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Vietnamese Trace Tips

General Tips

Learn About Vietnamese History

Research topics such as Tết Nguyên Đán, the Mid-Autumn Festival, Hùng Kings Commemoration Day, the Hùng Kings, the Dragon Lord Lạc Long Quân, the Fairy Âu Cơ, the Kitchen Gods, and the legend of Sơn Tinh and Thủy Tinh. Learning about Vietnamese legends, historical figures, dynasties, and Holidays, and other important events can provide context to Vietnamese traditions, customs, and beliefs.

Incorporate Vietnamese Values Into Your Own Beliefs

Many Vietnamese cultural values emphasize modesty, hard work, adaptability, hospitality, perseverance, and maintaining harmony within families and communities. Paying attention to these themes may help you develop a deeper understanding of Vietnamese culture beyond food, clothing, or holidays.

Family is often considered one of the most important aspects of Vietnamese life. One of the biggest example for this is respect for parents, grandparents, elders, and ancestors.

Learn Basic Vietnamese Etiquette

Simple customs such as removing your shoes before entering a home, greeting elders first, using respectful pronouns and language, presenting gifts with both hands, and avoiding actions that may embarrass others are important parts of everyday Vietnamese social life may help lessen dysphoria!

Tips for Transitioning Online

Explore Vietnamese Music

If you're interested, listen to Vietnamese music genres! Some genres I recommend are traditional folk music, cải lương, bolero, nhạc vàng, V-pop, rap, indie music, and other contemporary artists.

Follow Vietnamese Media

Watch Vietnamese films, television programs, documentaries, artists, musicians, YouTube channels, or reading Vietnamese literature to help familiarize you with both contemporary culture and traditional customs. It may also help you understand any references to famous Vietnamese figures, historical events, and social issues.

Browse Vietnamese forums, communities, Discord channels, social media pages, etc. and observe their conversations! You may even want to use or follow any memes and trends that are currently popular right now!

Tips For Transitioning In Person/Socially

Learn Traditional Vietnamese Cooking

Vietnamese cuisine and food are some of the most important and varying parts of Vietnamese culture. Northern Vietnamese dishes often emphasize a balance between subtle flavors, while central cuisine can be spicier or more elaborate, and southern cuisine frequently incorporates sweeter flavors and tropical ingredients. Learning how to prepare traditional dishes such as phở, bún bò Huế, bánh xèo, gỏi cuốn, or chè can help you better understand regional traditions and family customs. You can even share the food you’ve made to your friends and family if you want.

Decorate Your Space with Vietnamese Influences

Consider incorporating flowers, bamboo (items), traditional artwork, Đông Hồ folk prints, lanterns, ceramic tea sets, photos of landscapes, folklore references, calligraphy or other Vietnamese-related decorations into your room, living space or online profiles if you are able to. Many Vietnamese homes place importance on cleanliness, organization, and creating a welcoming environment for guests, so try to make everything as tidy as possible aswell!

Practice In Vietnamese Traditions And Events

Many cities host Tet celebrations, Mid-Autumn Festival events, cultural fairs, lion dances, and community gatherings. Participating in these events can provide opportunities to learn about traditions, food, performances, and community life.

Research or even visit Buddhist temples, Cao Đài temples, and other well known Vietnamese religious sites! If appropriate, I also recommend learning about and wearing traditional clothing such as the áo dài during events like Tet, weddings, graduations, and cultural celebrations.

Practice Tea Culture

Tea plays an important role in Vietnamese hospitality and family gatherings. Serving tea to guests, sharing tea with relatives, or simply developing a habit of drinking tea mindfully can help you appreciate an everyday cultural tradition. Green tea, lotus tea, and jasmine tea are especially common.

If you aren’t really a big tea drinker, coffee is also quite big in Vietnamese culture. Try to learn how to use a phin filter to make Cà phê sữa đá or Cà phê đen đá if you can!

