Iāve had the pleasure of knowing Jakob for 14 months and dating him for 1 year and 1 month, and at this point feel that Iāve wonāt ever know him enough to put into words
Jakob is young, inexperienced, and just plain broken. He will probably use intellectual wording, such as ālimited emotional capacityā, to mask an inexcusable lack of effort or personal shortcoming that you might encounter while dating him. His narrow-minded understanding of how the world works has shaped him into a confusingly apathetic man. Iām still not sure if itās due to his inexperience or if he is just afraid of something āmoreā than what he knows.
In the end, I believe he loved me in his own sick and twisted way. He wanted to love and thus he tried very hard to, and maybe that is what love meant to him, even if he failed. I didnāt, but perhaps I should have, expected him to invent a narrative to protect himself - but maybe thatās too complex of a probability and he was just really delusional in the end.
At his best, he will make you feel like you are the only person in the world who truly matters. Heāll make you feel like you can fly. Even if youāve spent decades of your life under the force of gravity, you will believe that you can, because of the way he makes you feel.
And, maybe those were the words of someone who really wanted to love someone else even though the other person was completely wrong for them. My words.
At his worst, he will make you feel like you are the most insignificant person in the world.
Which he did. Probably the most successful heās been at something to this date. Probably his greatest legacy.
If he ālovesā you, he will spend time with you. He will ask you about your favorite foods, activities and other random shit just to keep the conversation going. Heāll agree to watch horror movies with you even if he personally doesnāt prefer them. He will also honor you after every league game even if you int like an animal.
A psychopath who made me feel like he loved me
One of his greatest strengths and weaknesses is his expression of self. Heās not a very complicated individual so youāll always have some clue as to how heās feeling. Which will make you uncomfortable if you know heās detaching from you. Personally, it made me very uncomfortable.
And yet I held on for the longest time
When youāre actually dating him, you will probably spend 40% of your interactions with him listening to him talk about how he wants to die. 50% will be spent listening to him call you adorable, how heāll love you forever, and how youāre his favorite person. 10% will be spent helping him with his homework.
In the end, I really was a tool for this pathetic excuse of a human being
Although he refuses to acknowledge that he isnāt a āforward-thinking personā, he is definitely someone who lives in the moment and says things in the moment. Because you care about him and know that his ego is closely tied to his emotions, you wonāt tell him heās wrong.
Turns out that when you tell him that heās wrong, heāll still refuse to believe it. Heāll sayĀ āIf your happiness was so reliant on me that you were going to kill yourself over it, then thatās a different issueā
It will be difficult to hate him because you know that heās young. You know that, regardless of what he says or does, he does have a perfectly good heart underneath it all. You will hope that he finds happiness, whether it be in an egirl or something else entirely. You will hope that he finds himself someday.
I know that heāll never find happiness now, because thereās nothing to find