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aesthetics / asami sato: people usually assume that i’m daddy’s helpless little girl, but i can handle myself.
i made this for a button for bi visibility day on september 23! if you want to use this to make your own button please do :) you can sign up for a free trial of zazzle black for free shipping + today you can get 10% off w promo code earlyspecial so that makes for very cheap buttons
every time you ridicule a nasty person’s appearance there is chance it’s going to reach a vulnerable person who sees themselves in their features
This. It really frustrates me when someone is being problematic and then people start attacking their looks. Like go ahead and call out the person for bad behavior all you want but when you start making it about their appearance you become part of the problem.
love when people call people out for being #problematic by telling them they’ve got big noses like mine, or that they don’t wear makeup/their makeup’s not right/they don’t have immaculately styled hair/[insert ableist/classist dog whistle here]
also this behaviour is racist as fuck. Like bruh I’m never have the same nose a white person. I’m a never have the same eyes. So sue me, I’m ugly cuz I’m not white.
The existence of bisexual people doesn’t require a damn content warning
So this afternoon a teen librarian friend alerted me this tweet from the exceptional Angie Manfredi of Fat Girl Reading:
The print is super duper tiny, so let me blow it up. This is a review of the book Run by Kody Kepplinger from the prominent library review magazine VOYA* aka Voices of Youth Advocates :
Agnes is legally blind, and leads such a sheltered life that she cannot even take the bus home from school or attend parties. Bo Dickinson has a drug addicted mother, an absent father, and is rumored to be the town slut. Although opposites, they become good friends through their kindness and acceptance of each other. Bo’s cousin Colt is almost a brother to her; they have grown up together and are part of the family “you steer clear of because nothing good can come of getting mixed up with that bunch.” Agnes has a different problem; her parents hover over her and limit her activities so it is impossible for her to be a normal teenager, until she begins sneaking out to go places with Bo. When Bo hatches a plan to leave town to find her father, Agnes decides to go along, thinking she and Bo will live together. They steal a car from Agnes’s family and begin their road trip, along the way visiting Colt, with whom Agnes has a sexual encounter. When Agnes discovers that Bo intends to live with her father, they separate and she gets in touch with her parents, leaving Bo to a disappointing meeting with her father, and an eventual return to the foster care system. The story contains many references to Bo being bisexual and an abundance of bad language, so it is recommended for mature junior and senior high readers.–Rachel Axelrod. 304p. VOICE OF YOUTH ADVOCATES, c2016.
I helpfully put in bold the part that gave me rage hives :D
This reviewer (Rachel Axelrod) and VOYA are saying the very existence of bisexual people is on par with swearing. That the very existence of bisexuality can only be shown to junior and senior high schoolers.
And this is where I need to disagree with Angie a little here because that isn’t a microagression. That is full-on biphobia folks.
And its a particular kind of biphobia that tags bisexual girls and women in a particularly pernicious way. Mature is a coded word here. Its hypersexualization – where being bisexual and being out and using the word ‘bisexual’ for bi women is considered on par with sex acts. And like I said on twitter this afternoon, you can draw a straight fucking line from this review to bisexual women being constantly sexually harassed and facing astronomically high rates of sexual violence and domestic abuse. Bisexual women and girls are not seen as peoples, we are seen as machines that dispense sex. I would expect a publication like VOYA to challenge that narrative, not reinforce it.
Also, does VOYA think that bisexual teens under grade 11 just don’t exist? Because TRUST ME they do. And they deserve to read books that reflect their inner worlds just as much as straight teens. I have NEVER seen a book review of any type claim that only juniors and seniors can know about the existence of straight people. How many people at VOYA put their eyes on this review and NO ONE noticed that?
I spend a fair amount of my time on this blog complaining, critiquing, and analyzing books that refuse to use the word bisexual to describe their characters. And while I haven’t read Run (though I put it on hold at my library today), all accounts are that the bisexual character Bo actually uses the word bisexual several times. But instead of celebrating that as an important YA development, VOYA seems to think it needs a goddamn content warning.
Oh but just wait.
It gets better.
It gets so much better.
You might be thinking that perhaps this book just had a lot of steamy bisexual sex scenes and this is just a case of poor wording.
NOPE
In this reviewers mind, the actual HAVING of heterosexual sex doesn’t make this book in appropriate for younger readers, but the very EXISTENCE of a bisexual character would. You don’t need to warn against actual sex but you choose to slap a ‘here be monsters’ on the map if there are bisexuals?
There is nothing to that but base and blatant biphobia.
