Words of the Heart and Soul

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

Release what has released you. Release the person who already released you. Release that job that already released you. Release the expectation, timeline, and the life plan you had for yourself that has already released you. Release the desire to revive, rekindle, or retrieve what has already released you. I understand it's painful. I understand you put years into that friendship or relationship, just hoping that person would change or become the version of themselves you now they have the potential to be. I know you're hard on yourself and imagined being in a different place in life by now. But in all these areas, I need you to understand that acceptance is critical and alignment is key. You can grieve what you lost, mourn what never came to pass, and still have enough love, respect, and spiritual maturity within yourself to loosen your grip on something God does not want for you. The longer you try to force something or someone that is not meant to continue on your journey, the more you hold yourself back from all the blessings, people, and inner growth that are meant for you.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

I heard that you cannot lose anyone who is not with you. Sometimes that is very difficult to accept - especially if people are always in your face, in your group photos, or trying to be in your life. Just because someone is in your circle, does not mean they are in your corner. Just because someone is constantly calling to check on you, wanting to know your next steps, or asking you questions, doesn't mean they're engaged, interested, or truly in it for you for the right reasons. Instead of being angry when people reject you, abandon you, gossip about you, or are not there for you to the capacity that you've been there for them or would be for them - look at it as an answered prayer. Look at it as revelation of who they are and where they deserve to be in your life but never a reflection of your worth.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

After you're all out of excuses and exhausted from the amount of pain you tolerated for the sake of love, friendship, family, or optics, you will understand that sometimes the wisest action to take is simply to let go. You can love others yet have enough love for yourself to stop rebuilding bonds that will only continue to break you. Pray and press on with the acceptance that turning the page is pivotal for protecting your peace and purpose.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

To say you are blessed with spiritual vision yet choose to be blind to everything God has revealed to you is not only foolish, it's also disobedient. God clearly showed you and confirmed to you in a way that couldn't be ignored. Quit acting like he isn't answering because you don't want to heed the warning. Release what you wanted so you can align with what you need.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

It's amazing how hard we will fight to leave a space open in our hearts, lives, and minds for those who do not belong there. How long we are willing to wait for people to see us, love us, and understand us before we accept the fact that they are not meant for us. How long we will ignore or misconstrue the signs and revelations God uses to instruct us to let go of something because we want or hold on to hope. That unwillingness to release is not faith - it is foolishness. At some point you must tell yourself that you do not want anything God doesn't want for you and that it's better to be disappointed than destroyed. If you know God is able to do all things but He doesn't want to do something for you, rest assured you shouldn't want it either.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

God, help me soften the parts of my heart hardened by hurt. Help me to respond to people and situations with love and mercy - when my nervous system wants to react with freezing or frustration. I can't fully live for you if every move I make is set on my own terms. Show me who you want me to be and guide me in every ordered step and ordered stop I must take to get there.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

A strong opinion is not a fact. A loud, confidently spoken projection is not a fact. Misinformation that goes uncorrected is not a fact. If someone cannot grasp the simple truth of this statement, then why are you so persistent on proving yourself or proving something to them? They aren't looking for clarity. They are looking to confirm whatever bias they have. You know you. You know your intentions, the details of your experiences, and the depth of your emotions. Most importantly, God knows. Don't ever let the feelings of others distort the facts of who you are.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

You are not responsible for their response. You are responsible for the tone, words, and amount of vulnerability you choose to express. You cannot control if the other person understands, believes, or respects what you say.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

Perhaps the reason many of us hold so much offense and resentment towards others is because we would have wanted to have a healthy conversation with them to bring clarity and forgiveness at the time, but we didn't feel safe to, or we knew it wouldn't be wise to try.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

Part of the reason you hold grudges against people is because you never held them accountable. And that isn't their fault - it's yours. Lacking boundaries, extending mercy to malicious intent at the expense of your mental health, and suppressing your emotions and experiences adds a heaviness to your heart and mind that can not only impact your identity but also your spiritual growth.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

You can be loving and have limits. You can be kind and not tolerate cruelty. You can have boundaries. You can say no. You can opt out of going somewhere because it doesn't sit well with your spirit or you don't feel safe. You can remove yourself from the conversation, the environment, or the friendship...and that doesn't make you a mean person. Sometimes doing what's best for you is not going to be comfortable for you or understood by everyone. However, if you are growing, healing, learning, and aligning yourself - you will have to make uncomfortable, difficult, and misunderstood decisions. That what it takes to lead you to true healing, alignment, and growth. It's easy to worry about what everyone says and thinks and common to concern yourself about how you're coming off. But this is the season where you place more importance on wisdom and alignment than you do acceptance and community.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

When a former people pleaser gets to the point that they no longer concern themselves with losing people or not being liked, that is when true deliverance and development take place. When you care more about God knowing the facts about who you are instead of fixating on the feelings of people who think they know who you are - that is how you know you are free.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

You deserve people in your life who will love and respect you both in front of your face and behind your back. You deserve friendships that allow you to be vulnerable and transparent about your experiences and emotions - without the fear of being invalidated or taken advantage of. You deserve the compassion and care you so genuinely and graciously give. Make space for those types of relationships in your life and stop tolerating anything less.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

The conversations you wish you could have with other people, yet discernment tells you it would not be wise, have them with God. Vulnerably express to Him just how something or someone made you feel. Tell Him all the ways you were impacted and just how much it still affects you now. Confide in Him and let Him know how much an apology or acknowledgment would have meant to you. If you are the person in need of forgiveness, tell Him how truly sorry you are. Allow the contrition of your heart and sincerity of your sorrow to correct your behavior and mindset. Tell Him. Rest in the truth that He clearly sees and hears you. Find the peace and the power to move forward because you fully accept and understand that He knows and understand everything that happened, all you felt, and everything you are currently going through. He knows what happened to you wasn't right. He knows how much that situation hurt you. He knows just how genuinely sorry you are and all the steps you've taken to fix it and follow His path. He knows the heart of man and the motives and movements of every person. Put every emotion, experience, and concern in His hands and keep it there. He is a healer, counselor, and The One who handles all.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

Praying for those who persecute you and prey on you takes a level of spiritual maturity that most people are not willing to experience. It requires you to silence your flesh and operate fully in your spirit as you accept that the person in question is a flawed human being...just like you. What they did or said may not ever be okay. It may have scarred you and impacted you in ways that you still can't fully articulate. No, your prayers may not ever change them, but they will change you. Unforgiveness, bitterness, and offense are heavy. Give yourself time, grace, and support. Than give that person, situation, and pain to Him.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

God, cleanse me of any resentment or offense that came from being observant and silent in my seasons of being still and accepting revelation. Help me forgive others and myself. Help me release any desire to correct when the whole purpose of the tests and trials were to act as my catalyst. Help me embrace the power of my lessons and the potential impact of the empathy earned through my experiences. Help me as I let go of burdens that were never intended for me to carry.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear

[wordsoftheheartandsoul]

It seems like everyone loves you when you don't know who you are. When you don't defend yourself or rock the boat because you fear the reactions or rejection of others more than the impact that suppressing emotions and diluting your truth will bring. The wrong people will love it when you seek to prove and please them but aligned people will love you and not want you to needlessly punish and invalidate yourself.

Morgan Richard Olivier - the healing you hear