereâs anything that youâd like me to research further, please drop me another message.
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Offensive Mistakes Well-Intentioned Writers Make
Food-Colored Skin
Not only is purple prose obnoxious; sometimes itâs downright racist. For some reason, writers have a fondness for describing dark complexions as âchocolateâ or somesuch.
But wait, people like chocolate! Whatâs so bad about likening a skintone to something almost everyone likes?
The problem is that food-colored skin is a phenomenon mostly limited to dark-colored complexions. And itâs more than just a little creepy when strangers keep likening your skintone to an inanimate edible object. Plus, in some places âchocolate barâ is a playground taunt used to goad black children.
Not a very tasteful choice in similitudes at all.
Skin Color Only Described When Not White
In many stories, the color of a characterâs skin will only be described when the character doesnât have a fair complexion. This typically happens because the writer is white and subconsciously thinks of xir own skin color as the default and everyone elseâs as the outliers. Even JK Rowling, whose books frequently focus on tolerance and equality, is guilty of this.
The solution is simple - just describe everyoneâs complexion, and all will be well.
Written Accents
Written accents are offensive because they essentially tell the group whose accent is being written that âyour way of talking is weird; my way is normal.â
Not only are written accents offensive to the group being represented, but theyâre offensive to read because you have to spend extra time trying to sort out what the writer was trying to say.
If you want to write a character who is supposed to have an accent, use grammar and slang associated with people who have that accent. You could also just mention that they have an accent. But donât butcher the spellings of the words. âHeâs got himself in a right pickle, he hasâ is fine, but ââEâs got âimself in a right pickle, âe âasâ is not.
Things Appropriated From Other Cultures
Many new writers are bound and determined to make sure their characters have meaningful and unique names. I see many people who have clearly scoured the bowels of online baby name sites to find the perfect Vedic/Japanese/Aztec name for their white character.
This sort of thing is a form of cultural appropriation, which is a pretty huge faux pas. For the uninformed, cultural appropriation is when a member of a dominant culture takes something from an oppressed/minority culture and uses it in a shallow, trendy, or superficial way - and thereâs really nothing more shallow or superficial than trying to make your character stand out by giving xir an âexoticâ name instead of giving xir a memorable personality and story.
Likewise, people give their characters katanas and throw youkai into their stories for no other reason than âitâs more interestingâ than Western culture. Throwing things from another culture into your story for no other reason than you think itâs âmore interestingâ reduces that culture to a cheap gimmick, which is pretty rude and offensive.
âHarmlessâ Stereotypes
The Japanese plant-lover. The wise Native American. The sexy Latina. Thereâs nothing bad about loving plants or being wise or sexy, so why would anyone find these offensive?
For one thing, it can create unrealistic expectations and assumptions about these people. Many Asian-Americans find themselves having to explain to people that no, they donât know squat about gardening, really. Many Latinas would rather people didnât expect them to be hot and spicy lovers based on their race. And contrary to what some think, Native Americans arenât really born with a magical connection to the Earth and tend to find assumptions that they are quite irritating.
The Supercrip
There are two varieties of supercrips: the first is a disabled person who is treated as a hero just for doing everyday things that most people take for granted. Itâs quite frankly condescending, and many disabled people would thank you to knock it off.
The second type is the character who has amazing skills or abilities because or in spite of xir disability. While a writer might be trying to say âjust because a person has a disability, doesnât mean they canât be amazing!â, what the audience hears is âdisabled people often have amazing abilities to make up for their disability,â which unfortunately isnât true.
The Mighty Whitey
The Mighty Whitey is a white person (if not physically, then culturally) who finds xirself faced with the task of saving a marginalized group (often as not from other white people). The character is usually male and ends up becoming the leader of the people he just liberated, and he usually ends up with a hot ethnic-looking gal to boink. (Think Jake Sulley fromAvatar, and youâve got the Mighty Whitey in a nutshell.) The Mighty Whitey will learn the ways of an ethnic group, and xe will become even better at them than the people who have been studying them all their lives.
What makes this trope so horrendous is the attitude of white supremacy: it implies that non-white people cannot solve their problems without a white person to help or even lead them, and that white people will always be better at everything.
