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to contact me - I won't be using IMs anymore, please read
because I'll be deleting Tumblr for my mental health, I've made a kik so that anyone who needs support can come to me, as I'll no longer be able to respond to IMs
my kik is tzivi.yl and i made it Specifically to talk to anyone on here who needs it, so don't feel bad or intruding if you send a message!
take care
reminder that I'm no longer answering asks
if you need me to answer something, please send an IM!
I’m sorry, but I can’t answer any more asks, I’m very anxious and I don’t know if I’ll have the energy. If you weren’t answered and really need an answer, feel free to IM me - that’s a lot easier on me, and you can do so with an empty sideblog if that’s more comfortable for you.
Stay safe.
Is it normal to question whether your attracted to kids while affirming yourself no? I've been getting that often , i only ever view kids as cute and feel awful when getting the intrusive thoughts but i need to be sure
Trying to be sure is a pitfall in OCD, because OCD will never let you be sure. Of course, when someone has POCD they’re going to question whether or not they’re attracted to kids, but that doesn’t mean they are - just remember to affirm yourself that you’re not, even if it doesn’t feel certain.
I remembered going to the arcade while affirming myself and a thought that it was unfortunate that i didn't sexually harm any kids over came me , i remembered that it's only if i feel real regret but than i felt regret and my eyes teared up , this is all pOCD now isn't it?
This absolutely sounds like POCD. You’re terrified of the thought, you don’t want to act on it. It’s just an intrusive thought. Thoughts can sometimes trick you into false feelings, as well - if you honestly wanted to do this, you wouldn't be so scared.
update
I'm making the decision, for my own mental health, to stop using Tumblr soon. I will try to answer all remaining asks within the next few days, but after I clear my inbox I won't be, anymore.
I will still have the app, so if you IM me I will respond, even after ive let the blog go dead, so please don't feel like I'm leaving all of you. be safe, and you'll never be a bother if you IM me
I'm a cashier at a grocery store and one day I was trying to get to my register and I wanted to slip past someone and their cart, thinking I had enough room to get by but I was wrong because the other person moved at the same time I did, making me squeeze past their rear. I turn around to say sorry because I felt embarrassed and I see that the other person was some teenage kid and now I feel really scared. Does this make me a child molester or something? How can I tell when a fear is a POCD c
That absolutely does Not make you a child molester. It was a complete accident, and does not reflect on you at all. You were just stuck in a place and tried to get out of it.
intrusive thoughts are created because they’re what you fear the most. they’re not what you’re going to do. they’re what you hate most of all.
they’re not an indication of how evil you are. the only thing they indicate is what you’re most against.
3 types of self soothing thoughts
Validation: it’s ok that I hurt and want to feel better
Reassurance: I can handle this pain even though it hurts
Perspective taking: I’ve had bad days like this before and I’ve made it through them. I can remember my better days and know I’m not always hurting this much
I've said it before but I have some new followers so: if something is urgent, please bring it to my IMs instead of my ask box - it's a lot easier for me to respond to IMs, and takes longer to respond to asks for some weird mental reason I'm not sure of
Here’s a thought I had about how therapy & treatment works (vs how many people imagine it works). This is based on my experience with depression and chronic illness, but I hope it applies more broadly as well.
Imagine you have to take a road trip on a deserted road alone. Halfway through the trip your engine starts to splutter and the car breaks down. What do you do?
A lot of people imagine that therapy and treatment is like calling a mechanic to come and fix your car for you. You make the call, and then you just have to wait around until the mechanic has fixed the problem, and your car is good as new! Unfortunately, it doesn’t work like that. There is no on-call mechanic. No-one is able to fix this car except for you.
Instead, it’s like you pull a toolbox out of the trunk, pop open the hood, and dial up the mechanic on the phone. You have to try and describe the problems as clearly as possible, and follow the advice they give you as well as you can.
Sometimes you won’t understand the advice, and you’ll need them to explain it again or suggest something else. Sometimes you’ll do what they say and the car still won’t run, and they won’t be able to explain why, only give you something new to try. Sometimes you’ll think you fixed the problem and start driving, and the car will break again two minutes down the road. No matter what happens, it’s going to be hard and messy and frustrating work.
But at the end of it, not only will your car be running again, but you’ll know how to fix it now. Which isn’t to say that you’ll never need another mechanic again, but next time you get stuck, it’ll be that little bit easier to handle.
So keep at it everyone, and good luck on your journeys!
i know you meant to help but your answer to that anon thats turning 18 now makes me really scared of turning 18 myself because now i expect it to get worse and i feel like i cant do anything to help it
There's no easy answer, unfortunately. It might not get worse! But it makes sense that it would, and that's something to be prepared for.
What will help is, in the time leading up to it, working on remembering and impressing upon yourself that what your pocd tells you is not true. It's just thoughts borne out of fear, and has no bearing on who you really are, what you believe, or who you're actually attracted to.
If today felt impossible, if it took everything you have just to get through. Rest easy with the knowledge that you never have to do today again. It’s over. You did it <3
I hope any of you who are fasting tonight and tomorrow for Yom Kippur have an easy one 💙
What i mean is i get thoughts that tell me the pocd thoughts will end if i just act on them , these thoughts are very scary and i use to get them a lot more when the thought that they were intrusive didn't cross my mind
oh okay, I understand nowthese thoughts scare you, they're intrusive. I wouldn't worry about them (though of course I know that's way easier said than done). there is a huge distance between having a thought and acting on it, especially when the thought scares you so much
your intrusive thoughts are not your fault. they are not who you are. they do not define the kind of person you are. no matter how dark or violent or negative your intrusive thoughts are, they will never say more about you than your actual actions and how you actually treat people do.
