The rose system

🌹Jaime, host, he/they 🌹Jasey, protector, she/her 🌹Pascal, avenger, he/him 🌹Pluto, sex alter, he/him 🌹 Zane, protector, he/him 🌹 Ollie, age slider, he/him 🌹 Lucas, caregiver, he/him 🌹 Kanga, avenger, she/her 🌹 Tessa, avenger, she/they 🌹 Kaylin, little, she/her 🌹 Sawyer, little, he/him 🌹 Sophie, protector, she/her 🌹Witchcraft blog: @yourlocalwitchpack 🌹🌹No non-traumagenic systems, pro-ED blogs, porn blogs, dd/lg blogs (even SFW), transmeds or TERFS 🌹🌹 🌹🌹Age regression blogs and adults may interact 🌹🌹

[myautisticjournal]

Why are Fall Out Boy songs so stimmy

[autistips]

Autistip #25 - Dental Hygeine

1. Drink and/or rinse with water after eating or drinking sugary foods.

2. Rub a clean, wet washcloth along your teeth and gums to loosen plaque (chewing a washcloth may also be a useful and pleasant sensory experience).

3. Chewing sugar-free gum stimulates saliva production, further loosening plaque and bacteria.

4. Use a small soft-bristled or children’s toothbrush to help lessen gagging from larger brushes and the soft bristles will help prevent damage to enamel and gums if you are unsure how much pressure you are using while brushing.

5. Toothpaste and mouthwash designed for children will have less intense flavors. 

6.  Don’t forgo all dental hygiene just because you can’t do everything. Trouble brushing with toothpaste? Brush with water! Trouble flossing daily? Floss weekly. Make your dental hygiene routine work for your needs and limitations and try not to feel bad about what you can’t do.

[lyokowarriors-deactivated202008]

tag yourselves: autistics

primary - very old fashioned, religion is their special interest, only found out they were autistic after another family member got an Official Diagnosis, acknowledges social rules but is bad at following them, bad with nt kids good with nd kids, you cant get them to change their mind, very strict abt following rules

secondary - “wait youre autsitic?”, got an Official Diagnosis in middle school, had school burn out because they werent given proper accommodations, used to be very prim and proper but is now ur ‘yolo memes’ type of person, the mom friend of the group, touch me without permission and i will chop off both of your hands, protective and defensive of friends, has a stim blog

pastels - cries at any given negative stimuli, doesnt like talking with authority figures because theyre scary, cant wear rough clothing, biggest autistic trait is anxiety, very good with animals, gets adopted into friend groups, tries to be a ball of sunshine, a bit more childish, *choking back tears* you wanna fight, make enemies with their friend you make enemies with them

rainbow - 500 special interests, no volume control either theyre too quiet or too loud, is prescribed one medication for 5 different reasons, people think they are dating all of their friends when in reality they just dont give a fuck abt social norms They Want To Love Their Friends, hoards, probably forgot to shower, everything must be taken in one trip, a living pack mule that carries their bags their friends bags and the stranger they just met’s bags

neutrals - desperately trying to hide the fact theyre autistic in public, hyperaware of anything and everything, can be very snappy if overstimulated, depression, has one stim toy thats it, bags under the eyes and smells like coffee, always carrying around five different notebooks, echolalia, very good at mimicking sounds, very adverse to getting into a romantic relationship, probably will become a ceo when they grow up

darks - headphones, always looks like theyre in a bad mood but theyre bad at facial expressions, hoodies because theyre sensory good, stumbles over words, tries their best but executive dysfunction is a bitch, has 5 lbs of sand because they like sand, touch is their favorite sense, shows their love through actions, “do you wanna kiss?” “lol what?” “a kiss *pulls out a bag of chocolate kisses*?”, responsible and writes things down instead of trying to remember it

[queerex]

@battleblaze

I decided to choose a different background for these, hope you don’t mind!

But I like the way you’re thinking with this.

[myautisticjournal]

Oh my goddddddddddd this is amazing

[multiplicitymemes]

hey! we're a new system and not familiar with many terms yet. do you mind explaining what "blurring" is or directing me to someone who can?

3 terms that are v similar:Co-fronting: 2+ people fronting at the same time. Comparable to one person having the steering wheel, and one person having the brake, ect. Co-conscious: 1 person fronting, and 1+ person in the backseat. They have no control, but they can watch everything go by, and comment if they so wish. Blurring/blurry: A state of confusion where no one really knows who’s fronting, and the whole system feels disorientated. Aka, “Who’s driving the car, it’s moving, but I don’t know who’s driving it!”

