[woodlandftm]

I’ll do a short explanatory introduction. FTM separatism is new to me, you will hardly find any information on the topic, so I’m learning as I’m going and I may not be the best or most educated representative of my own ideology. This blog is informal. There is a lot of fandom (re)blogging, vents, I’m trying to up my game with positivity posts. But just to clarify what separatism means to me as of right now.

The general idea so far:

Trans men and mascs need to start building exclusive spaces. We should learn more about sex based oppression and the role it plays in trans spaces. By separatism, I mean separatism from the wider transgender movement specifically. Separatist, but not isolationist, is the principle I have when it comes to radical feminism, and even more so when it comes to detrans women. We should certainly not see them as enemies, and instead focus on our shared experiences and struggles. It would help us to connect with women who understand, that is detrans, desisters, dysphoric gnc, ex nonbinary, women who’ve dated or married mtfs. My goal is not to deny more trans men from seeking out female solidarity, it’s the opposite. This is a connection we were told was bad, we were asked what we need sex based solidarity for, what do we experience that trans women don’t? This is a division tactic that has done us harm. But also not every trans guy is open to those conversations or wants to have them, I respect that as well, which is why I’m a separatist so those men can still find resources and talk freely with other trans men and mascs going through the same thing.

[abouquetofdaylillies-deactivate]

Pre-menstrual depression is always depicted as like "He He! I had a box of icecream bars and cried while watching the Titanic!" But in reality, it's more like, "I'm standing the edge of an abyss. There is nothing good inside of me, I'm filled with rage and desperation."

It's crazy that being told how to deal with that is never a part of anyone's menstrual sex education.

[headspace-hotel]

This has already been said in the notes, but if PMS causes extreme depression and even suicidal ideation, that is in fact something that most people do not experience and it can be treated

Like for the majority it really is "oh i'm hungrier and moodier than usual"

^this should be a part of sex education so the point still stands

[godesssiri]

I went to my doctor after I was walking to work one morning and saw a bus coming and actually took a step to throw myself in front of it before I pulled myself together. Later that day I started bleeding and was literally like someone flipped a switch and I didn't feel suicidal anymore. Which made me feel like I was loosing my mind because who goes from 'I want to throw myself in front of a bus' to 'I'm perfectly fine' just like that? I did some research, I went to the doctor and described my feelings, he looked me in the eye and gently asked what I thought it was, I said I'd read about PMDD and I thought it might be that, he said 'I think so too' and wrote a prescription.

If, before you get your period, you feel furiously angry, suicidal, irritated by every tiny thing to the point you want to murder someone, stuck in a black hole you'll never escape from. If you are experiencing extreme emotions for what seems like no good reason, especially if you get your period and those extreme emotions just go away. You're probably not just PMSing , you may have PMS's feral big sister PMDD and it's treatable.

Also this is something that can develop as you get older. So if you used to get normal PMS but what I wrote above sounds more like your norm now then don't just write it off as regular PMS.

[unrespectability]

Hey, this will have to be vague but a while ago I peaked and I went and told some people I like and trust about this. For the past few weeks my anxiety has absolutely shot up about being found out, being exposed, etc. I really love my trans internet friends and don't want to lose them, but I know they'll see me as an enemy and turn on a dime if any of my secrets ever come out. I have intense fear of rejection and my brain keeps making me imagine these scenarios over and over again. And I logically trust the people I told, but my brain keeps going "what if they turn and tell everyone??? What if they decide you're dangerous and want to ruin your Internet life???" over and over and over. I'm really active in fandom and have dreams of making something popular one day which makes it worse. I keep envisioning making my passion projects only for the "creator is a TERF" to drop and losing everyone. Sorry to dump all this on you but I just don't know what to do. Do you have any advice for coping with this severe paranoia and anxiety?

