[frankocean]

just at home fuckin around, no judging.

[lleverages]

i want texts at 3am saying you couldnt sleep because you were thinking of me

[fukkce]

nothing is worse than having to detach from someone who has seen all of you

[anniemst]

“Growing up in a family with emotionally immature parents is a lonely experience. These parents may look and act perfectly normal, caring for their child’s physical health and providing meals and safety. However, if they don’t make a solid emotional connection with their child, the child will have a gaping hole where true security might have been. The loneliness of feeling unseen by others is as fundamental a pain as physical injury, but it doesn’t show on the outside. Emotional loneliness is a vague and private experience, not easy to see or describe. You might call it a feeling of emptiness or being alone in the world. Some people have called this feeling existential loneliness, but there’s nothing existential about it. If you feel it, it came from your family.”

— Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

[frawgs]

imagine being someones dream girl . i almost blacked out thinking abt it

[cosmicvibecheck]

[thebrownskingirl-blog]

You are so used to your features, you don’t know how beautiful you look to a stranger.

[cigeur]

“Sometimes you don’t see that the best thing that ever happened to you is right under your nose.”

Love Rosie (2014)

[introvertunites]

23 Emotions People Feel But Can’t Explain

Sonder: The realization that each passerby has a life as vivid and complex as your own.

Opia: The ambiguous intensity of Looking someone in the eye, which can feel simultaneously invasive and vulnerable.

Monachopsis: The subtle but persistent feeling of being out of place.

Énouement: The bittersweetness of having arrived in the future, seeing how things turn out, but not being able to tell your past self.

Vellichor: The strange wistfulness of used bookshops.

Rubatosis: The unsettling awareness of your own heartbeat.

Kenopsia: The eerie, forlorn atmosphere of a place that is usually bustling with people but is now abandoned and quiet.

Mauerbauertraurigkeit: The inexplicable urge to push people away, even close friends who you really like.

Jouska: A hypothetical conversation that you compulsively play out in your head.

Chrysalism: The amniotic tranquility of being indoors during a thunderstorm.

Vemödalen: The frustration of photographic something amazing when thousands of identical photos already exist.

Anecdoche: A conversation in which everyone is talking, but nobody is listening

Ellipsism: A sadness that you’ll never be able to know how history will turn out.

Kuebiko: A state of exhaustion inspired by acts of senseless violence.

Lachesism: The desire to be struck by disaster – to survive a plane crash, or to lose everything in a fire.

Exulansis: The tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it.

Adronitis: Frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone.

Rückkehrunruhe: The feeling of returning home after an immersive trip only to find it fading rapidly from your awareness.

Nodus Tollens: The realization that the plot of your life doesn’t make sense to you anymore.

Onism: The frustration of being stuck in just one body, that inhabits only one place at a time.

Liberosis: The desire to care less about things.

Altschmerz: Weariness with the same old issues that you’ve always had – the same boring flaws and anxieties that you’ve been gnawing on for years.

Occhiolism: The awareness of the smallness of your perspective.

Source John Koenig, writer and creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows.

[teenytinymoss]

I’m always a slut for libraries with beautiful architecture

[probably-trashed]

If you can’t hand your gf your phone at any given time to go through you aren’t doin shit right

[briellestudies]

i want you all to know that this is shit relationship advice and that if your partner can’t respect your privacy then you need to get the fuck away from them. there is nothing wrong with not wanting to share every single little detail of your life with your partner.

y'know those horror stories you hear about emotional abuse and overbearing partners (controlling who you hang out with, reading your text messages, makes you give them the passwords to your social media accounts, tracks your phone, etc.)? yeah. OP’s mindset/attitude is how shit like that starts. big red flag.