Learn Traditional Arts and Crafts

If possible, try out Vietnamese calligraphy, lantern making, embroidery, pottery, folk painting, or traditional musical instruments! You might be able to show-off the crafts you made too if your school or workplace holds any cultural events, showcases or competitions!

Trans Plural Master List

Originally I was planning on making a tips post on TransPlurality, but since Plurality is such a broad and complicated topic, I unfortunately do not have enough time to compile or really come up with tips that have not already been said before... So enjoy my master list instead... Sorry!

I highly recommend looking through @/transdid-help and @/pluralhelp to find posts on more specific topics.

I'll definitely add onto this list in the future, if anyone has any other links to carrds, rentrys, posts, docs, etc., let me know.

Resources & Sites (Off Tumblr)

Master List of Tulpamancy Guides - Google Doc Master List of Tulpamancy Guides - Tulpa.info Master List of SoulBonding Guides - Google Doc

General TransPlural Tips

Guide by @/theslenderversesystem Tips by @/hersouul Tips by @/multiplicity-positivity Tips by @/yourcupbearer Tips by @/galaxyimbue Tips by @/mu-k3i Tips by @/permayanderee Tips by @/trnsharmful Tips by @/id-divine Tips by @/galaxyimbue Tips by @/sugrfilm

How to Build a Headspace

Tips by @/sophieinwonderland

General TransTrauma/TransPTSD/TransHarmed Tips

Tips by @/themetallicqueer Tips by @/angusdagoat Tips by @/galaxyimbue

TransRAMCOA Tips

Tips by @/vampydollrockstar Tips by @/shapeshiftedradq

Trans Robloxian Tips

General Tips

Be Creative

Unfortunately, there is relatively little to no high-quality Roblox related merchandise/clothes available, so making your own accessories, clothing, decorations, or props through crafting and upcycling will probably be your best option if you want to transition in person. Drawing, crafting, sewing, modeling, coding, game design, and other creative hobbies can also help you express your identity. Think of yourself, and the things around you, as things that you are able to customize rather than fixed objects!

Treat Your Life Like A Game

Try treating milestones and accomplishments as achievements. You could track your goals in a journal to see how much progress you've made and how much is left before reaching the next achievement. Some people treat birthdays as level-ups, keep quest logs, or create achievement trackers for personal goals. You could even design your own badges and display them as reminders of your accomplishments.

You can also use TransID labels such as TransCustomizable and TransR6/R15, or LIOMOQAI microlabels to better express yourself.

Surround Yourself With Roblox Related Media And Fandoms

Create music playlists consisting of soundtracks from games, join Roblox Discord Servers, watch or make your own Roblox videos, draw artwork, roleplay, etc1 In general, just try your best to immerse yourself in as much Roblox content as you can.

Tips For Transitioning Online

Express Yourself Online Outside Of Roblox

Try to use usernames, profile pictures banners, bios, etc inspired by, or photos of, (your) Roblox characters. You may find it affirming to create avatars or profiles on different platforms that are based on your Roblox avatar! Try to create moodboards, character/reference sheets, renders, or artwork depicting yourself as your Roblox character.

Use Virtual Reality

If you have access to a VR headset, Roblox VR experiences may feel especially immersive because you are viewing the world directly through your avatar's perspective! You may also be able to use a VR model inspired by your Roblox avatar in regular, non-Roblox VR games if the platform allows custom avatars!

Tips For Transitioning In Person

Dress Like Your Roblox Avatar/Character You Are Sourced From In Person

You may find it affirming to wear outfits that resemble your Roblox avatar or the character you want to embody. Try to do closet cosplays if you want to do it subtly. Consider wearing clothing of the same color, theme, aesthetic, or shape.

I recommend looking at Roblox cosplayers, fan artists, or realistic interpretations of Roblox avatars to get outfit inspiration.