hi friend, i can tell this is time-sensitive so i hope you don't mind it took me a couple days to respond 🫂 so sorry you're going through this

my first question would be: do you often find yourself caught up in intense and distressing rumination spirals that come with constant hypothetical worst-case "what if" scenarios? if so, i would recommend looking into ways of working with obsessive-compulsive thought patterns; from what i've learned second hand they are VERY tough to deal with on your own and without tools, but the more you understand about them, the better it gets! ✊🏻

the main thing To take out of obsessive-compulsive pattern strategies is something that perhaps can serve most of us well: we have to give up on the pursuit of certainty, however uncomfortable that may be. you probably will not be able to convince your mind you are 100% safe, because a) we are rarely 100% safe, and b) you cannot realistically have access to all the possible pieces of evidence to cosmically and objectively ascertain the true degree of your safety. what you Can tell yourself is that you do not really know for sure whether something is a risk or not. "this is going to happen" is not easy to tip into "this is Not going to happen" - both are speculative, and speculation is a trap. the more comfortable you can get with "this may or may not happen, i have no way of knowing whether it will" the better it will serve you in the long run. easier said than done tho so please feel free to scoff at me preaching that while having a generally very stable and almost stubbornly disaffected disposition tho lol, i'm a hack!

where other people are concerned, it can be grounding to get out of your head and talk to them more - as long as you are aware of any compulsive pursuit of reassurance. perhaps instead of asking to be assured they would not wish to expose you, prompt them to talk about their own internal processing, any thoughts they've been having in private about the topic (not so much about You), whether they've reevaluated any previous convictions?

i'm truly very sorry there is so much enforced self-censoring and anxiety surrounding something i think is very beautiful and productive. you are not alone in your thoughts and you are definitely not alone in your anxieties. i may not have much of an ultimate strategy to offer, but i know you are not navigating this on your own; please keep seeking out advice if mine does not satisfy you ✊🏻 wishing you all the best

[woodlandftm]

Hi anon, I don’t know if you’ll see this. But I have OCD, you may or may not, but either way, I definitely get what you’re talking about. I second everything Unrespectability has said.

When I first peaked, I went through exactly what you’re describing to the point my stress levels pushed me into anxiety attacks and breakdowns. The only help for me honest to god was anti anxiety meds but that’s also because I have OCD and severe generalized anxiety disorder, so that may not be your best option and I wouldn’t want to rush someone on to pills immediately. I’m just saying what ultimately it came down to for me.

It will lessen over time. To the point you may even be able to talk about some of your new opinions and values a little bit more with other people. I found it helpful to connect with other gender criticals online, have conversations with them, read books with them, develop my understanding of gender abolition and radical feminism. It made me feel less like the only people I have are people who’d hate me for my view of patriarchy and gender. I have my grandmother to talk to at the very least, and it can be really nice to just sit down with a woman who’s lived through it all and has an older perspective. Who knew what feminists were doing in the seventies.

I’ve also got someone my age I can be honest with completely. You say you have people like that, just talking to them, about gender critical theory or anything else, simply talking to them helps. It takes time to for your comfort levels with them go back to normal. You’re building new trust about this.

I find it helpful to also reflect on why I think the way I think. Why I peaked, why I see myself in radical feminist spaces, what makes me overall agreeable to this school of feminism in particular, and what wouldn’t? It helps me become more confident in my new view and beliefs. I often write out and practice explaining these things to other people, so whenever the question will arise, I am prepared to answer. It does help to have had this conversation twice in person with the two people I trust.

But also remember to just relax, when you find this anxiety is all you can think about for the past few days or weeks, take some time alone where you can exist as just you. Not the person who is a radfem/rad adjacent/gender critical, just you. This is only just one part of who you are. Any coping strategies you find helpful. Make tea, meditate, play music, light candles, read something just for fun, watch a new show, or rewatch one you like, play your favorite game. It can be hard to just dump your worries outside the door of your private space but the more I practiced this every day, the easier it became for me to enjoy my private time, and the less panic attacks and anxiety attacks throughout the week.

