I’ve had the pleasure of knowing Jakob for 14 months and dating him for 1 year and 1 month, and at this point feel that I’ve won’t ever know him enough to put into words
Jakob is young, inexperienced, and just plain broken. He will probably use intellectual wording, such as “limited emotional capacity”, to mask an inexcusable lack of effort or personal shortcoming that you might encounter while dating him. His narrow-minded understanding of how the world works has shaped him into a confusingly apathetic man. I’m still not sure if it’s due to his inexperience or if he is just afraid of something “more” than what he knows.
In the end, I believe he loved me in his own sick and twisted way. He wanted to love and thus he tried very hard to, and maybe that is what love meant to him, even if he failed. I didn’t, but perhaps I should have, expected him to invent a narrative to protect himself - but maybe that’s too complex of a probability and he was just really delusional in the end.
At his best, he will make you feel like you are the only person in the world who truly matters. He’ll make you feel like you can fly. Even if you’ve spent decades of your life under the force of gravity, you will believe that you can, because of the way he makes you feel.
And, maybe those were the words of someone who really wanted to love someone else even though the other person was completely wrong for them. My words.
At his worst, he will make you feel like you are the most insignificant person in the world.
Which he did. Probably the most successful he’s been at something to this date. Probably his greatest legacy.
If he “loves” you, he will spend time with you. He will ask you about your favorite foods, activities and other random shit just to keep the conversation going. He’ll agree to watch horror movies with you even if he personally doesn’t prefer them. He will also honor you after every league game even if you int like an animal.
A psychopath who made me feel like he loved me
One of his greatest strengths and weaknesses is his expression of self. He’s not a very complicated individual so you’ll always have some clue as to how he’s feeling. Which will make you uncomfortable if you know he’s detaching from you. Personally, it made me very uncomfortable.
And yet I held on for the longest time
When you’re actually dating him, you will probably spend 40% of your interactions with him listening to him talk about how he wants to die. 50% will be spent listening to him call you adorable, how he’ll love you forever, and how you’re his favorite person. 10% will be spent helping him with his homework.
In the end, I really was a tool for this pathetic excuse of a human being
Although he refuses to acknowledge that he isn’t a “forward-thinking person”, he is definitely someone who lives in the moment and says things in the moment. Because you care about him and know that his ego is closely tied to his emotions, you won’t tell him he’s wrong.
Turns out that when you tell him that he’s wrong, he’ll still refuse to believe it. He’ll say “If your happiness was so reliant on me that you were going to kill yourself over it, then that’s a different issue”
It will be difficult to hate him because you know that he’s young. You know that, regardless of what he says or does, he does have a perfectly good heart underneath it all. You will hope that he finds happiness, whether it be in an egirl or something else entirely. You will hope that he finds himself someday.
I know that he’ll never find happiness now, because there’s nothing to find