Many recognizable Roblox avatars include a signature accessory, hairstyle, color palette, or visual motif. Having a consistent item you wear regularly, such as headphones, jewelry, a hat, glasses, backpack, or a specific makeup style, may help.

Go to Conventions

Gaming and cosplay events, conventions, and community gatherings may help connect you with beings who share similar interests. These spaces can also provide opportunities to wear Roblox-inspired outfits, meet other fans, and express your identity in a more accepting environment.

Change your Body Language

Simply changing the way you hold and present yourself to others can help a lot! Maybe change your natural idle or imitate idle/walk animations to appear more like a Roblox character.

Try to experiment with the way your emotion show on your face, and if you want to, try to change the way you gesture or pose in photos and videos.

Decorate Your Room

Decorating your room, workspace, or belongings with stickers, artwork, figures, keychains, pins, custom props, posters, cardboard cutouts, or other handmade decorations and items that remind you of Roblox games or characters may help!

Trans Stalker Tips

These tips are based primarily on my own experiences being around harmful people as well as being a harmful person. I do not condone non-consensual harm. Doing this for years may lead to compulsive behaviour (like it did for me LOL).

General Tips

Always Respect Your Muse's Boundaries

If your muse has established limits regarding what information you may or may not look for, take those boundaries seriously. If they become uncomfortable, anxious, or distressed about certain topics being researched, stop immediately. Ignoring those limits can cause harm and may damage the trust and relationship you have built with them.

(Try To) Know Your Muse Personally

One of the most effective ways to learn more about your muse is simply by becoming friends or acquaintances with them! Doing so may allow them to open up to you more about intimate matters or share private accounts with you that you would not otherwise know about or would not be let in on.

Be Patient

Collecting information may take years depending on your muse's digital footprint, particularly if they frequently cross-post content or share their usernames across multiple platforms. It's best to always be patient and regularly check up on your muse's accounts to see if they have uploaded any new or previously unknown information.

Do Your Own Research

Try to research your general area and take notes of any security cameras nearby! I also researching about stalker/true crime cases to potentially get new ideas and find out what went wrong with their stalking so you don't make the same mistakes as them!

Tips For Transitioning Online

Be Organized

Try to maintain a system that is easy for you to understand and navigate. If you are unable to locate information easily, or add and delete information when necessary, you are doing something wrong.

I recommend creating folders and bookmarking accounts and sites belonging to your muse (Carrds, ToyHouse, Strawpages, Instagram accounts, Youtube accounts, Tumblr accounts, TikTok accounts, etc), as well as the accounts and posts of your muse's friends and family if possible. Even if keeping tabs on your muse’s friends/family may not seem as relevant, these accounts may feature older photos or videos of your muse, or may talk about them in the future.

Archive Your Muse's Posts Whenever Possible

Always remember to take untampered screenshots of posts, usernames, comments, and other relevant content of your muse. I also highly recommend downloading the original videos and images on posts your muse their posts are edited, deleted, or their accounts become inactive.

I recommend backing up your archives to a USB drive, cloud storage service, or external drive to prevent accidental data loss and reduce your memory being clogged up by thousands of photos and videos…

Use Separate Accounts

Especially if you know your muse personally, I highly recommend using separate accounts! Try your best to use private accounts, turn off any settings that shows others when you are online or what your location is, and just in general make sure to not post anything that could link back to you. On these accounts, try your best not to comment, like, follow, or give any form of engagement to your muse and immediately block your muses account if the platform you’re on provides profile-view notifications (TikTok, for example) so your muse wont be able to see nor get suspicious of your account. I also recommend using older or unused accounts if possible.

Search For Your Muse’s (User)Name Online

If you are able to get ahold of your muse’s (old) usernames, always try searching for them on both your default search engine, and on the search engine of different site’s and apps as if you know a person's username or online alias, you may be able to locate other accounts that use the same or similar usernames! I recommend using quotation marks around your muse’s username (e.g., "@cis-dead") so the search engine only returns results containing the username. Adding additional details—such as a location, school, workplace, username, hobby, or other identifying information—can further narrow results and make them more relevant (e.g., "@cis-dead" tumblr). Many search engines also support the site:operator, which allows you to search a specific website or domain rather than the entire web (e.g., "@cis-dead" site:tumblr.com).