Also, becoming a leader of a people whose culture you have only known/studied for a few months - or even a few years - is one of the most ridiculously puerile fantasies in existence.
Getting Mental Illnesses & Different Neurologies Wrong
Want to create a chilling plot twist? Just the killer the heroâs evil alternate personality! Thatâs called schizophrenia⌠right?
Wrong. And this type of thing is incredibly insensitive and offensive.
Aside from the fact that schizophrenia does not create multiple personalities, most people with schizophrenia and multiple personalities are quite harmless. Yet thanks to their portrayal in fiction, many people expect them to be dangerous, which makes their already-difficult lives even more difficult.
Occasionally, some people go the other direction and portray these people as innocent or even mystical. Thatâs positive discrimination, and thatâs also bad because it creates unrealistic expectations.
Whether itâs schizophrenia, multiple personlities, autism, Aspergerâs, psychopathy, sociopathy, or anything else, youâre going to use a mental disorder or alternate neurology of any kind, make sure you research it. And whatever you do,NEVER give your character a mental illness just to make xir more âinteresting,â because thatâs ableism.
Trying to Create an Aesop About Discrimination Without Actually Understanding the Discrimination in Question
Most people think they have a pretty good bead on what racism is all about - itâs about segregation, ugly slurs, and pointy white hats. Same goes with sexism - women can get jobs and vote now, so it must be over, right? Ha, if only.
In real life, these people are very rarely overt - in fact, most racism is extremely subtle, so subtle that the offender doesnât even realize that what theyâve said or done is offensive or hurtful and will vehemently deny the possiblity that what they said or did could have been offensive. (A common response from these people is âI canât be an X-ist! I have X friends!â Yeah, if only.)
Some examples of subtle discrimination:
Telling rowdy children to âstop running around like a bunch of wild Indians!â
Describing a non-white character or person as âexotic.â
Dressing up in Halloween costumes depicting ethnic stereotypes.
Insisting that a woman who does not want children right now will âchange her mindâ in the future.
Asking a woman why sheâs still single if sheâs so attractive.
Asing a woman who is angry about something if sheâs on her period.
Insulting males who donât live up to expectations of perceived masculinity by accusing them of acting âgirlyâ or calling them gay.
If you want to learn more about what real discrimination of all kinds look and feel like, I recommend readingMicroaggressions. (Language warning.) Also, check out this handy-dandy list of links to privilege checklists so you can check your own privilege before writing off into the sunset.
Trying to Satirize a Thing Without Understanding Why itâs a Thing
The film Death Becomes Her satirizes the perceived vanity of performers who spend mind-blowing amounts of money on beauty products and plastic surgeries to stay young. Funny film? Yes. But itâs rather sexist in that it treats this perceived vanity as something that just happens to some women for no real reason. It ignores the fact that we live in a society obsessed with youth and that our consumerist culture has commodified it and tries to make us feel inferior every day for not buying it from them. It ignores the fact that the men in control of the entertainment industry constantly pressure women into getting plastic surgery and enhancements, even flat-out refusing to hire women who donât meet their exact standards of beauty, regardless of their talent.
Killing Off LGBT Characters to Make an Allegedly Non-Hateful Point
Thereâs this thing that some writers do - they introduce an LGBT character, try to build some some sympathy for xir, and before you know it theyâve killed off this character in a manner thatâs reminiscent of that old and noxious âtoo good for this sinful Earthâ trope that pervaded Puritan literature.
This sends an absolutely terrible message to LGBT people - that the only way they can escape the shame and the hate that so often comes with being LGBT is if they die. LGBT youth are at a higher risk of committing suicide already - clearly, this is not a message we want to be sending.
Forgetting Women of Color in Female-Oriented Entertainment
Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Charmed. Pan Am. Sex in the City. All of these female-aimed shows exhibit distinctly monochrome casting choices. Sure, Charmed was sort of justified in that the three leads were supposed to be sisters. But Pan Am has no excuse - and there were plenty of non-white stewardesses in the 60âs.