Wishing you the best

[pinsbyyou]

i’ll probably write something about this but like. the type of darvo that transfeminine people do against transmasculine people who have been victimized by transfems is fundamentally identical to the treatment that marginalized men do to marginalized women.

i’m black, and a lot of people on here are not black, so i often feel like i cannot accurately articulate just how identical it is. i have literally had conversations with my mother about how black people will do predator protection for black male assailants who have victimized black women.

it’s always “you can’t call the cops on him, you’ll get him killed. you know how the police treats people like us.” for trans women it’s, “you can’t tell anyone, you’re socially murdering her. you know how people[/right wingers/transmisogynists/TERFs] treat people like her.”

everyone is falsely accusing them. his past girlfriends and hookups and even his sisters, cousins, and mother are all lying, they’re all trying to weaponize a combination of the state and their social position to have a black man murdered. i’ve had to sit through conversations with my father about how he believes r. kelly was attacked by the media for being a rich black man. everything is being misconstrued about them and everything is always missing context. you can’t put this black man in danger by believing his black female victim because the stakes are just too high.

replace r. kelly with eli erlick or patricia taxxon or any of the hundreds of trans(feminist) activists who have been accused of sexual misconduct against female people, particularly transmasculine people.

according to the black male studies pundits, black feminism is an oxymoron because black people only have each other. when we name patriarchy, we’re denigrating our ‘brothers’ and therefore ourselves. to be an ally to black liberation is to be an ally to black men. racial marginalization must be the root of all evil because sex-neutral race-class solidarity upholds the patriarchal demand of female people to lay down everything for males.

quite literally, these black MRA tactics are indistinguishable from trans‘feminism.’ “you can’t say that, look at how much they get murdered. so many of them are homeless. they’ll believe you because you have a vagina,” and so the saying goes.

this whole show and dance has been playing out before my eyes for yearsssss. the only difference is that transfeminists have even more armour against it because their victims are masculine female people and they are feminized males.

[sahlofolina]

the north of ireland has the second highest rate of femicide in all of europe. it was dubbed one of the most unsafe places to be a woman in western europe. 30 women and girls in the north have been victims of femicide since november 2020. none of the people who set belfast on fire last night have ever gotten violent about that or made threats against the perpetrators. they don't care that the family of the victim of the attack this week (stephen ogilvy) have begged for there to be calm and no riots. they don't care that the brother of natalie mcnally called them out as toxic. they're just taking any opportunity they can to be brazenly racist out in the open. they aren't acting out of ignorance, a lack of education, or empathy for victims; they're simply racist. they are adults making a choice to intimidate, destroy, and target marginalised people. they are endangering black and brown families, setting their homes on fire, and destroying buses and public facilities to terrorise communities. black and brown families with young children are seeking refuge in their white neighbours' houses because they're so terrified. what's happening in belfast is a pogrom by the same people who burn effigies of irish people every july. they don't give a shit about victims, they only want an excuse to surveil and threaten black and brown people, who had nothing to do with the horrific incident, and tar them all with the same brush and claim that they're the dangerous ones. call it what it is: RACISM.

[woodlandftm]

You know the people that are absolutely horrible to be around and have maybe even abused others, but then they decide Jesus has saved them snd they’re a born again Christian now?

Gender transition is that for leftist men. Both groups treat it like a rebirth. The fact that I’ve heard TIMs defend the shitty behavior of other TIMs by saying they were just acting out and were frustrated because they haven’t discovered their true self or started estrogen. The defense of Jax from TADC, which I refuse to watch, I’ve seen more than enough posts about that stupid show. The people who had a 4chan “phase” who refuse to be accountable for any past (is it really past?) bigotries or people they hurt.

It really is just abusive shitty person -> born again Christian, pink gender flavored.