Tips For Transitioning In Person

Prepare Beforehand

If you plan on stalking someone in person, always remember to memorize your area and know places where you are the most out of sight. Try your best to know their schedule and become acquaintances with their friends, family or teachers. If you know your muse is in a club, sport or enjoys a specific interest, consider also joining that club, familiarizing yourself with their interests, or even switching classes to get to know them better.

You may also want to know their full name. If you work with, or go to the same school as your muse, try checking your company's internal directory, looking them up by their email address or look through your school’s yearbook to find their full name. Doing so may help you search them up on TruePeopleSearch or other services that specialize in locating publicly available records.

Take Photos Of Them

If you are able to, try to convince your friends to walk around with you so you are able to take photos of your muse from afar. Purchase a photo album and print out your favorite photos of them to fill it up if you can.

I don’t really recommend intentionally wearing dark clothes, changing your physical appearance to make yourself look like a stalker, or intentionally running into them if you plan on following someone around in person. It’s extremely obvious to them if you do. Instead, just try your best to blend in with the others around you and not draw attention to yourself whatsoever!

Null Hypersexual Tips

These tips are based primarily on my own experiences and are not meant to replace the advice of healthcare professionals such as therapists. I do not know you personally, nor do I know what your specific triggers or circumstances are. While opening up about intrusive thoughts, sexual urges, compulsions, or addictive behaviors can be uncomfortable, seeking support is often one of the most helpful steps you can take. Please be patient with yourself and give yourself grace, compassion, and forgiveness. <3

General Tips

Practice Radical Acceptance

One of the most important steps in recovery is accepting the reality that you experience intrusive thoughts, sexual urges, or compulsive behaviors. Radical Acceptance does not mean that you approve of these thoughts or intend to act on them. Rather, it means acknowledging their existence without shame, denial, or resentment towards yourself. Recovery becomes much more difficult when you spend all of your energy fighting reality or pretending that a problem does not exist.

Know Your Triggers

Try to identify and track your triggers whenever possible to prevent any discomfort, anxiety, or panic it creates. Triggers may include certain times of day, (stressful) events, specific memories, sounds, people, communities, apps, words, loneliness, boredom, lack of sleep, or emotional distress. When a triggering thought arises, acknowledge it without assigning moral value to it and allow those feelings to pass naturally. Intrusive thoughts are not commands, and they do not define your character. They are simply thoughts. Learning to observe them without obsessing over what they mean can reduce the power they hold over you.

Avoid Harmful Coping Mechanisms

When an intrusive thought or urge appears, your first instinct may be to panic, shame yourself, or engage in self-destructive coping mechanisms. Unfortunately, these reactions often reinforce the cycle rather than break it. Treating a thought as dangerous or catastrophic signals to your brain that it deserves extra attention, which can make it occur more frequently or feel more intense over time.

Be kind to yourself throughout the recovery process. If your hypersexuality is connected to a sex or pornography addiction, try not to replace one harmful coping mechanism with another. Substituting one addiction or compulsive behavior for a different vice ultimately does not addresses the underlying issue and may increase the likelihood of future relapse or even more destructive behaviours.

Practice Grounding Techniques

While they may not eliminate the urge entirely, especially when you have not used grounding techniques before, they might be able to slow your impulsively down and may better help you overcome your addiction. Some general grounding techniques I have learned are the following:

The 5-4-3-2-1 Method: Find five things you can see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. I recommend keeping items—such as a cold water bottle, stuffed animal, blanket, fidget toy, sour candy, perfume, scented candles, etc—nearby.

