Iâve seen a few posts going around with advice on how to persuade a guy to use a condom if he doesnât want to, or saying things like âif the choice is a condom or no sex, heâll pick the sexâ. Well, Iâm here to tell you all that if a guy is that indifferent towards your physical safety and comfort, you should absolutely not have sex with him at all. Iâm tired of always being asked to cajole and wheedle men into treating women decently. I donât want advice that tells me that if I donât want to have sex with a guy, I should try to bargain him down to a less invasive sex act. I donât want advice that tells me I need to find ways to deal with men who donât care. I want advice that tells me how to say no to these kinds of guys, because no matter how much you beg and negotiate, theyâll still be trash. I should have my boundaries respected.Â

















