Ladies make sure you have productive things going on in your life. Something to do and engulf yourself in rather than just scrolling through apps and waiting for the group chat to get lively.
This is very important to your self esteem. It’s not just “feeling” positive things about yourself. Part of it, which hardly gets talked about, if ever, is doing esteemable things. Meaning, having something tangible that you can point to and say, “hey. I did this. I’m proud of this. There is work and attention and effort put into this and I deserve to praise myself and receive praise from others for it”.
A kid who plays soccer and guitar and makes up dance routines with their siblings and has their drawings hanging on the wall will have much higher self esteem than the kid who only watches tv all day. One kid has done something. Learned things. Tried and failed and emerged victorious and it feels good. So when they walk around feeling hot about themselves, it is earned and it makes sense. It’s not a ‘fake it til you make it’ situation. Authentic self esteem, not just saying whatever affirmations in the mirror everyday until you start to believe it, is earned by doing something positive with your life.
Go cultivate a skill. Go practice something. See something to completion. Get a hobby or two. The human condition craves the experience of doing something well and feeling pride. Stop neglecting that part of self esteem building.