Librarians and booksellers use magazines like VOYA because they can’t read every book. Now we have VOYA telling entire swaths of professionals that this book (and by extension bisexual people) are somehow inherently inappropriate. VOYA has a reputation among librarians as being progressive, less enmeshed with book publishers, and more focused on intellectual freedom than other review sources (PW, Kirkus, LJ, SLJ). Their name is actually Voices of Youth Advocates. We trust their reviews to advocate for youth.
Well I’m sorry VOYA but you need to explain to me how promoting this kind of biphobia makes you a ‘youth advocate’. Or how it helps you uphold the mission statement of your publication – which reads: “Young adults have rights to free and equal access to information in print, nonprint, and electronic resources, without infringement of their intellectual freedom due to age or other restrictions.” How exactly does advocating an age restriction on a book solely because of the sexual orientation of a protagonist advance that right to free and equal access to information?
This also frustrates me to no end because we’ve all heard that mantra about how ‘diverse books don’t sell’. WELL NO SHIT THEY DON’T SELL WHEN YOU REVIEW THEM LIKE THIS! This is a textbook lesson in how to use base-level bigotry to bomb book sales. I swear to god, the next person who tells me that books with bisexual characters who actually use the word bisexual ‘just don’t sell’ is gonna get nothing but a giant squid of anger.
Right now, I’m calling on VOYA magazine and it’s Editor RoseMary Honnold to apologize to author Kody Keplinger and to the entire bisexual community. This review is offensive and it needs to be retracted. I’d also say that Rachel Axelrod needs some LGBTQ cultural competency training (with a particular emphasis on the B in there).
This is #BiWeek, the week where bisexual community celebrates our history, culture, and art. It would be a great time for VOYA to remove their foot from their mouth and apologize for this biphobic trainwreck.
- Sarah
*I know you’re really not supposed to post content such as entire reviews up on the internet from trade publications but if VOYA doesn’t like it, then fuck it, they can C&D us.
Holy shit it just got worse.
Bisexual SFF author Tristina Wright sent this email to someone at VOYA (gonna guess the editor RoseMary Honnold but to be clear that is just my base speculation)
And this was VOYA’s utterly reprehensible response:
I am stunned. I am horrified.
This isn’t about destroying our enemies during BiWeek. It’s about VOYA making a serious mistake that isn’t aligned with their purported values or what’s best for teens.
More on this as it develops.
UPDATES:
First, Tristina has confirmed that the email does come from Editor In Chief RoseMary Honnold.
Second, Bisexual Book Award winning bisexual author Hannah Moskowitz has also written a letter of condemnation
UPDATES
Third, literary agent Barry Goldblatt (who is a BIG DEAL in YA lit world for those who don’t know) is pulling his ads from VOYA:
Fourth, VOYA has published Tristina’s email as a letter to the editor on their site, as though they are proud of it.
AND VOYA locked their twitter account. What kind of BS is this?
We need to expose bigoted gatekeepers wherever they’re found. This is so shameful. How many children must we continue to allow to feel alone, wrong, and without context for who they are?
If when asked what is the best starter Pokemon you say Pikachu you are as bad as the people who claim to be 'gryffinclaws' or 'slytherpuffs'. Both stories place an emphasis on what you choose! So choose one of the real options!
If you can’t find a place on your blog for Patrick Stewart in a bathtub dressed like a lobster, then your blog probably doesn’t deserve such majesty anyway.
It has returned to my dash and I cannot fight the compulsion to reblog…
the patrick lobster appears only once in a thousand years, reblog for good luck
THE LOBSTER OF GOOD FORTUNE
Happy #BiWeek
When we talk about being fat-positive and we say, “weight is not an indication of health,” I will reblog it. But I want us to also say, “health is not an indication of value.”
I could be at any weight and I will never be healthy, because I am chronically ill. Someone might be chronically ill and fat, or they might be chronically ill and not fat, and it really doesn’t matter.
When you make it about health, you’re saying health is the pinnacle of human achievement, and you’re shitting on those of us for whom health will always be a pipe dream.
When you tell someone you are chronically ill and they just say "well I hope you can do as well as any healthy person", they have missed the point. I can't perform as well because that requires more work than I can possibly do. That's what this means. I am sick all of the time. I have ZERO energy. Don't tell me to be like a healthy person. I'm not and I can't be and I REALLY REALLY want to be. Turns out it hurts when you say that.
So, my girlfriend says she is bisexual. But she has told me she doesn't like boys for like sexual reasons, but more for hugging and stuff. She is attracted to girls for both sexual and like non sexual reasons. What would you call that?
she identifies as bisexual she’s bisexual
Plus orientation is about attraction, not how you act on your attraction. So if she says she's attracted to multiple genders weather or not she will date or kiss or cuddle them doesn't change that she is bisexual.