Box Breathing: Breathe in for four seconds, hold for four seconds, exhale for four seconds, and hold again for four seconds before repeating the cycle. Continue until your heartbeat slows down and you physically feel more relaxed.

Play The Tape Forward: When you feel triggered, pause and reflect on how you will feel ten minutes, one hour, and one day if you acted on it. Reflect on both the short-term satisfaction and the aftermath, whether that includes regret, anxiety, frustration, disappointment, or self-resentment.

The 90-Second Rule: When an urge appears, commit to doing absolutely nothing in response to it for ninety seconds. Sit still, focus on your breathing without acting on it.

Tips for Transitioning Online

Avoid NSFT Communities and Enablers

The people and communities you surround yourself with can significantly influence your recovery. Whenever possible, seek out individuals who genuinely support your well-being and encourage healthier habits rather than those who normalize, romanticize, or enable behaviors that make your struggles worse.

If certain online communities consistently trigger you, consider leaving them entirely. This may include NSFT communities, spaces that frequently discuss triggering content, or groups that encourage compulsive sexual behavior, or even the Radqueer Community. If leaving isn't an option you can realistically commit to, try muting or blocking certain hashtags, words, accounts, or communities.

Use Relapse Trackers Or App/Site Blockers

Try to use apps like I Am Sober to track your recovery journey and keep track of when you do relapse or your triggers. Alternatively, try using website blockers or limiting your ScreenTime or access on certain apps if you tend to relapse from getting bored of scrolling social media easily.

Don't Just Be In Communities About Recovery

While recovery communities can be incredibly helpful, I recommend joining other communities centered around your interests, hobbies, games, art, music, writing, etc. Recovery should be part of your life, not your entire identity; focusing solely on recovery may become unhealthy and may lead to obsessive thoughts or guilt about recovery.

Tips for Transitioning In Person

Physically Change The Environment Around Yourself

Try to make your bed and bedroom spaces only meant for sleep and relaxation. If you usually experience intrusive thoughts or urges while you are in the bedroom, consider physically getting up and moving to another room or at least try to keep your bedroom door open. It can also be helpful to physically move your phone, computer, or devices out of your room during times you are most vulnerable to prevent impulsive behavior. If you aren’t able to physically move your devices out of your room, try to only use your devices when sitting in a chair or on your desk.

Have Others Around You

Try to be around others as much as you can instead of staying socially isolated or feeling lonely! Try your best to record yourself, call someone, ask a trusted person to physically stay in the same room as you or visit a public space where your screen and actions are visible to others when you are experiencing intrusive thoughts. This also works if you have tasks or chores to complete but find yourself distracted by your urges!

Join clubs, sports teams, or other regularly scheduled in-person activities to fill up your schedule if you are sensitive or easily triggered during certain times of day—physical activity is also just a good thing to do in general to keep you mentally and physically healthy.

Trans Missing Tips

Even if disappearing may seem abrupt to others, going missing should NOT be something you do impulsively, especially if you are planning on staying missing or hidden for a long time. Going missing takes time, and you should be aware of, and plan ahead for, the lifestyle changes you are going to need to adapt to.

Depending on how you plan on transitioning, some of these tips may not be as helpful to you... I apologize.

General Tips

Plan Ahead

Spend time thinking realistically planning what your day-to-day needs will be. If you plan on going missing in person, consider what necessities (identification documents, medications, important records, chargers, hygiene products, weather-appropriate clothing, emergency contact information, food, water, etc) you need to rely on regularly and how you would continue to access them if your circumstances changed.

Think about your finances, housing situation, transportation needs, communication methods, and support systems!

Stay Out of Trouble

Try your best to avoid legal or criminal trouble whenever possible as getting the attention of the police may lead to investigations, searches and depending on whether or not you get convicted, it may be on your public record.

