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unbotheredmuse

pettydavis

this is a very fifth eye open galaxy brain mood

biff-donderglutes

60 weeks of DBT group in one tweet

hattersgirlalice

Mutuals if you are leaving Tumblr (ever for any reason) please let me know where else I might find you so we can remain in contact.

zoejoysoy

yall can always find me at zoesomething on instagram :)

catchymemes

How to Draw With your Fucking Eyes and Not Your Fucking Brain

oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201

Hey, unpopular opinion, apparently. But people don’t just “have pain for no reason” doctors say this all the time (especially to women and chronically ill people) and the truth is, Thats literally not possible. Even if your pains are psychosomatic (a word I hesitate to even use because of the way its used so often) there is a reason you are having those pains whether its mental illness, abuse, etc. If your doctor consistently tells you that “well some people just have pain for no reason” get a new doctor. That’s a doctor who is not going to give a shit what your actual symptoms or experiences are.

kamorth

I just wanna add to clarify the psychosomatic thing.

That word DOES NOT MEAN you’re making it up. It doesn’t mean you’re imagining the symptom. What it means is that the symptom ISN’T DIRECTLY CAUSED BY ANY OF THE THINGS THAT WOULD NORMALLY CAUSE IT.

I fought to get a PCOS diagnosis for 2 and a half years. For the ENTIRE time I was fighting, I was dealing with 3 cysts that were not going away by themselves and eventually required surgery to remove. At one point close to the end of the battle, I suddenly went blind. I was visiting my parents and was standing on the veranda looking out over the tree we had planted in memory of my dog and suddenly I got one of the shooting pains that I was quite frankly used to at that point and my vision started to go dark. It was like the sun was setting while being completely hidden behind storm clouds but it was 2pm in the middle of Summer on a clear day. Within about 30 seconds I couldn’t see ANYTHING. I was 27 years old and I was screaming for my mother.

My mum raced me to her doctor (he was a 15 minute drive away as opposed to 45 minutes to the nearest hospital) and he quickly worked out that there was nothing wrong with my eyes and what had happened was totally unrelated to them. Then he said it was psychosomatic and I freaked out, yelling that I was NOT making this up and I definitely wasn’t imagining it. Very quickly he calmed me down and said he believed me and I had misunderstood. He explained that whatever was going on with my abdominal pains (he suggested PCOS which I hadn’t even heard of at that point) had been ignored for so long that my body was starting to do things other than the normal pain response to try to draw my attention to the problem. My sight going was my body basically jumping around in front of me going “HEY ARE YOU EVEN LISTENING TO ME HELLLOOOOOOO??????”

He gave me some prescription strength painkillers and my sight started to come back as soon as they started to kick in. About 45 minutes after it started I could see well enough to walk around without help and within a day and a half I was back to normal. On top of that I finally had a scan booked to figure out what the hell was causing all the pain.

Psychosomatic symptoms are NOT imagined or fabricated or happening for “no reason”. Experiencing them DOES NOT make you a liar. It makes you someone who has been battling with something serious for so long that your own body has started to get impatient with you.

oscarwildeboytoy-deactivated201

I completely agree. Thank you for sharing this.

antique-scarecrow

Psychosomatic symptoms are literally your body flipping random alarm switches just to get any alarm blaring because you’ve been ignoring the regular ones

#reblogging because my hip pain is still undiagnosed 4+ months

colinforreal-deactivated2019031

Lol, mine is apparently, Maximum Risk (1996) “Welcome to the other side of safe.”

calystarose

https://playback.fm/birthday-movie - #1 movie on your bday

krenee1drful

Silence of the Lambs

heroineimages

Disturbingly, mine was Porky’s…

yamelcakes

“You Think You Know About Dreams…You Know Nothing!”

… Freddy’s Dead: The Final Nightmare

remixteaching

You’ll believe a man can fly.

pig-whale

Fatal Attraction: On the other side of drinks, dinner and a one night stand, lies a terrifying love story.🤷🏻‍♀️

hisnamewasbeanni

Oh my god, I’ve never heard of this movie in my life, but apparently it’s the origin of the “bubblegum” line. And it looks amazingly awful. I must watch it.

zoejoysoy

Mine: “WHO YOU GONNA CALL?”

#beanni they live is an amazing movie!!

galacticpasta

Tag urself: sensory issues edition

christina-in-arkansas

Librarian, too bright, and stank 🤷🏻‍♀️

zoejoysoy

100% Pat Pat. The Bad Texture is too real

loloftheday

Our cat had all four roommates feeding him each day because he acted like he was starving and we didn’t know that the other roommate already fed him. This was our solution, hopefully he will slim down a bit.

Adventures in moving to Boulder part 1

I have 1.5 months until I get to Boulder so I’ve joined a bunch of local fb groups/ pages and signed up for a ton of newsletters, tryna get my feelers out about my new home. It’s really gonna take me a while to get used to some of the types of people who live there....compared to what I’m used to being surrounded by (ahem....such as military, people who are not American, and New Yorkers).

Some examples from fb groups, today alone:

Exhibit A: “Question... I bought marrow bones from Whole Foods today to make bone broth and when I blanched them (before roasting them) the frothy stuff that rose to the surface was a dark green. Is that normal?“

Exhibit B: Video of 5 young white women with long hair and flow-y clothing standing in a circle humming. Captioned “Love will put out the California fires❤️”

Exhibit C: “Hi everyone, looking for a seasoned and grounded, Astrocartography practitioner. Thanks in advance!”

Exhibit D: A post selling artisan vegan dog food.

There is another post I can’t find, but someone was looking for an “intuitive healer”, and a girl asked, “What is that?” and someone replied, “Someone who guesses what’s wrong with you”.

This is going to be so fun!

#stuff and things

1. When looking for an apartment/home/place to live, what’s the most important feature to you? Since forever: walkability to, at least, a grocery store. Since being married: TWO FUCKIN BATHROOMS (or 1.5) !!!!! !1111! 2. How do you keep track of things that you need to do? Traditional to-do list, bullet journal, nothing? Scribbled on the back of a piece of junk mail. 3. When you travel, is there anything you bring with you that is not necessarily functional/useful but solely provides some measure of comfort? A raggedy small blanket shaped like a bunny. 4. What is your greatest area of relative weakness as a friend? Consistency, true empathy. 5. Conversely, what is your greatest area of relative strength as a friend? Advice giving, listening. 6. What would you serve at a Christmas/holiday party? Full menu, please. This requires *extreme* googling and planning but I’d probably do a mashup of traditional beige bullshit and international food just for the sheer fact I want people to be relatively shocked, amused, intrigued, and/or uncomfortable. 7. Do you have any birthday traditions? I like to run every birthday, the past 4 yrs. 8. Is there a year of your life that stands out to you? Why? The first year I lived in nyc because I finally felt like myself. 9. What’s the top-played song in your iTunes/Spotify account? I didn’t know you could check Spotify but I found out how! I love Spotify and use it every single day. My top track is Portugal by Walk the Moon. Even just typing that makes me want to listen to it 10. What’s your thing? The thing that you think people associate with you; the most salient thing about your personality? I have big gray curly hair; almost everyone talks to me about their emotions and I am good at helping them. 11. How often do you wash your pillows? Never but I get a new pillow pretty often bc lumps. I have two pillow cases. one is satin, because curls...