Hope that helps :)

[dateacutiesuggestion]

Date a cutie who calls you both dude and babe

[yourlocalsystem]

@jace-wiseman

[positivepatton]

no offense but your struggle is valid no matter how many people have it worse than you

[nonbinary-nightmare]

are you a tickle fight mlm or playful headlock mlm? are you a wear-his-fragrance mlm or a wear-his-tshirt mlm? are you a pick-him-up-and-spin-him-around mlm or a kiss-him-all-over-his-giggly-face mlm? are you a hug-from-behind mlm or a sneak-kiss-on-the-cheek mlm? are you a movies-and-cuddle mlm or a walk-through-a-park-and-hold-hands mlm?

[yourlocalsystem]

@jace-wiseman

[parskis]

i swear to god, men raising their voice is the most terrifying thing in the whole world. they dont understand, like its an immediate panic response, game over

[cl4yton-deactivated20180207]

I actually had no idea women found this so scary

[periwinklepromise]

my downstairs neighbors fight on a regular basis, and every time he starts yelling i’m a little afraid he’s going to kill her. i have no reason to think this except that he is a man and he is angry

[thewonderfulthingaboutfish]

My math teacher has a loud voice and a temper and he scares the living shit out of me almost everyday. He’s made me and other kids cry more than once and he and his teacher buddies make a joke out of terrifying students.

[diamondsamura1-deactivated20220]

this was women in general? i knew my gf didn’t like it but I was unaware if this affected most women

[survivor-surviving]

Yes, it does

[pandora-ness]

As a woman, I had no idea it effected other women like this. I was too afraid to even talk about it. I thought I was weak. Thanks for bringing attention to this.

[kaldraws8280]

My dad thinks it’s funny that I used to cry when he raised his voice. I freak out whenever some one does. Once my director did, and I started crying I couldn’t stop. I’m glad to see I’m not alone…

[suicunesrider]

This is so important– seeing how common this is– and I also want you all to know that this is not normal. It isn’t something instinctively ingrained into women, to be afraid of men. There is no natural state of men being a threat that women constantly have to be afraid of. This is cultural. So many women and girls here have a mutual understanding of this feeling, and I think it really shows an unsettling truth about our society, particularly about how men are raised to act and how so many women have this defensive reaction gradually develop. It’s so important that these people have their voices heard, because it teaches us about problems that we just can’t deny the existence of any longer.

[shidoninoure]

I’m glad I’m not the only one

[anexperimentallife]

My fellow men, pay attention. I didn’t realize how scary this could be until one of my exes explained it to me, and it’s heartbreaking.

Also, when we move too much during an argument, or lean forward, it’s scary, and I never knew. I was even a little insulted at first, because surely she didn’t think I would hurt her. But see, that doesn’t matter. It wasn’t a sign that she mistrusted me specifically; it’s a conditioned response. (Although if you keep doing it once you realize it scares her, she SHOULDN’T trust you.)

Not every woman has been physically harmed by a man she trusted, but every woman KNOWS a woman who has.

I used to be horrible about this, because I didn’t realize how intimidating it was. I didn’t understand why the woman I was with clammed up or tried to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear, and I only got angrier, and acted even more like an asshole. It was wrong. It was abusive. It didn’t matter if I INTENDED it that way; it was still emotionally abusive. And it was inexcusable.

I get that when passions are high, and when you’re frustrated, it’s a natural tendency to let your voice get louder, to shout and gesture and lean forward. But you can train yourself to do better. You can train yourself to keep more of an even tone, to refrain from large and fast gestures, to not lean into her personal space. I did. I’m not perfect at it yet, but goddamn it, I WILL be.

Don’t tell me it’s too hard, that you just can’t do it, or that you “shouldn’t have to.” I’m 53 years old and just now getting the hang of it, and if this old dog can learn something new, so can you.

[elfwreck]

Note to guys: It really, REALLY doesn’t matter if you’re thinking, “but I would never…”

History is littered with the bodies of women who believed a man “would never.” This includes women killed by men who honestly, deeply, truly believed they “would never”… right up until she said that one thing or moved in just that way and he just got so mad, just that once, and pushed her or punched her or slashed her or shot her… just once, y’know, to shut her up, or because she was flinching and didn’t she know that HE’S NOT LIKE THAT and I’LL TEACH HER TO BE AFRAID OF ME…

We are trained, from infancy, that Men With Loud Voices are a source of pain from which we cannot escape, and attempts to escape may result in more pain. And as soon as we’re old enough to comprehend a world broader than our immediate circle, a world that extends into the past and will run into the future, we realize that there is no way, no way at all, to tell which men “would never” and which men “would never… except if.”