[dungeonmemester]

me: *deletes fucking everything off my phone*

phone: your storage is almost full

When you delete things off of a mobile device (like a phone or digital camera), the file goes to your phone’s recycle bin (just like on a desktop computer or laptop), typically an invisible folder named .trashes or .trash. There, it continues to take up the same amount of memory storage as it did before you ‘deleted’ it. To empty your mobile device’s recycling bin, plug your phone into your desktop or laptop via USB as a memory device, right click on your desktop/laptop’s recycling bin/trash, and tell it to empty your recycling bin/empty trash. Your computer will empty all .trash/.trashes folders, including the one on your phone, actually deleting the files permanently this time, freeing up your phone/camera’s memory space. Reblog to save a life.

(I know this works on MAC with my Andriod, it’s not too far a stretch to do the same on Windows and/or with other phones as well. In fact, it should be easier to do on Windows since Windows Explorer is more conducive to finding hidden folders.)

[i-didnt-do-it--you-dimwits-deac]

REBLOG TO SAVE A LIFE

[futurecristinayang-deactivated2]

College Admissions

Hi friends! I just finished 17 college applications and I’m fresh with advice for you all so here it is: 

STANDARDIZED TESTING: 

get this shit done ASAP; I started taking practice tests my freshman year and by the end of my sophomore year I had the score I wanted 

it literally does not matter if you take the ACT or SAT, colleges don’t fucking care just pick one and do well on it 

if you can, take 2 SAT subject tests; many colleges require them and so do special BA/MD programs so its best to have them prepared 

“how do you get a good score??”: PRACTICE TESTS! literally take as many as you can and make sure you correct the mistakes you make on each of them so you’re actually learning 

COMMON APPLICATION:

opens august 1; you do not have to submit anything then

you only get 10 slots for extracurricular activities so choose wisely; also you don’t necessarily need to fill all 10 slots; quality over quantity always 

you can submit the common app to a school before you submit the writing supplement! get that shit submitted so you don’t have to worry about it later on 

don’t type your essays on the common app; type them on a google doc and then transfer them later on so you can avoid it from crashing and not saving your work 

COLLEGE LIST:

don’t fucking apply to all 8 Ivies 

make sure you have safeties (easy to get into/affordable), matches (most likely will get in) along with your reaches (no fucking clue if you’ll get in)

be realistic about how many applications you can fill out 

try to finalize by 1st semester senior year 

COLLEGE ESSAYS: 

genuinely spend time on these 

don’t reuse your why X college essays 

when answering the why X college prompt: DO YOUR RESEARCH! specifics are key; they want students that will actually matriculate 

you can usually reuse your why X major essay so be sure to write a really good one 

don’t be someone you’re not; just be natural and let your personality shine 

they aren’t as bad as they seem I swear you just have to really work with 

if you’re really having trouble with a prompt, google it and there’s bound to be admissions blogs that have written tips about answering it 

GENERAL TIMELINE OF COLLEGE SHENANIGANS 

freshman year: 

don’t worry about harvard 

literally just enjoy your only peaceful year of high school 

join a few clubs 

get good grades 

you’re set

sophomore year: 

start looking at schools and figure out what you want in a college 

begin building your list 

start taking APs (if your school allows you) 

look for leadership opportunities 

look for summer programs and other things to keep you busy in the summer 

get ready for the hellstorm that is junior year

junior year:

get testing done by the end of this year 

figure out who you’re asking for letters of rec 

take AP classes 

maintain your GPA 

become a leader in your clubs 

senior year: 

lay on the floor and cry 

like really let it out bc this year is hell 

take a rigorous course load and get good grades 

finish last minute testing if you still haven’t 

register for common app 

get letters of rec 

send scores to colleges 

start writing college essays 

apply to scholarships 

fill out FAFSA and CSS 

good luck my lovelies xx my inbox is always open as always 

-Ramya

[timhortons]

i hope youre all lying and hyping your cv/resume’s up

[timhortons]

i have never gotten an interview and not been offered a job position after it

[timhortons]

I mean lets be honest if everyone else is gassing theirs up like no tomorrow and you’re being as honest as you can who th are the recruitment team going to be more interested in

[timhortons]

There’s people working in my banks head office with me WITH MUCH MORE EXPERIENCE than me BUT ARE GETTING PAID LESS

[timhortons]

we’re doing the exact same job role

[timhortons]

the point I’m trying to make here is if you’ve handled finances for a company you’re now what i would call a treasurer my g, if you’ve done admin work you are now a secretary (or as I’ve put Management secretary)

[timhortons]

you help some kid with his homework? you’re a private tutor.

keep your bullets points for the job role as concise and important sounding as possible AND ALWAYS EMPHASIS THAT YOURE A TEAM PLAYER IF YOURE GOING TO WORK IN A TEAM.