Tips for Transitioning Online

Reduce Your Digital Footprint Completely

If you are trying to disappear gradually but have a large following or many people who regularly check up on you, consider taking increasingly long breaks from the internet multiple times. Avoid drawing attention to your absence and avoid posting apologies for being inactive. Over time, people may begin to view your disappearances as normal behaviour rather than something unusual and slowly stop inquiring you about your absence.

If you want to disappear more abruptly, however, consider deactivating, privating, or completely abandoning your public accounts and moving to private or burner accounts instead.

Keep personal information and schedules private whenever possible. Avoid posting (recent) photos of yourself publicly and periodically review old posts and accounts to remove information that reveals your location, interests, age, or other identifying details.

If you are able to, try to log back into old accounts that you may have forgotten about even if you haven't used them in years (Try to through your browser's saved passwords or password managers to find accounts from old gaming platforms, streaming services, forums, shopping sites, school portals, social media accounts, etc) and remove any comments, posts, playlists, links from these accounts or simply deactivate them. I know that YouTube has a feature in which it allows you to show your accounts comment history, so try to search through these comments and delete any of the comments that may reveal person information such as your name or other usernames.

If you create new accounts, consider whether you want previous mutuals, acquaintances, or people from your offline life to have access to them. Some people choose to block these individuals immediately to prevent accidental discovery.

It can also be useful to search for your own usernames and accounts occasionally. While it may feel counterintuitive, this can help you identify what information remains publicly accessible and how easily others may be able to find it.

I recommend using Have I Been Pwned to figure out if any sites you may have used in the past has suffered from a data breach.

Turn Off Settings That Share Accounts With Your Contacts

There are so many platforms that sync your contacts or use your location data, so always remember to turn off contact syncing whenever possible! Some sites (like Twitter) automatically have contact syncing turned on when you make an account, so do your best to always check the privacy settings of social media accounts that may allow your profile to appear in "People You May Know" or similar algorithms.

Separate Your Online Identities or Personas

Use different usernames and aliases across different platforms if you do not want your accounts to easily be connected to one another. Avoid reusing old usernames or slight variations of them, and avoid using predictable naming conventions. Consider using random word generators to create entirely new handles.

If you are easily recognizable or known online for a specific thing (activity, talent, fandom, voice, artwork, or general community presence), Try to completely avoid posting about said specific thing you are known for, or try to change the way you behave or talk online.

I recommend using entirely different different email addresses, aesthetics, profile pictures, and bios for each account you own and using different social media platforms for each of your accounts if you plan on posting your creative works, interests, or want to continue socialising publicly. I also highly recommend NOT cross posting art or your interests on these accounts to reduce the likelihood that one account will lead people to another.

Be Cautious When Posting Photos Online

As a general rule online, try your best to avoid posing your face or about visiting (famous or popular) locations, school logos, workplace details, street signs, or other recognisable or easily searchable locations.

Photos contain metadata such as GPS coordinates, and although many social media platforms remove this automatically, direct file-sharing services and messaging platforms may not. Consider disabling location permissions for your camera if you are able to!

Transitioning in Person

Cut Off or Ignore Your Contacts

Try to cut off or limit your interaction with your friends and family, both online and in person. I recommend trying to vary your routines (like going to places at extremely busy, or extremely vacant times, or using different routes every time you commute) rather than following an easily recognisable or memorable schedule every day to lower the chance of being noticed by someone you might have known.

If you encounter someone unexpectedly, try to be as uninteresting and uninformative as a grey rock when talking to them. Provide as little information as you possibly can about your current circumstance and do your best to avoid giving them any username handles or contact information.

Inform Trusted Individuals of Your Disappearance

Though it seems counterintuitive, If you plan on going missing, consider informing at least one trusted person beforehand. You do not need to tell them where you are going, when you plan to leave, or what your long-term plans are. Simply inform them that your soon-to-be departure is completely premeditated. This is simply just to prevent confusion or widespread concern or panic if others begin worrying about you. I recommend keeping in touch with the individual(s) you trust with this information, even if it is just through a burner phone incase you are in need of help.

