not to dig into this too much but, more informally, on age of consent stuff
i remember being 17 and so fucking horny, i was in high school, i remember what i was thinking about and doing, getting ready to go to college, worried about things that seemed so big at the time
i don't really know how to explain to teenagers that even though they know what they're comfortable with and so forth, to me, they're children.
I don't want to have any kinda sexually-shaded interaction with a child or someone i perceive as a child.
it's one of those things that you don't understand for a little while, i think
but that's why i try to make *gentle* posts asking minors to unfollow and not interact, respecting them as people with agency, because i remember being 17 and feeling like i knew what i can handle, and i did know myself pretty well! but if I'd seen someone saying "i don't consent to that, it upsets me," instead of just "it's illegal," i think i would've backed off.
just. anyway, minors if you're somehow reading this, you're not welcome on this blog, please don't follow and dni, but i respect you.













