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Fall vibes always reminds me of Cafe Jupiter and Jeyna. I'm still here wishing I could write about love without feeling a little sad.
I'm trying to get some writing done cause I miss it. I miss my Jeyna family and fans. I miss these characters and community I unexpectedly created.
Hope everyone is healthy, safe and living life. Love you all! ♥️
It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to feel whatever negative emotion you’re feeling.
Just remember it won’t always feel like this. This will pass. It sucks right now but remember it’s not forever. Your progress is not lost.
https://mymodernmet.com/hector-janse-van-rensburg-comforting-cat-comics/
i need this cat so much
“and the universe said…”
Here. Have kudos on that fanfic you wrote in your head while you were in the shower and never typed it out. When I recover from the brilliance of it, I’ll come back to leave a review.
"I'm the prince/ss of my kingdom but it was taken over by a warlord but I was saved from death by you, a rogue who looks remarkably like the prince/ss from a neighboring kingdom whom I was betrothed to until the same warlord took over that kingdom several years ago" AU
- (@yellowmagicalgirl)
In one of my ADHD groups, a question about motivation and inability to start came up. This is one of the comments:
"Mel Robbins (who is also ADHD) talks about 54321-go. She wrote a whole book on it, but its mainly as soon as you think of something or have / want to do something, you count down from 5 to 1 then MOVE YOUR BODY TOWARDS WHAT EVER IT IS YOU NEED TO DO before your brain can talk you out of it. There loads of neuroscience why this works and before I was diagnosed I used this technique all the time. From getting out of bed, to getting a shower, to reading, stopping scrolling, stopping watching tv to literally everything if I needed to. I still do. It really helps me. And like you say, once you get started its okay, and then the dopamine kicks in. She did a talk on it, I think if you google it will come up. Also, tyrosine and theanine is good for me too. Hope this helps."
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I looked it up and I'm going to try it.
https://kaizenlife.org/2018/01/20/the-5-second-rule-54321-go/
Tried this before I even finished reading it and now I am out of bed
Good news, it worked on me too.
Now I have something to measure against executive dysfunction, chronic fatigue, dyspraxia, hypertonia, etc. If I do the countdown, twice, and I still can't move, I can focus on the physiological disabilities to see what else is impairing me.
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I'll give it a try. 😅💖
It’s good for the soul okay
I want a home mostly just to welcome people into it. There will be bowls of candy for guests, and the cookie jar is full. I’ll always say “I was just about to make a coffee/tea/cocoa, would you like one?” when somebody walks in. There’s lemonade and iced tea made fresh on hot days. Once it hits That Hour and they start saying they really should be going, I’ll remind them that the futon is always open, and I’m making cinnamon rolls tomorrow. There’s champagne and sparkling juice hidden on a high shelf just in case somebody announces their engagement or their pregnancy or their new job while they’re here. There is an extra chair in the living room, at the table, and on the deck, and it’s for you. I want to be able to say “if you’re ever in trouble, come to me.”
“That’s the thing about introverts; we wear our chaos in the inside where no one can see it.”
— Michaela Chung
Bless the messy on instagram
some excerpts from heather havrilesky/ask polly's books and columns that snap me out of uselessly longing and obsessing over romantic love:
'let's try this: if i told you that you would never, ever fall in love again, what kind of plan would you make to ensure your own happiness moving forward? what would you work toward? what would you do more of?'
'you need to begin by painting a picture that doesn't include love. you need to stop making room in your life for someone else's love and start making room for yourself instead. [...] when you can imagine a beautiful life even in the absence of romantic love, finding love or losing it again won't seem nearly as scary.'
'you must break this fixation on love as the cure all to all of your ills. if you found love right now, you would run it straight to the ground in seconds. you need an outward focus that has nothing to do with guys.'
'it's time to forget about being lovable. and in fact, it's time to forsake someone else's idea of what gives you a spark or no spark. block the "other" from this picture. no more audience.'
'the central challenge in your life is not finding people who will support you and love you. the central challenge in your life is you finding a way to give yourself support and love. you need to shift your concentration away from this imaginary hole in your life, and shift it towards bigger projects that will feed and sustain you over the course of a lifetime.'
Types of YA Love Interests 💖
1) Enemies to Lovers. They start out wanting to strangle each other but this distaste eventually turns into some of the most passionate and fiery romances of all.
2) Best friends to Lovers. It can be very easy to fall in love with someone who knows all your secrets, flaws, habits and still loves you for you. The fine line between friendship and love is easy to cross (especially if they’re hot xd). 3) The Forbidden Love. Whether it’s a family feud, a different social class, a gap in age, an arranged to marriage someone else or the world ending if your two characters kiss… people want what they can’t have. 4) The Brooding Bad Boy/Girl. They’re full of angst, the world has wronged them. Their knuckles are bruised and they have at least one band-aid on at all times. They also typically have a soft spot for their love interest. And we stan that shit.
5) Out-of-Leaguers. A prince falling in love with a commoner, a dashing vampire attracted to a mortal, the superhero who falls for the civilian they saved.
6) Love at First Sight. People say this only happens in books and movies… well good, because that’s what we’re doing here. The second you see them, there’s an instant connection, attraction and pull.
7) Obsession. The villain who will stop at nothing to find/capture the woman he is lusting over, the vampire who has been searching for his true love for hundreds of years. Obsession can be toxic, but depending on how you do it… also healthy and hot.
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“Beware of destination addiction: The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or even with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.”
— Unknown
Happy new year everyone! 2021 has been a rough one. Lots of ups and downs that I am not used to. Still trying to focus on self love, self worth and build back my confidence. It's a journey and I have to remind myself it's not immediate fix.
Writing has been a struggle. It's hard to write happy pairings and ships with these lingering memories and feelings of my own romance. I'll try to get some thing for everyone but please be patient.
Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. Stay safe! Love you all internet people! ♥️
I hope we find a way to thrive next year. Live, not just survive. Love ourselves again. Find meaning. Find love. Find peace. Decide we're worth it.
I hope for more.