[woodlandftm]

did you ever go by Finn/Vincent

No. I do go by Rory

[marbleguard]

ive been having a lot of thoughts lately about what my goals are, who are potential allies in my feminism, who i relate most to, and coming to some different conclusions than i think a lot of online radfems tend to. I've been running this blog for ~10 years, and I've seen the same tired discourse cycles play out over and over. things stay so insular, (I know a lot of that is out of our control due to being blocked-and-stay-safe'd into a cupboard. but still.) I think there is a serious lack of understanding shown towards afab trans people. Of course it's the same in the reverse, they don't understand us. I'm not claiming to speak for all radical feminists but as a woman who is at least a bit GNC, who is drawn to others like me, I am becoming increasingly frustrated with this stupid millimeter thin but seemingly impenetrable wall between us. At least in many ways, i think we are the same kind of people, who got nudged one way or the other and grew into different shapes from the same starter plant. I think afab trans people are closer to feminist consciousness than the average "normie" woman, even a liberal feminist one. because like me, trans identified female people have recognized with horror that something is deeply, deeply wrong with the traditional heteropatriarchal world, and don't feel they fit in as a "woman" in society, as society defines it, whatsoever. That starting point is already way farther than your average "normie" woman ever gets, and I think it's very similar to the starting point for some radical feminists. Not to mention, the dwindling to almost to total lack of young GNC and butch women, while we see a proliferation of trans men and nonbinary female people, to me it's obvious, these are the same fucking people. I feel like a straggler who hasn't gotten with the program and joined the crowd, rather than a different type of person. I'm not saying i approve of the program, or that I'm going to join it, I'm just trying to articulate how I conceptualize my place in this insane world. I'm not sure what my point is, or if I even have one. But this is something I have been thinking about a lot. And I'll probably elaborate on more later as I continue to think things through.

[woodlandftm]

The reaction to the transmascvoicesproject is a case study in that you cannot play by the game of so called transfeminists, when it comes to having your trauma and assault acknowledged.

I’ll abbreviate the blog to TMVP, which was created specifically to address the sexual violence “TME” people experience from “TMA” people, and it’s really no coincidence that when people speak of “TME” people, they’re speaking of transmascs. The blog exists within the TMA/TME framework, yet the existence of the blog clashes with the ideology the blogger claims to support.

For those unfamiliar, TME means “transmisogyny exempt”, supposedly means “everyone that isn’t a trans woman”, although really the only people it’s ever used for are female people. And TMA is “transmisogyny affected”, so all TIMs.

The blogger describes themself as a TME trans neutral, so a nonbinary identified female person. For anyone reading this, I advise caution and distance since their age is not confirmed, they could be an adult, they could be underage, but regardless they are in an immensely vulnerable state. I’ve blocked them for their sake so they do not have to see this.

They’ve recognized that the TIMs of the trans community often get away with sexual assault and that transmasc survivors are silenced, this is something they’ve had a personal experience with, and there’s a clash between this experience and trying to maintain transgender unity and solidarity, since pointing this out, even when using TRA language. It is still drawing attention to sex based dynamics, which goes against “transfeminism”, as sex based oppression is not real in their theory, not only that, but it is outright dangerous. It does not matter how strongly TMVP hates “TERFs”. As expected, people in their inbox try to bait them into agreeing with radical feminism, and they react harshly and strongly. Unfortunately for them, “TERF” isn’t actually a real category, so they don’t need to be a radical feminist or believe in sex based oppression to be considered one.

Yes, even if they believe that trans women are systemically oppressed, and trans men have privilege, and TMA/TME is real and they abide by that framework strictly. They’re a female person who ventured a bit too close to voicing what looks like sex based oppression. Even if they claim they aren’t and their argument is that transmascs aren’t listened to because trans women are so marginalized, nobody believes transmascs, which is not acknowledging sex based oppression, and still appeals to “transfeminist” theory, any further speculation upon this ruins the whole illusion. It is dangerous to TRA rhetoric.

Mousidy is particularly cruel about this

There is a lot more. They’ve been sent gore. Their pinned post has nearly a hundred hate comments. Their entire blog is just filled of brimming seething hatred directed at them. They have practically no allies outside of a small handful of people, as other transmascs tear them down hard, and the TIMs do what they do best in this situation, death threats, suicide baits, guilt trips, manipulation. They see no allies from radical feminism and reject radfems firmly.