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Thank you for this. It made my day!
not dating someone because they are bisexual isn’t a ‘preference’ it’s literally biphobia and it makes you a bigot
Actually you can choose *not* to date someone for any reason. You aren’t obligated to date anyone and should NEVER be pressured to date, EVER.
yes you can choose not to date someone for any reason, but if your only reason is that they are bisexual and that you would never date someone who identifies as bisexual gues what… you’re biphobic!
I see where you’re coming from but sometimes people have underlying reasons why they won’t date someone that is bi. It may not be that they don’t like bi people it may be that bisexual people are more prone to be sexually active and they are not as sexually advanced so they don’t think they could please that person. Just a thought.
……. you are literally saying all bisexuals are prone to being more sexually active which is completely false and very biphobic, you literally just proved my point??????
I think kairon-sahpec meant that some people have deep insecurities about themselves and don’t think they are good enough for bisexual people. They’re friends with bi identifiers, but don’t have the confidence to date them.
My bf/fiance for example was always jealous and self conscious about dating me for the first 3 or 4 months cause I identify as pansexual. He felt that i could leave him for some one who was more like me in terms of sexuality and also that he wasn’t good enough for me.
but that’s you specifically. not all bisexuals have a high libido. I don’t have a high libido. you cannot generalize about bisexuals why is this so hard for everyone to comprehend
If you won't date someone bisexual and you have no reason excepting their bisexuality then you are misunderstanding an identity and a person and making assumptions that are deeply hurtful.
If you won't date someone bi because you don't like them as a person that's cool.
Hate the person not their orientation, otherwise you are a bigot.
September is like the Monday of the year
bringing this back bc it can only be reblogged one time a year
Fun History Fact: The overwhelming majority of cowboys in the U.S. were Indigenous, Black, and/or Mexican persons. The omnipresent white cowboy is a Hollywood studio concoction meant to uphold the mythology of white masculinity.
Thank you.
I will always re-blog this
I think it was high school when i overheard some white girl put on her best semi-disgusted and confused voice and go “why do so many Mexicans dress up like cowboys?” and I had to be the person to tell her.
Why do you think the whites say buckero? Cause they couldn’t say vaquero.
I dunno if I reblogged this before but fuck it, y'all gon learn today.
Teach the children.
also, cowboy culture was hella gay. like, write-poems-about-your-cowboy-partner gay.
IF people acknowledge it, they play the necessity card– there weren’t any women out on the range, so they had to “resort to men.” this claim completely erases 1) the romantic (not just sexual) writings of actual cowboys, 2) the acknowledgement of cowboys’ potential homosexual activity by writers at the time, and 3) the possibility that some men would deliberately become cowboys with the intent to seek out homosexual encounters.
no one wants to admit it, but cowboy culture was just. so inherently gay.
Im here for the gay POC cowboys
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Bi people can be any gender, and bi people can be attracted to any gender.
Well, hate to be the one to break it to you, and I have no doubt I’d receive backlash, but no, bisexual people are attracted to males and females, hence BI, as in 2. People attracted to ANY gender are known as pan-sexual. Being bi myself, I only mean to help in correcting.
However, yes, Bi people can indeed be any gender, as far as I know.
Well, hate to be the one to break it to you, but the bi community has been defining bisexuality as “attraction to 2 or more genders” since at least the 90s, and even rejected the gender binary definition in the 1990 Bi Manifesto. If you don’t believe me and would like to learn more about your community’s history, there are a whole lot of good links here.
It’s fine if you want to define your own bisexuality as attraction to men and women. But it’s not cool to try to strip a label from your fellow bi folks who use the more inclusive definition.
Actually, as it has ‘bi’ in the name, it does typically only refer to males and females exclusively. While it *can* mean more, this is now more often referred to as ‘pansexuality’ as more and more gender/sexual identities are becoming more open, which is why lgbt has changed to lgbtq+
Actually, if you’ll read what I wrote above, the bi community has defined it as “attraction to two or more genders” and included nonbinary genders for several decades. I went ahead and bolded the important parts, since you seemed to have missed them.
And yes, pansexuality exists, but there is some overlap between the community definitions of “attracted to two or more genders” (bi) and “attraction to all genders and/or regardless of gender” (pan).
Also let people use the labels they are most comfortable with.
Saying you are bi rather than pan can mean something different to different people, regardless of the exact number of genders they are attracted to.
So people should be allowed to call themselves what they like
This genuinely scares me.
Bisexuality is not something that needs to be cured or changed. Bisexuality is not a phase, it does not imply unfaithfulness in a relationship.
Bisexuals are valid. Bisexuals are important. Bisexuals are beautiful. Bisexuals deserve to be treated with respect.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I love you all.
Everyone go and Google "can bisexuality be the best"
Do it now.
Make this the thing someone questioning and doubting themselves sees.