I love my apron, but I ain't your mama.

Welcome to my little corner of the internet. Lots of Roger Federer, lots of Miranda Lambert, lots of TV shows and Turkish series, and anything else I happen to be obsessed with at the moment. Currently watching: #HerYerdeSen #Kuzgun #ThisIsUs

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[titaniae-deactivated20220510]

“I know you don’t hold me in much esteem…”

[hudsonmildred]

on reflection I realized, I would rather be here (with you)

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17

[your-hands-are-cold]

He has genuinely never looked better than he did in this episode. Goddamn.

[april-kepner]

I’m going to be an eleven for you, baby.

[thisisusedits]

You know, it’s like I always say. People don’t slow dance nearly as much as they should.

[sulietsexual]

it is very often nothing but our own vanity that deceives us

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[your-hands-are-cold]

This Is Us:

Jack and Rebecca scenes from every episode - Season 1 Episode 2: The Big Three

You know, when I was a little boy, I didn't know what I wanted to be when I grew up. Adults always ask little kids that, you know? I never had a good answer. Not until not until I was 28. Till the day that I met you. That's when I knew exactly what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wanted to be the man that made you happy.

From here on out, I'm gonna be an eleven for you, baby. No screw that. I'm gonna be a twelve for you, from here out. I'll be an eleven for the kids, but you get a twelve.

[nessa007]

[sweetener]

“romantic epiphanies are dope.”

[mcavoyjr]

That moment when Rebecca realized that Jack is The One.

[dandiliiontea-deactivated202105]

It’s INSANE to me how controversial romance novels are. Romance novels. Like, being openly a fan of them immediately opens you up to people constantly coming at you like “but don’t you think it’s ~limiting- and ~juvenile~ to have a genre of books with happy endings for women?”

Like.

No?

Why is it such a big deal to want to read stories where women have sex and then don’t die at the end? Jesus Christ.

Why is the concept of female characters being happy seen as less creative than female characters suffering? (Trust me, creating a world where women win in the end takes a lot more creativity and artistic vision lmfao)

Anyway, literary bros will pry my romance novels with their happy endings from my cold dead fingers.

[jennyredford]

Or die in the very beginning of the book. But no one calls out James Patterson for writing another formulaic thriller in which a woman is horrifically killed after getting laid and then some man solves her murder. Every. Damn. Time.

But hey, those romance novels where women get happy endings are so limiting, eh?

[dandiliiontea-deactivated202105]

Real talk: realizing how common it is for female characters to be punished for on-the-page sex with death was a big part of my embracing the romance genre. Once I noticed it I couldn’t unnotice it. It’s everywhere. A woman having sex in literature or non-romance genre fiction is the literary equivalent of a red shirt on Star Trek.

[roo-bastmoon]

It’s not just the sex thing, though that’s a key element. It’s that, in romance novels, the heroine gets to be cared for the way she normally would care for everyone else. It’s wish fulfillment in that her romantic partner will do emotional labor, spend a great deal of time thinking about her, or sacrifice his desires or fortune or reputation to be with her, or spend days nursing her back to health, or risking his life to save hers. In romance novels, you’ll find men taking care of children, talking about their feelings, putting effort into their appearance—even if they are adorably bad at it. Watch how many romance novel protagonists fall in love with a man who happens to be rich or handsome, but she didn’t give in until his behavior changed and he starts mentoring her, or providing for her, or being gentle toward her, nourishing her, listening to her, appreciating her… I suspect romance novels are looked down upon not for being juvenile formulaic “beach reads” but because they paint a fantasy world that leaves men feeling uncomfortable or even emasculated. But whether you’re a Midwest housewife or a big city CEO, women who read romance novels just want to read about men loving women the way women are expected love everyone else—with a nurturing and protective form of unswerving loyalty. Great sex they don’t have to die for is also a huge bonus, but the *romance* part of the novel is genuinely more about the woman being appreciated (for her beauty or spunk or intelligence at first, and then for all of her by the end).

[codenamecesare]

“women who read romance novels just want to read about men loving women the way women are expected to love everyone else—with a nurturing and protective form of unswerving loyalty.”

[obsessionisaperfume]

THANK YOU.

[lyricwritesprose]

According to the website smartbitchestrashybooks, which analyzes romance novels to a great degree, one common element of the average romance novel is what they call the grovel.  That is, there’s a turning point near the climax of the book where the leading man says, in effect, “I hurt you.  I had my reasons, but they don’t make it right.  I am devastated that I hurt you, and I will do whatever it takes to make it okay again.  Leaving you is completely on the table even though I find the prospect horrific.”

And that’s a very important fantasy.  To have your feelings, your pain, be made so absolutely central to the narrative, to someone else’s world.  You could call it a power fantasy, but I don’t think that’s exactly right.  It’s a significance fantasy.  A romance story is a story in which the woman is the most significant damn thing in the book.

And when you think of it like that, you realize why some people are really, really threatened by it.

[spaci1701]

I dislike most romance novels, simply because I’m not a fan of formulaic fiction, no matter the genre. If I want the comfort of a book I can predict the plot of that easily I’ll just reread one of my faves that I know well.

BUT! Romance novels, in all their glory and shame are incredibly important for ask reasons mentioned above. If someone truly has a problem with them the answer is quite simple - start making healthy, adult relationships that value the female characters as much as the males a common, standard thing in all genres. Then they won’t have to be segregated off as their own genre and can simply be.

[skypirateking]

Why is it women don’t actually give men who are like the romance novel characters the time of day?

Please explain.

[dandiliiontea-deactivated202105]

Sure honey I’ll explain.

The problem you’re actually experiencing is that a lot of bland, sexist men walk around mistakingly thinking they are romance novel hero material and when women correctly clock them as entitled assholes and steer clear they end up posting stupid shit on tumblr.