This is what happens when you acknowledge male violence to any extent within the trans community. You simply can’t. While this individual may hold firm in their trans rights advocacy and to stay far away from radical feminism or gender critical theory, what can’t be ignored is how unstable this position is. It is what leads trans men to peaking, what shatters our illusions, what are we supposed to do about the issues with male violence if we are not allowed to name it? Not allowed to see it? Not allowed to find and share support for it? What other choice are trans men left with even? There isn’t any, you have to submit to the ideology completely or you are gone. You would be better dead. You are a TERF. You are killing trans women and girls and you must repent or die.

This is also how the trans community isolates female members. Two things work against us here. Anti feminist indoctrination, where radical feminists are considered a branch of fascism. And also the fact that it is true radical feminism is not particularly for transmascs, TMVP was denied access to a crisis shelter, and most likely blames radfems for this. While radical feminism is not the fascist evil it’s portrayed as, the fact is transmascs are still overlooked, seen as a part of the opposing trans community, rather than fellow female people to be liberated. Tensions between the two groups only deepen as transmascs have and will harass radfems, bi and straight ones appropriating lesbian culture, spitting on and insulting the solidarity radfems sometimes offer.

The constant conflict and general lack of desire to have female solidarity, having been told trans solidarity is of the upmost importance, transmascs remain relegated to the wider trans community. We are told “TERFs” want to genocide us all, or genocide only trans women and we’re privileged men who need to understand that. TMVP is being thoroughly punished, slandered, dragged across all of transfem tumblr by mousidy and his followers, and is given hardly any support from other female trans people.

As female people we are to put the interest of males first and foremost, in this case, that is trans “women”. They might be so merciful to us that we can talk about having been raped once before, even more if they allow someone to admit it was a trans woman who did it. From there you’re expected to clarify that you don’t believe it’s all trans women, and you’re expected to be grateful they listened to you at all. What is not allowed, and will never be allowed, is pointing out the rate of violence, sexual violence, that trans “women” commit against themselves and “TME” people. What’s also not allowed is bringing up how many “TME” victims are silenced.

You can talk about your assault, just don’t say it’s a pattern, or a problem, or any indication of a large scale issue, any indication you’d like to see improvement on the problem, don’t ask for actions to be taken to address this rape culture, and especially do not point to who is doing it. Only ever talk about your assault as it was done by someone who happened to be transfem.

When a female trans person observes another one breaking these rules, they will step in and correct them. “Hey what happened to you was bad but speaking about it like this is very transmisogynistic.” The male’s ideology and peace of mind must be protected, even if it means policing the way someone talks about their sexual assault. Being “transmisogynistic” is a greater sin than committing an act of sexual violence. Deny any of this you face expulsion and hatred from the wider community of which you depend upon.

Female trans people are trapped, cut off from women who would advocate for them, unable to make any progress against their oppression within the community, unable to name and point to the oppressor, keeping themselves and each other in check, taught to care more about TIMs than ourselves and each other.

The end result is what you see above. Isolated, publicly humiliated, and disowned.

While I wish nothing more than for them to find acceptance and community, I advise heavily against trying to talk to TMVP. Do not bother them. If you are to send any sort of support, do not enforce radfeminism on them, do not scold them for being ignorant about it, do not mention it, and be anonymous.

[trannyradfem]

This is precisely what happened to me when I was still TRA, and I wanted help and support in the aftermath of being abused by a trans woman, and then subsequently an entire group of trans women.

I want to reinforce what OP said: Please give this person space. Do not bother her, DO NOT send her hate or criticism. If you give her support, please DO NOT bring radical feminism into it, and use anon. She's being actively harmed and harassed, and she will need time and space to cope and process on her own terms. Radical feminism will only overwhelm and upset this person because of the damage the trans community has done, and it will not help her with any cognitive dissonance she may have. She will come to her own conclusions on her own time, likely slowly and painfully. All we can do is stand by, and be there for her if she ever reaches out to us.

Edit: Changed "they" to "she", this or "he" is preferred indicated by TMVP's bio. I can practically guarantee you trans fems have already misgendered her. I'd rather not compound her pain god forbid she ever does see this.

