Source: smoked a fuck ton of DMT, read a bunch of Jung

Not native to tumblr, but not from twitter either, a secret, more sinsiter third thing.

[youryesman]

Yo!

You can call me YesMan (He/Him) Art (when there is any) on @youryesmandraws Dragon Age/BG3 side blog @youryesmanapproves Talk to me about: Cyberpunk 2020, 2077 or RED, Disco Elysium, Dragon Age, Baldur's Gate, Fallout, Monster Manga, Attack on Titan, The Boys, BCS or BB, whatever the hell Jung was up to

Dragon Age was my worldbuilding drug of choice but events occurred. Now Martinaise and Night City are my best friend. Have almost breached 750 hrs on Baldur's Gate 3. It's okay I guess.

[elancholia]

I think the concept of introversion may have harmed a lot of people, tbh

[elancholia]

It makes it easy to make an identity of being scared. And it's easy to hear a loosely medicalized idea like "I am just fundamentally de-energized by social interaction, unlike other people, who aren't", and then dig in. And really you're just scared.

[astropithecus]

A key differentiator: Introverts aren't naturally awkward or uncomfortable in social situations.

Things like "I'm nervous introducing myself to strangers" / "I feel intimidated around groups of people" / "I hate small talk" / "I miss a lot of social cues" aren't signs of an introvert, they're signs of social anxiety. Social anxiety has lots of causes - neurodivergence and behavioral disorders among them. But it's not caused by "being an introvert."

Even if there's truth to the charge/drain extrovert/introvert dichotomy, all humans need both regular social interaction as well as alone time. An introvert at a social function will feel happy and have fun, the same way an extrovert can enjoy reading a book or taking a walk alone.

Signed,

- An extrovert with a clinically diagnosed social anxiety disorder; I thought I was "an introvert" until I was almost 30

[snipertrifle]

I think there’s also a lot of self fulfilling prophecy in the “draining.” Doing new things in new situations can be very stressful and draining. But the more you do it, the less draining it gets. The less you do it, the more new social situations freak you out. It’s a muscle you build. Just like the first day at the gym leaves you a wreck, but not the 100th.

Show up to the same book club 20 times and those people might become the ones who “don’t count” as draining you. Show up to 20 different kinds of events and you get the hang of making introductions and small talk. The more times things don’t go badly the more resilience you have to new things.

Not saying introversion is bad or needs to be “fixed.” God knows the world needs them. Just don’t confuse a preference for a quiet night in, for a fear of telling the server you asked for no pickles.

[lingonberry24]

Something I have to mention that I'm trying to drill into my mother:

If you are in an upper-middle class/conservative/christian/some other kind of community full of assholes where you are forced - neurodivergent or not - to suck up your entire personality up your asshole and pretend to be perfect all the time or face social expulsion, ALL INTERACTION WILL BE DRAINING.

FIND BETTER PEOPLE.

Find community online! Find a place nearby that doesn't suck maybe.

My mother was brought up in a rural christian conservative racist community, and she may well die without ever truly understanding that you're supposed to be able to share your opinions with others and not get publicly shamed and eviscerated for any perceived misstep.

If you grew up like this, unlearn it! Social interaction is not supposed to make you feel like killing yourself.

[whatbigotspost]

Some really good shit here.

I’ve never identified with being an introvert but I was team “I’m an extrovert with social anxiety!!” for years and years and that was ACTUALLY called “the factory standard setting for an AuDHD brain” 😅

[margindoodles2407]

@/dailymanners's (from whom I reblogged this) tags are worth preserving:

[papayajuan2019]

one day, i hope to be moved from your downloads folder into somewhere more deliberate

[hollow-head]

"who do you self insert as when you read?"

This is me when I read:

[kosmogrl]

turns out you can run away from everything, but you can’t run from yourself

[maidthings]

me when I break core functionality in order to pander to the single most annoying type of user on this site

[maidthings]

it really is hard to think of a type of person lower than "user who wants 'credit' for their reblog additions"

[youryesman]

Textpost collections have got to stop putting the funniest one at the bottom.

[cryskir]

scattered samurai

[youryesman]

Fallout might need a sideblog too atp. This website's art game is just too good.

[bastardraccooon]

Jackie Taylor did the thing that every teenager wants to do at least once — die after a petty argument so that everyone will feel fucking guilty for the rest of their lives

[monidoll]

problematic plot relevance gap

[krvss1117]

[eyebrow-incident]

[rucktwins]

jolly vulpes inculta: dont worry. i wont have you put on the naughty list like the rest of these coal-getters. its useful that you happened by. i want you to witness the festivity of the north pole. to memorize every snowflake. and then, when you move on? i want you to show everyone you meet the gifts that santa's elves made here, especially any naughty-listers you run across.

[rowanisawriter]

[by-ilmater]

if people were to take communion based on you, what would your body and blood be? mine would be bourbon and a spicy sweet chili dorito

[bonivers]

pushing back against oldest child stereotypes by making unwise choices and not being dependable