ok, now - i’m usually more of a hot pics/stories (re)blogger, but…
i’ve noticed a proliferation of ‘worthless faggot’ posts/tumblrs amongst our dearly beloved bdsm community. and it’s starting to really worry me.
so here’s my two pennies’ worth of thoughts about this trend:
- i’m not worthless, a piece of shit, a pathetic loser, a disgrace - and neither are the boys anyone plays with.
- i’m not an object, a soulless hole, …. i’m a f*cking human being with a life, a job, friends, feelings, a history, a dick, and a very active libido. if you can’t deal with that, run away and play with your right hand.
- am i a submissive gay boy? abso-friggin-lutely.
- do i like a partner to take control in the bedroom/playroom? hells yes.
- do i want to expand this to outside the bedroom? sure, with the right dom in the right kind of setting, if i feel confident enough with him. that requires communication, trust and collaboration, though - i.e. treating this sub as a full-on human being and the relationship as a real one.
- i like to serve. i won’t and don’t want to serve absolutely every man, everywhere, nor do i lust after every cock-bearing human being i see. i mean, i take the subway every day - ‘nuff said.
- i have no intention of mixing domination and money. that’s just crazy. getting into my ass doesn’t mean you get into my bank account.
- i have no self-esteem issues to live out through some extreme bdsm. if you do, which is far from unusual, see a therapist, not a rapist.
- yes, it’s old news that some gay men like to be beaten for being gay. but it’s the 21st century, for goodness’ sake - no-one really cares who you like to fuck in most of the tumblr readers’ world today, so stop beating yourself up through others.
- sub boys/men are not girls by default. for me, i love being a man and feel no less manly because i like to obey my dom’s orders and serve him faithfully.
(some men are aroused when they are ‘feminised’, which is a completely different thing; but think of what it says about your views on women if that makes you feel ‘degraded’. just sayin’.)
- i’m worried i would have been scared away for good if i’d bumped into this stuff, back when i was a not-exactly-innocent, sweet, kink-curious 16yo. and i worry about the kink education the very curious youth of today will have received by the time they’re 18 and come to play with some of us. (or worse, what they’ll do to each other in the meantime)
- bullying is not bdsm. never was, never will be. that’s why it’s called bullying.
- i don’t want the bdsm scene to become a ‘superhuman virile male vs. pathetic faggot object’ world. because then i’ll leave too, for good.
- good doms love and deeply respect their subs. they may train them well, be stern when needed, but everything is always done with safety, love and respect in mind. anyone who doesn’t offer you this should be ignored and/or reported.