[woodlandftm]

Yeah unfortunately I didn’t see the bio change until after I made this post and published it and it got spread throughout radblr. The only information I had about her preference was just that she described herself as trans neutral, so I had attempted to respect that. Thank you all for being understanding with TMVP’s situation and voicing your support even if he doesn’t see this post which is for the best.

[woodlandftm]

Omfg 😭

They all really have nothing but massive fucking complexes

[woodlandftm]

Mousidy has also been crashing out because he was sent a very polite ask from a conversion therapy survivor begging him to stop using coercive rhetoric to pressure lesbians. The notes have thousands of people insulting and belittling the asker and coddling mousidy who has also answered asks from admitted pedophiles much more kindly

So I’ve seen :/

He will gladly platform pedophilia and promote rape culture as well as berate all transmascs and do a DARVO by calling us abusers and rapists, but has his little man tantrum when that energy is flung back at him and transfems. They can’t stand what they dole out. Whoever his therapist is needs to see the entirety of his social media activity and see the environment he’s fostering

[unrespectability]

‼️🔊‼️i'm working on setting up a Discord server to facilitate local connections between women of the British Isles‼️🔊‼️

please register your interest via (non-anonymous!) asks or dms if this is something you might want to be part of; i would like to make sure we have at least a few active and invested women present for the start of it, to not immediately run out of vital momentum once the server (hopefully 🤞🏻) launches

i would like for this to be a space of revival of local feminist culture, a tribute to the amazing women who came before us and, most importantly, a way to foster new in-person connections. the obvious safety concerns are something i would like to see addressed collectively once enough of us get together. the ultimate vision for the server includes private location-based chats as well as a forum to coordinate group plans for FiLia 2027. ultimately, though, you can keep your more specific location as private as you wish!

as a relatively recent immigrant resident of rural southern England and a woman who is exploring radical feminist politics and trying to learn more about whatever access i may have to in-person groups, networks and communities, as well as the history of the local feminist struggle, i am HUNGRY for new connections !! if you hunger as well, make yourself known and let us starve no more :-)

[woodlandftm]

thank you for bringing attention to the TMVP situation. It's so sickening and terrifying. I'm an outsider to the whole situation -- not trans, not involved -- but it's just so scary to me how these dynamics DO trickle out of tumblr and now I have normal, other non-trans friends who are convinced that everyone on tumblr/other social media from the staff to the radfems to the EVIL WICKED TME'S are against trans women and want them DEAD and are LYING ABOUT BEING ASSAULTED. and then you can't bring up the truth without people thinking you're a huge transphobe. Maybe I'm a transphobe against specifically tumblr trans women because what the fuck

This site is so fucked, and when I saw what was happening to TMVP, I couldn’t simply not speak about it because holy fucking shit. It’s bad. My post was slapped together on a whim to be completely honest and I tried to respect TMVP in that post since she said she was transneutral, I went back to check in just one more time before I blocked and learned she had updated her bio to say she/he pronouns strictly, so there’s that but oh well, it’s not like TMVP will see my post. There’s also errors that got reblogged before I could fix them, like “esbian” 😭, I’m sorry ladies

Anyway I just wanted to show people what was happening and what it’s like for transmascs who try to speak up

[woodlandftm]

im black and a trans woman lol. you assume im white cuz you its easier for you to dismiss my criticism. it hurts you to realize you are just another guy abusing women for your own entertainment so you assume every trans women has to be white to justify it to yourself. i can only wonder what you do to your black sisters in private if this is the way you act publically. eat shit

You are not the first and will not be the last misogynistic black man to have spoken to me. I did not assume you were white, I pointed out an observation I made of the white TIMs, which many radfems, transmascs, women of color have voiced frustrations about. If you wish to ignore their voices, align yourself with that sort of crowd, go on ahead.