Be Less Recognizable

Some people find that wearing ordinary, neutral clothing helps them blend into everyday environments. Clothing that is common and unremarkable tends to attract less attention than bright styles, logos, or accessories. If you already have a recognizable fashion sense, try your best to lay low or change the most recognizable part of you! Grow out or cut your hair short, change your glasses's frames, wear different shoes, etc.

Also consider whether your current contact information, mailing arrangements, or (bluetooth) device names contain identifying information that you would prefer not to share. Updating these details and reducing unnecessary personal information can help create greater separation between different parts of your life!

Black Trace Tips

Before I begin, remember that these tips are not meant to encourage stereotypes, caricatures, or racist portrayals of Black people. Black people are not defined by a specific appearance, personality, way of speaking, fashion style, hobby, or interest. The purpose of these tips is to help you explore your identity while learning about and respecting Black culture.

General Tips

Avoid Stereotypes

This should be such a no brainer, but I seriously cannot believe how many times I have seen people online providing wrong, offensive or extremely racist and stereotypical “tips” to Black Trace individuals… Please use your better judgement and do not stoop down to such racism and bigotry! Never base your understanding of Black people on racist stereotypes or exaggerated portrayals.

If you do not naturally use certain slang, dialects, or speech patterns, do not feel pressured to adopt them! Please do not force yourself to speak differently just to appear “more Black”…

There is no single "correct" way to be Black. Being Black is not determined by the music you listen to, the clothes you wear, the hobbies you enjoy, the way you speak, your interests or personality or your physical appearance…

Learn About Black History

Take time to educate yourself on Black history beyond what you may have learned in school.

Read books, articles, and essays written by Black authors. Explore Black art, literature, music, and film. Learn about important historical events, social movements, and influential figures throughout history.

You can also support and learn from Black activists, artists, writers, musicians, etc. The more knowledge you gain, the deeper your understanding of Black culture, history, and experiences will become.

Interact With Black Communities

If possible, try to spend time in spaces where Black people and other people of color are present.

You may be able to join clubs or organizations created by Black people, attend community events, participate in cultural celebrations, make friends with people from different backgrounds, or engage with online communities that have large Black audiences.

If you cannot interact with people in person, support Black content creators online! Watch their videos, listen to their podcasts, read their work, and engage with their communities and fandoms!

Surround Yourself With Supportive People

Spend time with people who respect and support you.

You should never feel pressured to hide your identity out of fear that your friends or family will abandon you. Healthy friendships are built on trust, understanding, and acceptance.

You may also find comfort in online communities, like discord or here on tumblr, where you can speak with other Trace individuals and share your experiences.

Protect Your Privacy

If you are not comfortable sharing your Trace identity publicly, you do not have to!

Only tell people you genuinely trust. Not everyone will be supportive, and it is important to prioritize your safety and well-being.

If remaining private feels safer, you may choose to keep your identity between yourself and a small circle of trusted people.

If you can only transition online right now and cannot transition in person, that is okay! Your own safety should be your top priority.

Set Clear Transition Goals

Before you begin transitioning, think carefully about what you want your transition to look like.

Ask yourself what aspects of your life or yourself would you like to change? What causes you the most discomfort or dysforia? What would make you feel more like your true self (Different clothes, hair, mannerisms, culture, etc)?

Try to set goals that are realistic and achievable. Breaking larger goals into smaller steps can make them feel less overwhelming. Breaking your goals into smaller, more digestible steps can make it extremely easy to keep track of your progress over time. Looking back at how far you have come may help you stay motivated!

Tips for Transitioning Online

Use (Micro)Labels

there are many TransIDs out there that you can identify with that can help others (and yourself) better understand and recognize what your transition goals are! But it doesn’t have to just be transIDs—I recommend searching through LIOMOQAI posts/coins that relate to race/ethnicity or coining your own terms to better help describe your experiences and feelings!

