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You go home and invent a story about me, and now you can't separate me from the person you've imagined me to be. You call that, I suppose, being in love; as a matter of fact it's being in delusion.

Virginia Woolf, Night and Day

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Help for when a Relationship Ends

1. Try not to take it personally. Some relationships were never meant to be, and some simply don’t work out in the end. It isn’t a reflection or you (or even them).

2. Act as if you’re happy, and are coping, with your life. Often, “fake it till you make” can make a difference. It can give you needed strength so you can make it through the day.

3. Choose to be thankful for the happy memories; and choose to forgive for the heartache and the pain. (Although this may be difficult and likely will take time.)

4. See this as a stepping stone. The future lies ahead. You may still meet someone special who will bring you happiness!

5. Let go of the old memories, the unmet expectations, the bitter disappointments and frustrated hopes and dreams. Only then will you be ready to live and love again.

6. Be patient, understanding and kind to yourself. It takes time to recover from a major loss in life.

7. Keep your eyes on the future, and what still lies ahead. You have good reason to hope that you will find true love again.

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7 Tips for Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy

1. Remind yourself that you are not who other people think or say you are.

2. Remind yourself that everybody makes mistakes at times, has areas of weakness, and things they want to change.

3. Remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were - so celebrate how far you’ve come.

4. Also, the ending isn’t written and the future isn’t fixed. You’re free to change your image, and an old identity.

5. Identify the lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re more accurate and true. Also, don’t reinforce those lies by acting like you think they’re true.

6. Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings … as that will keep you trapped.

7. Hang out with those who see, and who appreciate, your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.