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Kingdom stressed me out so much that I told my therapist about it and even showed them a performance. They are now a fan, rooting for the boyz. I still can’t believe that our conversations went from my dead dad to curly haired sunwoo 👁👄👁

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YALL 500 nOTES ON THIS ???!?! huh you all sure love laughing at my pain 😞🙄

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Obsession & Kpop Idols

For those that are obsessing over kpop idols as in constantly checking for their news, anxiously streaming b/c if you don’t you’ll feel like a failure, having to stay up early just to catch your idol’s performance, becoming stalkers of your fav idols, you need to let go of your obsession towards them.

At the end of the day, kpop idols and other celebrities do not care about you much. They may be happy that you are their fan, but do they really care or know if you gave up studying and failed your exams just so you streamed X times for them? No. Do they care that you had to starve yourself to save money just to see their concert/buy their albums? No.

Do they get annoyed if you start stalking them or hunting for them? Yes.

To kpop idols and other celebrities, their fans are like their clients, not their friends and definitely not their lovers. Your idols/celebs will never really care for you in a deep way. It’s just like how there’s a line between a client and you in a job setting.

It is fine to enjoy kpop or to like a kpop idol for their talent/face/whatever. It is fine to attend a concert or buy an album, or be curious about them. It’s fine to find mental comfort from your idols, but don’t use them as your mode of escape from reality. It becomes unhealthy when kpop is like an addiction, much like a drug/alcohol/gambling addiction. When kpop gets to you where you feel like you can’t live without it, then you have an unhealthy situation.

Think about the time that you spend on your idols. That time could be spent elsewhere on yourself or with your family/friends or for society. I’m not saying that people should ban kpop all together and that they shouldn’t watch kpop idols’ lives or shows etc. If you’re spending the majority of your time or nearly all your time (even sacrificing your sleep or going into heavy debt) for kpop, then that’s a problem. If you really want to die or get very depressed that your kpop idol is dating someone or is marrying someone, then that is also a problem. If you truly respected, admired or liked your kpop idol, then you would be fine with that idol marrying and hope that they will be happy in that marriage.

Most of the time, obsessive fans, from my readings, want to escape their own situations and fate and so they use kpop as their means of escape. Many also believe they will marry or date their kpop idols. These people tend to have challenges in their love lives or personal lives, so they create an idealized lover from their beloved kpop idols.

Kingdom stressed me out so much that I told my therapist about it and even showed them a performance. They are now a fan, rooting for the boyz. I still can’t believe that our conversations went from my dead dad to curly haired sunwoo 👁👄👁