Be Open About Your (Trace) Identity

If you feel safe doing so, do not feel pressured to hide your Trace identity online, especially if you are in RQ/TransID spaces or just in communities in which there are always people willing to accept and support you through your transition journey. <3

Change Your Personas/Online Avatars

A really easy way to let other beings know that you are Black is to simply just make it clear on your online avatar (Using Black skin tone options for your avatars or playing as POC characters) and/or profile (Bio, username, profile picture, etc).

Tips For Transitioning In Person/Socially

Culture

If connecting with Black culture or communities is important to your transition or makes you feel more accepted with Black culture, I recommend participating in/celebrating Black History Month, attending community events, supporting Black-owned businesses, listening to music by POC artists, participating in trends, learning about different cultural traditions, and cooking foods that interest you from Black cultural traditions.

Physical Appearance

Physically changing certain aspects of your appearance may be one of the biggest ways to relieve your dysphoria, but it can also be harmful if you do not do your own research! Everyone’s experience and needs are different, and blindly following advice from others may cause you actual harm. Please be extremely cautious and careful!

Transitioning physically can (and should) be a gradual process with you experimenting and finding out what suits you best rather than transitioning all at once.

I recommend doing extensive research on different styles of clothing, hairstyles, makeup, nail care, skincare, fragrances, or self-care routines to find what products will work with your specific needs best and find out what makes you feel most like yourself.

If you are interested in changing your hairstyle, spend time researching different styles and learning proper hair care! Haircare varies depending on hair texture and hair type. Research what works best for your own hair and learn how to properly maintain any style you choose.

If you wear protective styles such as braids, learn how to care for them properly and when they should be removed. You may also choose to use accessories such as bonnets or beads if they fit your haircare routine.

hi! do you have a "sourcelist" of fandoms you are willing to make tips for, similar to what a typical BAH blog has?

Hello. I currently do not have a white/blacklist that I am able to provide, however, I am willing to make tips for pretty much any TransID that gets requested to me.

I’m well versed in many fandoms already so I’m quite confident in my ability to provide tips for any character and fandom, or at their very least try to recommend some.

If it’s an extremely obscure or large fandom, however, I would prefer if the requester would provide some guidance on what exactly the fandom they are requesting is about (like a link to a summary of it, a character description, etc) or i’ll simply just do my own research on the topic.

Request Guidelines

Requests are open every Monday (EST). Any requests submitted before or after Monday will be automatically deleted and will not be answered (this does not apply to general questions or suggestions; these may be asked any time).

You are welcome to request multiple different TransIDs at once, but please do not spam my inbox with the same TransID request multiple times unless you are resending your ask to fix any grammar errors or if you are unsure if your ask has been received.

Please be respectful when requesting. I reserve the right to refuse any and all requests.

If you would like to be tagged in a post, please specify this in your request and include the blog you want to get tagged in your request as well.

To confirm that you have read and will abide to these rules when requesting from me, please include the emoji of the current phase of the moon at the end of your request!

Things you should keep in mind when requesting:

Unless you send a question, your ask will not be posted publicly.

Posts may be updated or expanded on over time as i think of/find/get suggested new tips to include in my posts.

Similar IDs may be grouped into a single post for easier organization and access.

I prefer to create broader “blanket” guides before making posts about specific micro-TransIDs. (Example: a general TransHarmful tips post about a more broad TransHarmfulID before focusing on an extremely specific identity under that TransHarmful category.)

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To quickly find a specific TransID, use Ctrl + F (or your device’s search function). If you cannot find a TransID listed here, try searching for it directly on my blog.

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Mental Disorders / Neurodivergence

NullHypersexual (Last updated June 16 2026)

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Nothing posted on this blog is intended to replace professional medical, legal, educational, or psychological advice.

Not every tip will work for every individual. Please use your own judgment and adapt suggestions to your circumstances.

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