I am a woman, for the matter, I have said as much multiple times on this blog. It’s an immutable fact. My sisters are not and never will be male. Trying to appeal to a sense of “sibling bond” with males stopped working for me months ago. My sisters are radical feminists and the actual black women who are sick of your shit

[woodlandftm]

if a white person made a blog called whitevoicesproject that was dedicated to uplifting stories of white people being sexually abused by black people because white people, as they say, cannot talk about it would you say this was made in good faith and had reason to exist?

I don’t know why you’re bothering me with this other than to waste your time lmao. “Would you say this was made in good faith?” Would you say you sent this to me in good faith?

Anyway black people are an oppressed group. Males are not. Female people are an oppressed group. Female people of the same community are allowed to talk about the violence they face from the male people of their communities. Trans “women” are males, and white trans “women” have this racist habit of comparing their oppression to that of black people, it’s obvious they want to be black so fucking bad, they see what black people have built for themselves and want it without giving any due credit or examining their own racism. They can point to female people and say “they’re just like white people and we are like black people”, ignoring the fact female people are oppressed for being female, but compare them to white people as a whole who are not oppressed for being white. Don’t say stupid shit in my inbox again.

[woodlandftm]

hey I'm neither transmasc or detrans but i wanted to ask if i could ask you for some advice/vent a little about the transfems in my life (it's nothing too serious)

it's fine if your answer is no but if you say yes i would probably reach out to you privately

Sure, feel free to reach out privately and tell me what’s been going on

[woodlandftm]

The reaction to the transmascvoicesproject is a case study in that you cannot play by the game of so called transfeminists, when it comes to having your trauma and assault acknowledged.

I’ll abbreviate the blog to TMVP, which was created specifically to address the sexual violence “TME” people experience from “TMA” people, and it’s really no coincidence that when people speak of “TME” people, they’re speaking of transmascs. The blog exists within the TMA/TME framework, yet the existence of the blog clashes with the ideology the blogger claims to support.

For those unfamiliar, TME means “transmisogyny exempt”, supposedly means “everyone that isn’t a trans woman”, although really the only people it’s ever used for are female people. And TMA is “transmisogyny affected”, so all TIMs.

The blogger describes themself as a TME trans neutral, so a nonbinary identified female person. For anyone reading this, I advise caution and distance since their age is not confirmed, they could be an adult, they could be underage, but regardless they are in an immensely vulnerable state. I’ve blocked them for their sake so they do not have to see this.

They’ve recognized that the TIMs of the trans community often get away with sexual assault and that transmasc survivors are silenced, this is something they’ve had a personal experience with, and there’s a clash between this experience and trying to maintain transgender unity and solidarity, since pointing this out, even when using TRA language. It is still drawing attention to sex based dynamics, which goes against “transfeminism”, as sex based oppression is not real in their theory, not only that, but it is outright dangerous. It does not matter how strongly TMVP hates “TERFs”. As expected, people in their inbox try to bait them into agreeing with radical feminism, and they react harshly and strongly. Unfortunately for them, “TERF” isn’t actually a real category, so they don’t need to be a radical feminist or believe in sex based oppression to be considered one.

Yes, even if they believe that trans women are systemically oppressed, and trans men have privilege, and TMA/TME is real and they abide by that framework strictly. They’re a female person who ventured a bit too close to voicing what looks like sex based oppression. Even if they claim they aren’t and their argument is that transmascs aren’t listened to because trans women are so marginalized, nobody believes transmascs, which is not acknowledging sex based oppression, and still appeals to “transfeminist” theory, any further speculation upon this ruins the whole illusion. It is dangerous to TRA rhetoric.

Mousidy is particularly cruel about this

There is a lot more. They’ve been sent gore. Their pinned post has nearly a hundred hate comments. Their entire blog is just filled of brimming seething hatred directed at them. They have practically no allies outside of a small handful of people, as other transmascs tear them down hard, and the TIMs do what they do best in this situation, death threats, suicide baits, guilt trips, manipulation. They see no allies from radical feminism and reject radfems firmly.