[timhortons]

go into that interview room and get your story straight the night before and remember that interviews are two way conversatons yes they might be grilling you but at the end of it make sure to grill them BACK. do you have any hesitations about my qualifications? my suitability for the job? any feedback on my cv? how long have you been working at this company? do you like it here? whats the work environment like?

I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS GET THE SAME FEEDBACK WHEN THEY GET BACK IN TOUCH WITH ME

“ive never been asked those questions before” / “you were one of the strongest candidates”

[timhortons]

throughout the interview emphasise that youre about progression, that you want more responsibilities than you did at your previous job, tell them the hours here are more suitable for me than my last ones were, AND WHEN IT COMES TO SALARY NEGOTIATION its all about continuity. tell them again that it boils down to progression. make up a reasonable figure for how much you were paid in your last role (do your research for how much the industry youre applying to or the role youre applying for pays, base it on that) tell them you expect more than you were previously paid. do not give them a figure. progression is your primary focus, tell them if youre progressing youre happy. leave it at that.

[timhortons]

LIE THROUGH YOUR TEETH AND GET THAT MONEY

[infiniteglitterfall]

I had an interview yesterday, at the place I’ve been temping, where I busted out the “is there anything about my skills or background that makes you concerned about my fit for this job” question for the first time.

Neither of my supervisors had never gotten it before either. They had to think for a while, and then it turned into them telling me how great I am and what they love about me.

This stuff is real. I would also say: none of it is lying. This is taking experience that you normally downplay and write off, and putting it in accurate words they’ll understand.

It’s hacking the capitalist system. Why ISN’T helping a kid with homework “tutoring”, when the only thing missing is a paycheck?

It’s especially important for anyone who isn’t a cis white man, because many of us are so thoroughly trained to feel like we are not good enough.

Privilege tells people they can fake it, and that they’re good enough just as people and can learn the skills on the job. Abuse and oppression tell people they aren’t good enough as people and that even their high skills are probably below average, and that unless they had the specific job title or were using certain skills officially, nobody will think it counts.

The goal is to at least fake the confidence of a privileged person, to give the employer a chance at seeing the skills that you’ve been trained to undervalue.

[shantay]

[asspunker-deactivated20140913]

LETS GET HIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!grades

[bobbsayshi]

Things They Don't Teach You in School

•Lincoln believed white people were the superior race •Gandhi hated black people •The CIA brought illegal drugs into the country •Ronald Reagan was the devil •White people mutated from the Dravidian Albinos and would be nothing without POC

[pastelpapi]

•9/11 was coordinated by the Bush administration •The laws written 15 years ago where pushed and backed by the kkk •Black people explored the world before white people where civilized and whitewashed history

[tastelessfashion]

•Christopher Columbus ain’t shit.

[nico-incognito]

*The father of modern gynecology experimented and tortured black women during slavery for his findings. *The government was successfully sued for the murder of Martin Luther King, Jr. *The CIA introduced crack/cocaine into inner-cities across the US *The US had been sterilizing many WoC *In the Tuskegee experiments, the US gave STDs and other diseases, including syphilis to unknowing black men. *Japan was already in line to surrender when we bombed Nagasaki and Hiroshima *The US created the Taliban

[bytdwd-deactivated20160724]

Tea sipping shit. I re logged this earlier. But this list got longer

[donidarkowitz]

Jesus…

[sweetmintchocolatewitch]

• Native Americans had to register to become American • Black Panthers once watched over the police to prevent unjust arrests and beatings • Native American children were massively murdered when schools got too full • Black people were in zoos • There were Asian concentration camps during WW2

[odegrate]