We live or die on that “if.” And any man who doesn’t like facing that hyper-vigilance can work on fixing OTHER MEN, not women’s fear.

The reaction shouldn’t be “not all men are like that;” it should be “no woman should have to live in fear.”

It’s telling that so many people will hear a story of long-term abuse and say, “why did she stay with him?” and not “why did he treat her like that?”

[plaggnoir]

This made me cry.

[galactic-gangstar-gibbon-deacti]

Don’t skip over this.

[rainboflg]

“EVERY WOMAN KNOWS AT LEAST ONE WOMAN WHO HAS BEEN PHYSICALLY HARMED BY A MAN”

Think long and hard on this, men…

[darkbookworm13-deactivated20240]

always reblog.

[crackedporcelaindoll]

you took away my childhood before i even learned to ride a bike

[yourlocalsystem]

Hey, I’m Pascal. I’m 20. I’m one of the avengers/protectors, whatever you want to call it. I'm twins with Pluto. How are you all?

[requiem-4-a-drink-deactivated20]

hope your pets stay healthy in 2017

[rotg-fan-page]

I almost didn’t blog this and felt guilty

[ckascade-deactivated20170413]

Not risking it

[unorthodox-views]

hope ya pets even healthier in 2018

[hipstered]

date the person who says, “have fun, be safe, and call if you need anything” not the person who gets mad at you for going out w/o them

[fasfasfsaaaaaaaa]

hi… ever heard of… bpd…?

[erniebilko]

hi… ever heard of… not excusing your own abusive behaviors on account of mental illness…? 

[thehobbutts]

these are colorblind glasses. im about to take a walk around the neighborhood and experience colors like normal people. wish me luck, updates to come.

[thehobbutts]

the trees. holy shit the trees. theyre different colors. like, a million different colors

[thehobbutts]

grass….. it looks so soft… so green…

[thehobbutts]

after laying in the grass for about an hour staring at the autumn leaves and laughing at how blue the sky is, i have some insight to share:

why the fuck do you people buy red cars like i had no idea how bright and obnoxious they looked

there are BERRIES on the trees. like bright red. id never noticed them because they blended in. a new problem has arisen now: how the fuck do you people keep yourselves from trying to eat them they’re so tempting looking

the fallen leaves are so beautiful and colorful and you all are heathens for stepping on them just to hear the crunchy sound they make

[thehobbutts]

rainbows. let me tell you about rainbows. i see rainbows as various shades of brown and yellow, plus some blue. vaguely purple.

a few days ago, i saw a rainbow in these glasses. it had just finished raining and then the sun came out, and my friend and i scrambled out the door.

i saw green. red. orange. real, actual violet.

i cried. i cried so hard. i saw every color - something i never thought would happen in my life. imagine living your life without knowing something so beautiful exists, and all of a sudden it appears before your eyes. theres no way to prepare for it. the rainbow only lasted for five minutes before it disappeared, but every with second i stood there i became more amazed at how beautiful this world actually is, i just had no idea.

[tinysaurus-rex-deactivated20240]

This is so pure

[bidootdoot-deactivated20190601]

lovely

[kaleighfratkins]

Trauma often messes with one’s ability to say “no”. 

You either consciously or subconsciously think, “I don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings” or “If I say no, then they’ll hurt me” or “It won’t really be that bad” or “I can handle this” or “I need to do this to prove myself” or “I deserve this”, or you forget that “no” is even an option.

It’s still not your fault if you didn’t say “no”, even if you think maybe you could have. It’s still not your fault. You didn’t deserve what happened to you and you didn’t bring it upon yourself. It was never your fault.

[transboycomics]

Trans Boy Perk #11: When you meet a fellow trans masc person out in the wild

ah that immediate sense of kinship. what a wonderful thing

i just love the same hat meme

[yourlocalsystem]

@jace-wiseman @mossytreesandstormyseas

[supertransboys-blog]

5 tips in handling anger

Once you start transitioning, your aggression levels will spike. In this post, I will be listing a couple of things you can do in order to alleviate a bit of this stress. This is a healthy way of releasing all that negative energy.

Weight training

start off light. DO NOT over-do it for the simple reason that you can get hurt.

Any form of cardio

Running, swimming, biking, etc.

Any form of martial arts

judo , wrestling, MMA, etc.

Cold showers

Taking a cold shower helps calm that anger and strengthen your nervous system in the process.

Breathing

I know that this suggestion can be annoying but it helps. Falling into a healthy practice of controlled breathing has helped me a lot and can really help you as well.

I hope this post has been helpful!! till next time. Stay royal my kings.