This is what happens when you acknowledge male violence to any extent within the trans community. You simply can’t. While this individual may hold firm in their trans rights advocacy and to stay far away from radical feminism or gender critical theory, what can’t be ignored is how unstable this position is. It is what leads trans men to peaking, what shatters our illusions, what are we supposed to do about the issues with male violence if we are not allowed to name it? Not allowed to see it? Not allowed to find and share support for it? What other choice are trans men left with even? There isn’t any, you have to submit to the ideology completely or you are gone. You would be better dead. You are a TERF. You are killing trans women and girls and you must repent or die.

This is also how the trans community isolates female members. Two things work against us here. Anti feminist indoctrination, where radical feminists, are considered a branch of fascism. And also the fact that it is true radical feminism is not particularly for transmascs, TMVP was denied access to a crisis shelter, and most likely blame radfems for this. While radical feminism is not the fascist evil it’s portrayed as, the fact is transmascs are still overlooked, seen as a part of the opposing trans community, rather than fellow female people to be liberated. Tensions between the two groups only deepen as transmascs have and will harass radfems, bi and straight ones appropriating esbian culture, spitting on and insulting the solidarity radfems sometimes offer.

The constant conflict and general lack of desire to have female solidarity, having been told trans solidarity is of the upmost importance, transmascs remain relegated to the wider trans community. We are told “TERFs” want to genocide us all, or genocide only trans women and we’re privileged men who need to understand that. TMVP is being thoroughly punished, slandered, dragged across all of transfem tumblr by mousidy and his followers, and is given hardly any support from other female trans people.

As female people we are to put the interest of males first and foremost, in this case, that is trans “women”. They might be so merciful to us that we can talk about having been raped once before, even more if they allow someone to admit it was a trans woman who did it. From there you’re expected to clarify that you don’t believe it’s all trans women, and you’re expected to be grateful they listened to you at all. What is not allowed, and will never be allowed, is pointing out the rate of violence, sexual violence, that trans “women” commit against themselves and “TME” people. What’s also not allowed is bringing up how many “TME” victims are silenced.

You can talk about your assault, just don’t say it’s a pattern, or a problem, or any indication of a large scale issue, any indication you’d like to see improvement on the problem, don’t ask for actions to be taken to address this rape culture, and especially do not point to who is doing it. Only ever talk about your assault as it was done by someone who happened to be transfem.

When a female trans person observes another one breaking these rules, they will step in and correct them. “Hey what happened to you was bad but speaking about it like this is very transmisogynistic.” The male’s ideology and peace of mind must be protected, even if it means policing the way someone talks about their sexual assault. Being “transmisogynistic” is a greater sin than committing an act of sexual violence. Deny any of this you face expulsion and hatred from the wider community of which you depend upon.

Female trans people are trapped, cut off from women who would advocate for them, unable to make any progress against their oppression within the community, unable to name and point to the oppressor, keeping themselves and each other in check, taught to care more about TIMs than ourselves and each other.

The end result is what you see above. Isolated, publicly humiliated, and disowned.

While I wish nothing more than for them to find acceptance and community, I advise heavily against trying to talk to TMVP. Do not bother them. If you are to send any sort of support, do not enforce radfeminism on them, do not scold them for being ignorant about it, do not mention it, and be anonymous.

[myke-litoris]

Wow. At this point the behavior is not surprising but still horrifying. Someone on here once said that TIMs treat their female counterparts the way a domestic abuser treats "his" woman and its all I can think about anytime I witness the dynamic between them because its a pattern that reveals itself over and over... when you think about it the tif/'transmasc' spaces are like the final frontier for these men because its the only female exclusive category that's ostensibly permitted by their ideology. Now that they've wormed their way in everywhere else, their obsession pivots to those spaces. That's how you get the recent boom in the "TMA/TME" crap and TIMs larping as "radfems" (ofc they have to create a completely new ideology because they are as anti feminist as they come)

[woodlandftm]

Yeah, especially with it reflecting patterns of abuse is how much the abused woman might still advocate for her abuser. It gets harder and harder to deny the toxicity of TIMs and their abusive behaviors, the female people in closest proximity to them, transmascs, are still persistent advocates for them regardless of the abuse our half of the community is dealt