Hey, sorry if this is weird to ask but I wondered how you cycled out of being a TERF, because I've tried to have like. Logical, non-aggressive debates with TERFs in the past and they've just been very unwilling to accept that their view isn't necessarily right. Was it easy for you or did it take a while? You don't have to answer btw.
I think it just sorta hit me that the world really wasnât as simple as radical feminism had told me it was and that I couldnât just continue to ignore, dismiss and invalidate the people who didnât fit into my worldview.
That their experiences were as valid as mine and that the fact that all these people didnât fit into my neat radical feminist worldview maybe wasnât a sign that trans people were bad and in the wrong⊠and that maybe the worldview I had adopted might not be as accurate or generally applicable as I thought it was.
I guess I sorta went âwho am I to decide for other people who they are and what their experiences are?â and then âthe fact that I canât relate to and fully understand an experience isnât equal to said experience not being valid and worthy of respect.â
I looked at all these transgender people who werenât actually hurting anyone and slowly realized that maybe the reason these people didnât fit into my worldview wasnât just because they were wrong and failed to see an undeniable truth, and that maybe it was my ideology which was in the wrong.
With that I realized that while simple answers are nice and easy, in reality humans are far, far too complex to ever fit neatly into two clearly defined boxes - and that maybe I should embrace that complexity and support it instead of trying to force a clearly insufficient and inaccurate ideology onto all these people who are just trying to live their truth.