Multi-Racial Groups Always With a White at the Helm
This wouldnât be a problem if it didnât keep happening all the time. But invariably, whenever thereâs a multi-racial group or team of some kind, the leader will invariably be white. The implication is that while non-whites are good enough to have on a team, they still arenât leadership material.
The Fairytale Gypsy
You know the character type - they live in wagons, wear colorful clothing, read fortunes, and play a mean fiddle.
The trouble is, what you see in fiction is a romanticized version of a very ugly reality: âGypsyâ is actually a racial slur for the Roma and Dom people. The reason theyâre nomads is because racists have a habit of routing them out whenever they try to settle down, and their eclectic fashion comes from having to wear whatever they can get. Also, theyâre no more magical than you or me.
Their portrayal in many fantasies perpetuates the myth that these people are fairytale creatures who vanished along with Long Ago And Far Away, rather than real people who suffer systemic oppression today.
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âWeâre not lovers, but more than friends.â
â Carly Rae Jepsen (Tonight Iâm Getting Over You, 2012)
You set my body on fire.
Six word story by me
Time heals all wounds. But time takes time.
And Iâm impatient
so if youâve forgotten all about me already, if you havenât missed a day of work, iâm okay with that. iâm okay. because neither have i. and iâve fallen in love with new books and iâm thinking of cutting my hair short and you wonât be excited to see it when i do. you might not even know. and thatâs okay, too.
because after all this time, two years full of it, i canât say that i hate you. i canât say it without lying, without stretching the truth. you canât switch off love and turn on hatred without a little bit of hurt. and we did. we hurt a lot. but here we are. and we are fine.
and so, if you havenât missed a day of work this time, if you havenât cried since that night, if youâve been sleeping right, iâm glad. and this is goodbye. and that doesnât scare me like it used to. and it donât scare you at all. so we donât need to say it any more than we already have.
but goodbye anyways, and i hope the next time the moon goes blood red, youâre smiling up at it. and i hope you donât mind if i smile just as wide. i hope you donât mind that iâm smiling tonight.
Why even try to get right? When youâve outgrown a lover, the whole world knows but you. Itâs time to let go of this endless summer afternoon.
We were never lovers, and we never will be, now. I do not regret that, however. I regret the conversations we never had, the time we did not spend together. I regret that I never told him that he made me happy, when I was in his company. The world was the better for his being in it. These things alone do I now regret: things left unsaid. And he is gone, and I am old.
Neil Gaiman (via villere)
âWhen I was younger, my mother told me that each person has a cup of love; we empty it out and fill it up as we give and receive love. I often spilled mine over the shoelaces of boys with dimples I easily adore, over the ankles of goddesses who donât even know my existence. As I grew up a little, I learned to keep my love in vials so that they wonât spill on the floor when I chase ex-girlfriends or strangers who merely looked at my direction. Still, I easily made these vials into gifts and hand them out to anyone who shows but a little attention. As I grew a lot older, I eventually stopped chasing boys with plastic smiles and girls with paper hearts. I learned not to depend on other peopleâs affection and I filled my own cup. I guess I got tired of running after people who donât even look behind their backs. When I met you, you asked how did I become one strong, independent woman and I told you about the cup of love and that I only learned it from years and years of receiving leftovers when I endowed every single drop I had, so I had to fill mine. I do not deserve leftovers, you said. You will pour out the entire measure of your cup to mine so I would never fill empty again, you said. But I never told you that although I used to always, always empty out my contents to the wrong people, my cup was still overflowing because my mother never failed to refill that which I spilled on otherâs feet. By doing this, she patiently taught me how to look for people who could reciprocate what I give and when I canât find them, I had to be the one to fill my own. Thatâs why when she died, I never really felt dried up even though the source of the river which always replenished my cup was gone. Because I became my own spring. I always thought that your cracks and crevices only made you more beautiful for they were proof of how you weathered your storms. I mustâve forgotten the lessons my mother taught me because I failed to see that those cracks were not artifacts on a museum galleryâthose crevices eventually became a trench making it impossible for my spring to fill. I tried to fix you. But I should have believed you when you told me that you destroy the people you love, because that was precisely what you did to me.â
How can I fill my own when you took my entire cup, you f*cking thief? // kabalintunaan (via wnq-writers)